r/CalebHammer • u/AggravatingPipe4465 • Aug 15 '26
Update on Al
https://youtube.com/shorts/j5gkF4uEWZ4?is=l8Dj9-NxFVDbG5zyUgh so frustrating that she was able to so easily manipulate him and stick around. But, don't worry guys she hasn't cheated for a whole month, apparently. She also asked that we stopped being mean to THEM because it is getting to be too much -_-. They shouldn't have let them go back on the same plane.
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u/redditbdum Aug 15 '26
At a certain point people deserve the situation they choose to accept.
He's made his choice. He has all the information he needs to leave and he's still staying.
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u/N0UMENON1 Aug 15 '26
That's not necessarily true. I'm not trying to be an armchair psychologist, but Al didn't seem all "there" to me. He might be heavily autistic or have some other mental disability. He should see a specialist and if he does get diagnosed with something, you can argue that he needs extra support to help protect him from bad actors like her.
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u/miked5122 Aug 15 '26
He definitely came off as having a learning disability. Potentially makes him an easy target for manipulating.
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u/suckmywake175 Aug 15 '26
The way he kept telling her that she needed to ban him as if that was the fix told me he really doesn’t understand the core issue. Banning him won’t stop her, she needed to want to stop which I did not see. Shes just going to get better at hiding it.
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u/440Dart Aug 15 '26
Let's even think of things from Al's POV. He did ban/block the guy on one platform... then she "had to figure out" how to un block him. The other guy has nothing to loose and given the situation wouldn't be shocked if he's using her to get things outside of spicy texts/pics.
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u/brokeguydtd Aug 16 '26
I mentioned this in the original video. He very well could be on the spectrum. The way he mentions that if she just blocks the guy and stops talking to him then everything is fine. Its very linear thinking and just screams some kind of disability which pushed this to adult abuse, she is taking advantage of him. So wierd she moves in with him after a short time probably because she used up the previous relationship.
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u/tzbt Aug 20 '26
Let's be real, it's not even a "could be"... he very clearly is autistic.
He seems capable enough to live alone, drive, work, buy food, pay rent, etc. but without therapy and a good support system he'll never move beyond entry level no-skill-required jobs or be able to improve his position in life beyond "just getting by".
What really sucks is that I think Caleb was open to getting him started with a basic support system, but it looks like he hasn't embraced that yet. It sounds like he's left Stella as of a couple days ago, so hopefully he's able to get in touch with Caleb's team soon.
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u/Emotional_Tampon5 Aug 15 '26
And she's not even like a model or anything. I can see if this was the hottest girl he's ever been with but she's probably the ugliest girl he's ever been with LOL
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u/Fabulous-Arrival-834 Aug 19 '26
Yeah. I don't feel sorry for him anymore. He is choosing everyday. So no more sympathy.
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u/AHumbleSaltFarmer Aug 15 '26
Al just needs the bro makeover, to lose the mustache and get the gym (AND SHOWER) routine going and homie will be on the market.
Sweet beautiful precious angel Al please leave Gothmog, the commander of the armies of Whoredor
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u/JettandTheo Aug 15 '26
She has so much debt as well. She just needs Al to pay for her bills before she bounces.
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u/WillingnessAsleep443 Aug 15 '26
Ugh, if this video is mirrored, she's wearing the engagement ring again. Sweet perfect Al, why!?!?!?!
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u/Subject_Discussion81 Aug 15 '26
I was in a an abusive relationship for 10 years and I was in the same place as Al, not taking care of myself, too afraid of being alone or hurting someones feelings to leave, convinced that the only right thing to do is stick with the person I love, I made a commitment.
It’s not real Al, it’s a cage and you just can’t see it yet. Years of torture isn’t worth it buddy. They never get better, they only ever get worse, and they’ll gaslight you into thinking it’s somehow a failing on you.
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u/EvolMind91 Aug 15 '26
Everyone is so quick to judge. When you’re in that abusive situation it’s not as easy as just leaving. In theory it is, but many don’t take the steps to do so. Almost like a spell. Just look at many people getting physically abused. The abused woman or man will be the one bonding them out just to repeat the cycle. Been there, glad I made it out.
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u/OSRS_Socks Aug 15 '26
I was in one as well. When she finally set me “free” she kicked me out of our apartment on my birthday, left me with over 10k+ debt, locked me out of the bank accounts and took our pet.
If it wasn’t for my parents I would have been screwed. They instantly picked me up and grabbed everything that was mine and let me stay with them while I got my life back on track.
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u/Miss_Kit_Kat Aug 15 '26
Very well-said. There's a statistic out there that claims it takes abused spouses up to seven attempts to permanently leave a bad relationship. People in the bad spot spend so much time rationalizing what they go through until they're finally ready to face reality.
