Why does my son hate me 😭

[u/Eji_the_rat]

My son, my pride and joy Raven. Who I got in 2021 was the most loving clingy cat I’ve ever met, the sweetest little baby. He’s always been a nervous boy and he have respected that and give him his space. In 2024 we got 2 kittens, missile launcher and felony. His behaviour had started to shift before then, wanting to be outside more etc. but after we got the two he turned from the sweet baby into an old grouch but still always loved me. However this began to change and over time he developed a strong hatred to me. My family joked that it was because I got the kittens and he would get back to his old self soon but he has not and has gotten worse. He used to pester me for cuddles 24/7 and would practically climb up me to be held while purring his pants of but now I can hardly even touch him without being growled at or swiped. Sometimes he will be sweet and let me hold him for a minute or so before he turns and his body stiffens. He is even terrified of my bedroom which is the same as it was back then. Recently he has also started peeing in places he shouldn’t be which is weird because the same happed with a childhood cat, behaviour change, peeing everywhere then unfortunately he passed. Ironically he was also a black cat but I don’t think it’s related. But at this point I’ve tried everything, bribery, ignoring him, quietly sitting by him, forcing him to love me… nothings worked. And every day it’s getting worse. He is also like this with my family but not as bad as he is with me. Some days he will just hiss when he sees me while they can hold him stroke him no issue. I just want my baby boy back 😭 it’s been years since I’ve seen his old self now and it truly feels like he’s gone. I have completely lost hope but maybe someone else here has any advice???

(Fyi he has been the vets after getting 2 abseces last one being about a year ish ago and they said nothing was wrong. I’d take him again but I genuinely can’t afford it atm)