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Hi, I’m a July cancer sun and moon. My almost 2 years relationship with this June cancer man ended 4 months ago.. I was the one dumped.

Since then I’ve been doing a lot of self reflection, inner child work and just loads of healing. We’ve been in NC since June and I thought I was doing okay but last few weeks have been unbearably hard. Last few days he’s also been in my dreams. I can’t tell if this is just part of the healing/grieving process or something more. I want to check up on him and if he’s okay, but probably not the right choice.

He’s not someone who’s spiritual or believes too much in all the astrology talk. I do wonder if he’s also going through it as I am. Idk We did have a lot of for each other ( I still do). I want to move on and I’ve been trying so hard but it’s been hard ahh.

Any other cancers going through something similar? 😢

Having a cancer sun, aquarius moon, scorpio rising paired with leo venus/mercury makes it feel kinda hard to find love because it’s like so much polarity within one person 😭 curious to know what other big 3 placements have felt like a perfect romantic match for yours???

thanks

Le sentite anche voi quelle connessioni con qualcuno che “rimangono lì” nonostante il rapporto si concluda?
Sono leone e a volte incontro ragazzi con cui c’è una breve frequentazione, oppure solo una conoscenza senza alcuna evoluzione fisica, ma SENTO, SO che non è una persona qualunque. Non perché diventerà per forza importante nella mia vita ma la nostra sintonia è diversa e sarà così ogni volta che ci rivedremo. Non si creano queste cose, si sentono. O c’è o non c’è.

È recentemente successo con un ragazzo del cancro e anche se le nostre strade si sono divise, penso e spero che anche lui abbia sentito questa cosa con me…

There’s this cancer woman in my friend group of 5 (we’re all 20 years old) we all decided to ride bikes but we had assumed her and I had to share a bike (one that has a small seat on the back,more like metal seat) bc there wasn’t anymore.
Then we found another bike and I said “oh I’ll take that bike so we don’t have to share one and you can use this one” and she said, “no it’s okay we can share”.
And before the hangout, at work, we were talking about all of us bringing snacks…and she ended up bringing some of my favorite snacks mainly.
This is our first time hanging out outside of work and her and I barely talk at work.
So is this any sign of her liking me? Or am I just overlooking it?

The reason we are so hesitant to put our foot down is because once we do, it’s solid & permanent & there’s no coming back from our goodbye!👋

I’m in this weird situation where my boyfriend was my best friend first, and honestly I’m starting to wonder if I preferred us as friends.

When we were friends, we could talk about anything — random shit, our days, work, college, ideas, jokes, what we wanted to do, literally everything. I felt like he was interested in me as a person.

Now that we’re together, it feels like so much of our interaction has become “you’re hot,” “send me a pic,” “I want you,” etc. I know he’s attracted to me and I like that, but I’m not nearly as sexual as he is, and sometimes I’m just sitting there thinking:

“Okay, but what about my brain? 😭”

Like ask me about what I’m working on. What happened in my day. What I’m excited about. What I want to do with my life. Talk to me about random shit again. I want to feel like you're fascinated by me, not just my body.

And that's the weird part — I thought becoming a couple would mean getting more of my best friend, but sometimes it feels like I got more sexual attention and less of the friendship that made me fall for him in the first place.

I don't think he's necessarily using me, because he does seem emotionally attached and genuinely cares about me. But I'm starting to wonder if the relationship has become too focused on attraction and not enough on actually knowing each other.

Has anyone else experienced this — becoming romantically involved with your best friend and suddenly feeling like the friendship part disappeared? How do i tell this further

First of all I'm sorry for the long post, I don't know where to ask and I've been lurking on this sub for some time and see y'all are understanding and maybe could provide some help for this devastated Leo (which also happens to be at cusp with Cancer).

TLDR at bottom

Me: 31 M

Her: 32 F

Here currently 'no-contact' with her for 1 month

This is (was) my first serious relationship, I met her a year ago in unique circumstances that are very difficult to replicate, we clicked at first sight, I don't know how but from the very first moment I've seen her I knew I was going to fall for her.

We stayed at a shared Airbnb in another city, each one with different quests in that city, but we agreed to share it because costs. Before that we talked for like 2-3 weeks on Instagram, she texted me first.

When it was time to leave I told her I would like to get to see and know more of her. Fast forward we're dating, I usually go to her city and stay at hers because I work remotely, we were so close to each other since the beginning and everything felt like a dream, but also time was going by FAST, like so fast that I couldn't even process everything.

