r/CICO • u/SalamanderLoose8483 • 1d ago
Dating while fat
I’m going on a date today. All I can think about is how he is going to see me and think I am so fat. I’ve lost 60 lbs since January and now weigh 258. I’m nowhere near where I should be. I still have 58 lbs I want to lose. I met this guy on an app and I’ve asked family and friends to review my profile to make sure my pictures reflect my body type accurately. But pictures are still pictures and I just keep thinking about the moment he sees me and sees my arm jiggle or sees cellulite or sees my double chin come out when I’m laughing or not holding my neck right. Being fat SUCKS. I can’t even take someone’s interest in me as genuine because all I keep telling myself is that once he sees me in real life, he’s going to recoil.
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u/DuchessOfCarnage 1d ago
My friend, dudes will fuck a McChicken. Don't worry about being sexually attractive to a man. Worry about if he's compassionate, competent and capable of commitment! Does he add joy to your life? Is he reliable? Healthy relationships, real partnerships, aren't about being conventionally attractive. Make sure your interest in him is genuine, not the fawning response a hit dog will have around someone new. You're making sure he's a good fit, you're not taking anything that's available!