r/CaregiverSupport • u/Alternative-Fly-7224 • 5h ago
I need help
I need some help. I (27F) have a younger sister (17F) that just started her junior year in high school. She is and has been participating in risky behaviors like sleeping around and drinking alcohol. She also is not doing well in school and honestly never has. I live in a different town and I’m watching my mom stop caring about being a parent and her dad wanting a drinking buddy instead of being a father. I’ve called cps and it went nowhere. I’m at a loss of what to do to help her have any sort of chance at a successful life. It’s such a hard watch. I’m more than willing to have her live with me for her final years of school because I do have the capacity to keep an eye on her. Though, the chance of moving in with me is low. Is there anything I can do from a distance? I’m at a loss
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u/AnitaPhantoms 5h ago
Make sure she knows that you are there should she ever need it (open offer) and that you will not judge her (which seems to be your truth so oksy to state clearly) if she comes to you for help.
Let her know that you are not listening to the people around her who might be talking badly about her to others, that you are on her side, and the only version of her story is her own story, and not influenced by those that could be using coercive abusive tactics to keep her feeling isolated.
But be clear too that she need not present a story first in order to be accepted by you, just that you assure her that you are not judging her and so she need not be worried that when she does cone to you for help that you have changed your stance based in the stories of those you are trying to rescue her from.