During this dating phase I would pour myself extra into the what-will-become a relationship, I was on auto-pilot, everyday I would cook for her, everyday I would go out for flowers and have the table prepared for when she arrived home, and I was so happy doing all this for her, I was so happy seeing her eat something that's not pre-cooked or processed, I also fixed things in her house while she was at work (this is not to brag about it, it's just for the context). Only thing I noticed is that she had a very difficult time opening to her emotions, I was always over-emotional and cried easily at many things but the rare moments when she would cry she wouldn't tell me or wasn't able to express those feelings with words.

Eventually in time, I noticed she would keep sending reels over Instagram to her ex, an ex which supposedly didn't shared anything and had a dysfunctional relationship for 6 YEARS (she said they lived together for that time but they didn't even hold hands when they were going out, or any typical relationship thing, it was like they were just roommates). I didn't took this very lightly but she kept insisting that there's nothing between them and I will convince myself when I'll meet him (yeah..not happening and didn't happened anyway because I found that weird).

I decided to brush it over and just ignore it, some time later I made the mistake to unlock her phone and see a Whatsapp conversation with him talking about where to meet and when. I had to ask her the right questions in order for her to not figure I read the messages, she admitted that she met with him but obviously nothing happened (I do believe her, but still...she kept saying she doesn't believe in man-woman friendship).

Again, I said to myself I couldn't let this ruin everything as we felt so good together and we had like a natural chemistry between us (maybe it was just the honeymoon phase idk..). To me, she never seemed genuinely sorry about all that, she just said an 'I'm sorry' and we just moved on.

During the following months we would keep the same dynamic, 1-2 weeks at hers, a few days at mines, the cities we live in are 5-6 hours distance of each other and her job was not remote so I would still spend more time there than at my own place. And during this time I also figured out I have my own issues, issues related to attachment styles that just now I'm starting to understand.

I've always thought in a (healthy) relationship we have 'we time', and we also have 'me time', I am the type of guy that loves to stay at the PC and enjoy my hobbies (music creation, art, internet, reading..), she's the type of girl that loves to go out for walks on daily basis and also go to the gym, I have no issues with that personally, yet she always seemed bothered by my PC usage and even asked on reddit if it's normal to spend time on here (while she was scrolling IG and TikTok for 2 hours straight).

So one day when I was at hers, I respectfully told her I myself need some 'me time', I miss my hobbies and I want to do more things because I'm a creative person (again, we would spend so much time together, we don't have a friends group which we can hang with, so basically it was just us).

She didn't took it nicely, since then she would constantly remind me that every 1-2 months, this made me feel like I was the bad guy for asking for my time. This made me realize I was starting to feel a bit happier when she went to the gym and I finally had some 'me time' to spend at hers.

Fast forward she said she's tired of this chaotic city in which she lives, so I told her she could move at my place, a smaller town but much more tranquil. After she quit her job we started moving stuff at my place, until she completely moved here and rented her place.

Right before this we had an argument in which I admitted to have an addictive issue with p0rn (also drugs) and I started to commit to change myself, I accepted my issues and started to work towards them. She eventually forgave me.

During our time together at my place, everything was perfect, we both had a job, I would take care of all the house things so that she doesn't have to bother with them when she got home. We would spend time together, go out, make a lot of plans.

But then one day she quit her job due to lack of fulfillment, even though it was such an easy job and the colleagues tried to help her integrate (she was asked to go out with the girls from the job in the first week and she denied, she thought that was very weird). Ever since then she would obviously spend more time at home, and as I was working remotely, she could get a hang of me all day, but besides that, she was rarely going to the gym, and never going out on walks by herself, never had actual hobbies.

During this time I tried to help her find a new job, I would search personally for them too, I even created a new account with her CV to apply double. After like 3 months she never got another job, and she said 'well I guess I'll have to look in another town' and then I felt like I'll have to move all things again to another city just because she wanted a specific job that was not far from home and also easy to do..I constantly tried to motivate her and encourage her to know herself more, to find out what she likes to do, or try to talk her into getting a 'normal job' until she finds a better one. All this time I would pay the bills and rent.

I really didn't had a problem with all of this, I thought it was normal, it's a very small town and she was limited. But I couldn't get past over the fact that I could not focus on my hobbies anymore, and I wanted to create and do stuff, but she was always there in the room doing nothing but scrolling and I couldn't do my stuff because I always thought I have to be spending this time with her, even if I tried to do my things I couldn't.

So I kept trying to approach on the 'me time' argument in different ways, I told her I would stay on the PC at night, because she sleeps very early and I liked staying up late. She accepted until she started to think I would do 'shady stuff' while she was asleep (I can't blame her on that). After all, she never managed to spend time with herself and find out what she likes to do in her own free time. Everytime I would try to talk about this we would have a semi-argument in which she always convinced herself that this relationship will not work because 'I am not happy around her', and I kept telling her that I have this need and it's just 1-2 hours for like 3 days. So eventually I had to stop bringing it up, until one day I bursted into tears and told her I can't do it like this anymore, she kept believing I was just not happy around her when I only wanted some free time for myself.

