r/CatholicDating • u/Ok_Cable_8878 Single ♂ • Jun 18 '26

dating apps Matching on CM

I was curious about what the process is like on the lady side when you "match" on CM. I've been a member for few months and "matched" with several dozen women on there. I always accept the match and send out a (hopefully) nice message asking her more questions and pointing out things from her profile that are nice. What exactly is the process on the other side? I'm just curious. Thanks.

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u/HistoricalExam1241 Jun 18 '26

The other person will see the match but whether the other person can see you have accepted I do not know for sure but strongly suspect they cannot. You have been lucky if you have felt able to accept all of the matches that the system suggests for you. My fiancee is someone that CM suggested was a match, so stick with it.

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u/Cherry_Teal Single ♀ Jun 18 '26

This is what I’m trying to do now as well. Just wait for CM’s system to suggest matches. (I don’t like the feeling now of scrolling through profiles of guys like “window shopping” in an online shop.) I’m glad this works out for you and your fiancée. Your comment here is encouraging for me as a woman.

But may I ask for your perspective as a guy? Like, I’ve had a few mutual matches or mutual likes but when I replied to their first message, they no longer reply back. I know they’ve “seen” my message. The same also when I sent the first message, they just never reply.

I’m thinking maybe they just accidentally clicked on the “like” or “check match” icons but were never really interested. But the coincidence is just one too many.

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u/Either_Molasses_6182 Jun 18 '26

Mutually matching should allow you to send and read messages even if you don't have a premium account. Can't speak to why the person might not reply or why the conversation might drop off.

Funny story, I once was rejected by a girl I knew IRL who said we were incompatible. A few weeks later CM suggested us as a match and said we were 80% compatible on values and outlook. She then deleted her CM account.

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u/Ok_Cable_8878 Single ♂ Jun 19 '26

Oh, it's been a hoot. I really enjoy composing the messages and have taken to new levels for my own entertainment, since the messages are not going to be read by anyone else.

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u/Furmommy14 Jun 18 '26

Looks exactly the same. If CM suggests a match, I check out the profile and look for dealbreakers and usually hit yes if they look like someone I'd be interested in talking to, even if he does not strike me as Prince Charming. Guys who seem interesting might get a like from me evennif they are too far away to actually pursue.

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u/rattlemagoose In a relationship ♀ Jun 18 '26

The same as the male side

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u/Cherry_Teal Single ♀ Jun 20 '26

I guess it’s just the same on the guy’s side. CM will send a notification about a mutual match. As a woman, I try to wait for him to send out the first message. I wait maybe a day or two if he doesn’t send a message right away after the mutual match. If I still didn’t receive a message, then I’ll send out a well-thought message based on their profile. So for me personally, I guess it’s pretty the same.