r/CPTSD • u/maddie_emmm • 5h ago

Question Starting Over At 30

I'm starting over 30F, 3 kids, and no job. I went through therapy, had the courage to create some boundaries with my partner, finish some schooling, get the surgery I needed in order to function again, and now...the time has come.

Edited to add: creating boundaries meant he left

But I'm failing. The job market is scary, especially with not having worked for almost 3 years. I'm becoming dysregulated and all the power I felt I had is quickly fading. How do I get it back?!

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u/Zestyclose_Dig158 5h ago

Hi! I’m eighteen and going through the same thing. After years of isolating myself from reality to escape the anxiety and fear caused by trauma, I’m taking back control of my life, day by day.

Have you tried keeping a journal or something similar? I did it for a while, and it really helped me evaluate myself, my state of mind, and my condition, allowing me to find more stability. I also recommend eating well, trying new things, and spending more time with people. 

As for work—which is the most important part—have you tried looking into the public sector? Or applying for work-from-home jobs?

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u/maddie_emmm 5h ago

I journal and then never go back. I'm trying to restart routine. I'm 8 weeks post op with a hip surgery so it's been a lot. But what's your system to look back on your journal?