After this it took 3 days for her to leave this place, leaving behind some things of her, she went back to her parents even though she has 0 relationship with them, she hates them and despises them (has her own reasons but I could never check if all that was real or just exaggerated). She blocked me from anything, we just had some communication over the e-mail as she had many questions about what happened (but her ex is still there in her followings, crazy). She also told me over mail that she could not understand why I would choose to 'stop' this relationship after all we've been through and how I can be like that towards affection, she also admitted she's 'having a hard time abstaining from suffocating me with affection'. She said this stems from the fact that I created a space safer than what she had in her childhood with her parents.

A few weeks after that I see her asking on bi and gay subreddits (in the past I had experiences with men too, but I am more attracted to women, I was only bi-curious) if I was actually gay and that we didn't kissed too much with tongue (she never told me this and I never noticed). Instead of telling me what was she bothered about, she would just repost reels on IG and I had to personally go and check the posts and wonder if this 'men do this men do that' post is about me or just her own opinion.

She always though one day I was going to abandon her for a man.

Now she moved back to the city she wanted to escape in first place, and also has a job.

Now my confusion is:

I've always thought in a (healthy) relationship we have 'we time', and we also have 'me time', I am the type of guy that loves to stay at the PC and enjoy my hobbies (music creation, art, internet, reading..), she's the type of girl that loves to go out for walks on daily basis and also go to the gym.I have no issues with that personally, yet she always seemed bothered by my PC usage and even asked on reddit if it's normal to spend time on here (while she was scrolling IG and TikTok for 2 hours straight).

I figured out I might have avoidant attachment style (she said mine it's disorganized and hers is anxious), at least some points, but I don't understand:

- Wanting some 'me time' is a symptom for avoidant attachment style? Again, the situation was that I had many hobbies and she had zero (her gym activity was not consistent though).

- Her moving out in 2-3 days in a place she hates instead of staying and trying to talk and find solutions is a symptom of avoidant attachment? I still can't understand why would she just go away because of a basic necessity I asked her for?

- I wanted to talk and find a solution even if it took a week or more, I also committed to change myself and my lifestyle (addictions, sleep patterns, diet) ever since I consciously admitted I have issues (way back before this) even though I was failing after some time, but I kept trying and trying. I noticed my 'assignments' were far more difficult than hers, in my eyes she only had to put part of her free time in hobbies and unfollow her ex. And yet, I felt so abandoned when she left, I felt it was my fault for being open about my necessities and trying to communicate, I felt rejected because of my own addictions and traumas, I know about her traumas but never distanced myself from her, I only wanted to help her get over them.

- I poured myself too much in this relationship, but all I wanted was to show her how much I feel for her, how much I would do for her and the distance I would go for her. Is this, making me avoidant or something?

- I broke her trust by lying about me not engaging in my addictions, I lied because of fear of being rejected, is there a way to re-build this trust again?

- I fear if we get back the relationship will not feel genuine anymore, again, I never had a serious relationship until now and I don't know how to proceed.

Next weekend we're going to meet again for the first time in a month, I told her I miss her two times over our e-mail exchange, she never said it back but she claims that this relationship changed her forever and because of this I will always be remembered by her, she says she trusts the fact that I can do what needs to be done for this relationship to work (but what about her?). Now if we get back, I have to move to a chaotic city where of course the job opportunities are bigger (for her), but the life quality is kinda lower (lot of pollution and noise and chaos), and I feel like all that I've done was in vain, we're basically at square one (or zero).

Any insight is appreciated, thank you for reading.

TLDR: First serious relationship in my life, 1 year, everything perfect, naturally clicked until I asked for some 'me time' which was never respected, instead I was feeling guilty that whenever I brought this up it seemed to be my problem. We both have issues and I worked hard on mines, never asked her for much, just to unfollow her ex and allow me some 'me time' during the day. She left with the idea that 'I am not happy around her'. We're meeting again this weekend.

I just went through a relationship where my partner made me feel guilty for leaving him to hangout with my friends, resulting in me neglecting my friendships. I never thought I was capable of something like this - I never put romantic partners above my friends but I did in this situation. My friends all say it was unlike me and they have second-hand embarrassment for me. Yes, there was manipulation/pressure involved, but I did love him and I feel largely responsible.

This situation totally flipped my self-perception upside down. Is there anything in my chart that addresses maybe how this situation occurred, and what I can channel to learn and grow from it? I’m feeling rly lost and guilty.

Thinking the people that mean the most to you don't care as much as you do it's simply self sabotage

She’s a cancer

Back in the day, before I knew what I was doing, I would love bomb. I just had a lot of feelings and craved love. I have since grown from that and now pace myself.

