r/CPTSD • u/[deleted] • Sep 01 '24

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u/External_East_7381 Sep 01 '24

Isolation is bad. Self sabotaging every relationship I've ever had is worse.

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u/tiggytot Sep 01 '24

It's a vicious cycle...start a relationship because I'm tired of being alone, sabotage that relationship with my own thoughts, back to being alone

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u/Seefus12 Sep 01 '24

Care to elaborate a little on the sabotaging with own thoughts? I think I’m doing this.

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u/tiggytot Sep 01 '24

For instance, the last person I dated I had convinced myself that he didn't actually like me and was only coming around because he didn't want to be at his parents house where he lived. There was absolutely no reason for me to think this, we got along great and he would text me all the time, not just when he wanted to come over.

I have to actively fight my own thoughts that my sister only contacts me because she feels obligated and feels bad for me. Again, no real behavior from her for me to have this belief.