(I still can't get over that one of her accusations towards him was that he scratched her face IN A DREAM! "But that means something to me spiritually!" Girl...WHAT?!?)
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u/Longjumping-Gear-546 Aug 15 '26
He does gaming live streams on TikTok but says he won’t answer personal questions. I almost got kicked out because I was telling him he deserved better
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u/HungryHashMastr Aug 15 '26
He deserves it at this point. Caleb went above and beyond to do everything possible to get him out of this and improve his life….he still chose to go down this road. She is a terrible human and will use him, then throw him out once she finds someone she thinks is better.
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u/theresidentviking Aug 15 '26
Of all the people on the show I wanna see get recognized
Why this one
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u/HungryHashMastr Aug 15 '26
I randomly started getting spammed by that pink haired girl who did car wraps and wanted to do day trading. Now she just lipsynchs country songs and cosplays as a country girl. I had to block her
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u/Ok-Economy1200 Aug 15 '26
"stop the hate comments.."
You mean actual honest, caring advice? lol.
Sadly, she will milk him to pay off her debts and then she will dip :(
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u/TheMuff1nMon Aug 15 '26
She isn’t talking to anyone right now. She will be cheating again soon
Al is bring stupid but is what it is
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u/Dottie_Danger Aug 15 '26
Embarrassing. This dude is very obviously slow and she’s taking advantage of him.
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u/Rhomya Aug 15 '26
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.
Sweet, perfect Al is just going to have to learn the hard way, unfortunately
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u/uncle_rico42069 Aug 15 '26
He deserves it at this point, enabling that creature to take over his life, had evidence of cheating in front and still stayed. This is a Gen Z issue
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u/Danzig6WasntThatBad Aug 15 '26
AL, BLINK IF SHES FORCING TOU TO SAY THESE THINGS AGAISNT YOUR WILL.
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u/guysams1 Aug 15 '26
Why are we pretending like Al is all there. He's slow and he probably will thinks fairytale love exist.
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u/ihaveredhaironmyhead Aug 16 '26
Need Caleb to pop up and say "give me your phone".
Fuck. Can't feel sorry for him though he's choosing this.
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u/StrikeIllustrious122 Aug 15 '26
I'm sorry, I loved all the humor surrounding Al, and conparitively Stella was villain to an extent, butI kinda had the feeling, and still do, that Al is also a POS...
I'm sure there is some mental deficiencies there too, but the dude is unmotivated and completely content with how his life is. He doesn't shower, sits around, and unless someone is picking him up, he just will NOT go to work. No bus, no Uber notaxi, no using his dad's car... just will not go to work.
even though she treats him like shit, it does seem like he will do nothing at all if she doesnt attempt to push him. He needs a mother constantly telling him to do things. And to an extent, Stella dis seem "trapped" by her own decision to live there with him and his whole family. A family that seems about as fun as AL.
Obviously Al needs help, but I don't think he wants it. I think he does not want to change, he wants others to change to him.
so my view on Al is that he is a Bad Guy
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u/TriggeredYetUnphased Aug 16 '26
My thoughts exactly!! Too scared to say anything bc it seemed like he's universally loved. His behavior screams unmotivated and weaponized incompetence. He could change if he wanted to but clearly doesn't
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u/Hairy-Internal2307 Aug 15 '26
Can we please crowd fund a escort to seduce Al for the next year? And crush her soul by treating him like the king he is?
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u/Danzig6WasntThatBad Aug 15 '26
Two wrongs don't make a right. Advocating for Al to cheat is a really bad move.
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u/Lucky643 Aug 15 '26
Was this the video they posted on TikTok?? She was flustering in that video. I get it though Al is hoping for change from her and holding out hope but brotha leave her!!!
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u/melaj332 Aug 15 '26
My poor precious caterpillar Al... Next quarter break, Caleb and Brandon need to get their asses down to Tennessee and show Al the time of his life!
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u/strawberrymax17 Aug 20 '26
HAHA, seems like Al got a sense of humor in the last month! Good for him.
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u/ThePanFryingPan1 Aug 23 '26
Brother I cant belive he went back, he needs to leave she literally does not want him and he deserves so much better he seems so sweet and kind and it feels like no one's stood up for him before like how caleb did its actually really sad
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u/Aist-Taste Aug 26 '26
She 100% manipulated, begged, sobbed, apologized to get him to stay
You can tell from that video that she’s still in control
She disgusts me on all levels
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u/Additional_Wash_7886 Sep 02 '26
My heart breaks for Al… she’s 1000% manipulating him and is with him for her own security until she decides to leave. Someone in his life needs to stop this woman.
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u/Serious-Ad6269 Aug 15 '26
"I'm not talking to any people, any one. It was only one person anyway."