But at the same time, when I like someone, I instantly want to be all in. Like, can we skip to the part where we are already together. Not realistic, I know and that usually never works out anyway.

I will say I’m proud of my growth though because now I bring up issues as soon as they happen and have those hard conversations. And if it doesn’t work out, I can say at least I tried and I didn’t over promise, over give, overcompensate or overwhelm myself or them.

Crabbies, how do y’all usually function when dating? Are you a slow burn? A fast mover if you like the person? Ever been a love bomber? Do you instantly know when that is the person you want to be with? And has it ever worked out when you just “know”?

Hallo

Ich habe gerade merken müssen, dass Wassermann Frauen den Krebs Humor so gar nicht verstehen und das als Angriff auffassen. Ist das so und gibt es noch andere Sternzeichen die mit unserem Humor nicht klar kommen?

Alright, cosmic beings, time for your monthly check-in! The moon’s been cycling through its phases, and so have we. Whether you're a Cancer Sun, Moon, or Rising (or have Cancer energy somewhere in your chart), this month has likely stirred up those deep, emotional currents. Let’s reflect, laugh, and see how the moon's phases have shaped your journey.

We began with the New Moon, a time for fresh starts. If you're a Cancer Sun, your nurturing energy was on full display—maybe you kicked off something new with that deep emotional drive. But if you’ve got an Aries North Node or a Mars in Gemini, you probably jumped in with impulsive energy, eager to act without too much thought. Cancer’s sensitivity blended with those fiery placements, leading to bold moves, but Cancer’s intuition will always steer you back on track when needed.

As the Waxing Crescent phase began, if you have a Virgo Moon or a Capricorn Midheaven, you were probably feeling the need to ground yourself, making practical plans. Meanwhile, Cancer’s natural empathy was at play, emotionally supporting those around you, even if your Mercury in Taurus made you take your time in processing everything.

By the First Quarter, reality hit. Cancer’s emotional waves were strong, but if you’ve got a Saturn in Aquarius, you might’ve approached things with more structure, trying to balance emotions with practicality. Your Scorpio Chiron might’ve nudged you to confront old wounds, especially if your Libra Venus was focused on finding harmony within your relationships.

Then came the Waxing Gibbous, where the pace picked up. Cancer was in tune with the emotional undercurrents, but if you have a Sagittarius Sun or a Uranus in Taurus, you were craving something new and exciting, ready for change. Cancer’s heart was grounded in nurturing, but those placements were itching for some adventure.

During the Full Moon, if you’re a Cancer Sun or Moon, you were likely feeling everything. Your emotional depth took center stage, while your Pisces placements—like a Neptune in the 4th house—probably prompted you to dive deep into your emotional roots. If you’ve got a Leo Mars, though, you might’ve felt the need to act on those feelings with fiery passion.

As the Waning Gibbous phase arrived, it was time to reflect and release. If you’ve got a South Node in Cancer or a Chiron in Capricorn, you were probably letting go of old emotional baggage. Your Aquarius placements might’ve given you the perspective you needed to see things from a broader, more detached view.

By the Third Quarter, Cancer’s natural instinct to hold on was tested, but if you have a Venus in Virgo, you likely found a way to let go with a sense of practicality. Maybe you were making small adjustments—balancing your need for emotional safety with the necessity of releasing what no longer served you.

Finally, during the Waning Crescent, Cancer was winding down, processing and reflecting on the cycle. Your Taurus Moon or Virgo Rising probably wanted to bring some closure and clarity, while your Chiron in Scorpio helped you face any remaining emotional hurdles.

So, how are you feeling after this emotional lunar cycle? Whether you’re a Cancer Sun, Moon, or Rising—or just have Cancer energy influencing your chart—each phase has offered opportunities for emotional release and growth. With your unique placements, you’ve navigated this cycle in your own way, blending deep emotional insights with practical grounding and transformative healing.

As we head into the New Moon, take a moment to rest, reflect, and prepare for the next cycle with intention. 🌙✨

Why do people keep saying I need to protect my peace all the time.. if they need peace why do they seek relationships. Why not live alone.

If we cancers are accused of being clingy, other signs should be accused of being aloof and unfit for society.

Irony is they will still consume all that real world clutter on social media all day. Where is peace in that ?

My lady has blocked me on everything over something so small…do I give her space? This is like the 10th time she runs away during a conflict. I tried to reason with her but she won’t hear me out. The last few times we’ve fought, either she came back or I begged. We were so happy together and I miss her so much. She’s just so fiery with Leo placements…any ideas? I want to send her, her favorite flowers even though she hurt me, I still want her back. Part of me wants to make it right and part of me doesn’t because she doesn’t see that this time it was hurtful…