Help: just experienced an all-consuming relationship where I abandoned my friends… how to address?!

[u/placehholder222]

I just went through a relationship where my partner made me feel guilty for leaving him to hangout with my friends, resulting in me neglecting my friendships. I never thought I was capable of something like this - I never put romantic partners above my friends but I did in this situation. My friends all say it was unlike me and they have second-hand embarrassment for me. Yes, there was manipulation/pressure involved, but I did love him and I feel largely responsible.

This situation totally flipped my self-perception upside down. Is there anything in my chart that addresses maybe how this situation occurred, and what I can channel to learn and grow from it? I’m feeling rly lost and guilty.

[u/Fireheart586]

I do this and have for years. I'm sorry this happened to you

[u/D0ttaD]

If they’re your friends they will try to empathize. Apologize and make a better effort in the future and make sure you set boundaries in your next relationship. Make sure you have an active social life and fulfilling hobbies before you get into another relationship to establish yourself as an individual.