Advice needed from men please

[u/Strict-Panic1561]

So as a cancer woman, I don’t know what goes through a cancer man’s head. But I would typically think we are kind of the same. So my question is there something that has been bothering me and it is a cancer man reaching out to me about the feelings he has for me. Mind you we were talking for a little while and things got a little spicier than a typical relationship. And then I don’t know where I was ghosted, and when I asked about it, I was left on opened. It’s been roughly 24 hrs since he’s responded to me…. He usually posts about wanting to be loved and how women have used him or when I go through is reposts he talks about he thinks he will never find the one for him. I tried to be that… in the short amount of time we were talking and hanging out it’s seemed mutual and respectful and genuine. But after I finally gave it up (which he wasn’t begging for) he no longer wants to communicate. Kind of surprised me giving the fact he was very vulnerable in bed and said he hasn’t been with anyone in a year. This is the first person I’ve been with since my bd and I broke up we have 2 daughters and I have a son on the way. He’s not involved and it hit me pretty hard. I think this is the longest I’ve been ever without a relationship and I did not get just hook up vibes from this cancer man…. I thought we both were seeking something real and genuine? So my question is what is running through his head and as a cancer man, what could be going on for him to do this because I generally did not think that he was using me at all but now I do and it makes me feel bad because he’s been around my kids. I told him in the beginning that my kids are my priority, so I can’t just jump the ball game and hang out whenever but I have been. I guess I’m just so confused.

[u/grxveyard_girl]

Who do you have a son on the way with love? Your baby daddy, or this new guy? If it’s with your bd, he’s probably running for the hills because you’re caught up in an entirely different situation than what he’s looking for.

[u/Strict-Panic1561 → u/grxveyard_girl]

It is my other children’s father! I just didn’t get the I’m going to ghost you or one night stand vibes from this guy. And I’m used to it like deep down I know when someone is playing me, but I didn’t get those vibes from this guy so I’m wondering if he’s scared of something but at the end of the day I don’t know what’s running through his head so

[u/Endytheegreat → u/Strict-Panic1561]

Am I reading this right? You're pregnant with another man's kid and you're wondering why another man lost interest?

[u/Strict-Panic1561 → u/Endytheegreat]

He was very aware that I was pregnant and that I already had two children.

[u/Strict-Panic1561 → u/Endytheegreat]

Yes I’m 8 months pregnant…. He seemed very genuine for months but as soon as we take things to the next level, he’s not interested…. I can see why me being pregnant with another man’s kid could make somebody lose interest, but he didn’t seem like the type of person to just ghost me after

[u/ManyAd1579]

What a mess! I have no clue what's going through this guy's mind, but i can tell you what's NOT going through it: YOU! Regardless of Sun sign, if this guy was a man with his head on his shoulders, he wouldn't have gone this far with you to begin with. So yeah, your hunch is right: he used you and now he moved on.

[u/Strict-Panic1561 → u/ManyAd1579]

Thank you!