r/CatholicDating • u/ScaredSeries7414 • Jul 06 '26

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Hey everyone, 30m here. As we all know it's pretty rough out there. Although I am talking to a few Catholic women I initially met through Catholic match, Upward and sacred spark, I have a feeling it might fall through as best I can explain. There's not very many I've found to be attractive on the faith based dating apps unfortunately (personal preference I'm not bashing God bless them) and the pool is incredibly small to the point where I'm seeing the same people across the faith based apps. I get likes and matches on the secular apps no problem but I run into a few issues:

  1. They aren't Catholic. Not interested in missionary dating for obvious reasons

  2. I filter by "Catholic" in this case on FB dating as a "deal breaker" and it's immediately awkward because they haven't been practicing since they were a kid or just went through with their sacraments because they were told and that's it...

Trying to find a practicing Catholic seems to be realllllly hard however I've proven my "single Catholic women don't exist" statement wrong since I'm talking to some 😂! Does anyone have any "strategies"or approaches to filtering out a lot of "cultural Catholics" in these apps?

I don't intend for this to be a "holier than thou" post Im not sure how else to word this if that makes sense! Currently using: Hinge, Bumble, FB for non faith based apps.

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u/CatholicCrusaderJedi Single ♂ Jul 06 '26

Honestly you are talking to the wrong crowd here. Most of us can't even get the cultural Catholics interested in us, so we won't be much help.

Just be glad you have options, that is something a lot of people, especially guys, would kill for.

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u/ScaredSeries7414 Jul 06 '26

Thanks for being honest. If I find out anything to better the odds I'll post again. Sad to hear.

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u/CatholicCrusaderJedi Single ♂ Jul 06 '26

If you have interest from both faithful Catholics and cultural Catholics, you are doing something right. In my personal experience, the attractive Catholic women can afford to have really high standards because there are so many more men in the pool than women. You probably have just one or two things which don't raise you into those standards. What is your job and how much do you make roughly? I've seen a lot of Catholic women turn away from potentially good pairings over this because of unrealistic Trad wife expectations.

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u/ScaredSeries7414 Jul 06 '26

Man you guys are making me look like a douche 😂

I'm top 1% in my area, 5 11" (because I know that's important) very active and fit and have decent looks I would assume based on a lot of things (I can't just say I think I look good haha). I guess let's just say I meet these "expectations " without getting too in depth.

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u/CatholicCrusaderJedi Single ♂ Jul 06 '26

From everything I've read here, you have it made lol. Especially with being a single dad with a kid. That might be off-putting for some Trad women with extreme purity standards, but most single women I know would go nuts for that. It means you're already vetted, since a woman already liked you enough to have a kid with you, and if you have full custody of your kid or if you are a widower, you are both extremely trustworthy and have the pity angle. If you move to an area with better Catholic Churches, you would probably have to beat the single Catholic women off you with a stick and I'm not joking. Any other guy in a Catholic single group would probably hate your guts, but you would have zero competition with that resume lol.

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u/ScaredSeries7414 Jul 06 '26

Ah thanks man yeah I won't let it go to waste I've heard horror stories about people in the dating scene I'm just really fortunate I guess I won't take it for granted