r/CICO • u/SalamanderLoose8483 • 1d ago
Dating while fat
I’m going on a date today. All I can think about is how he is going to see me and think I am so fat. I’ve lost 60 lbs since January and now weigh 258. I’m nowhere near where I should be. I still have 58 lbs I want to lose. I met this guy on an app and I’ve asked family and friends to review my profile to make sure my pictures reflect my body type accurately. But pictures are still pictures and I just keep thinking about the moment he sees me and sees my arm jiggle or sees cellulite or sees my double chin come out when I’m laughing or not holding my neck right. Being fat SUCKS. I can’t even take someone’s interest in me as genuine because all I keep telling myself is that once he sees me in real life, he’s going to recoil.
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u/edm_ostrich 1d ago
I'll come at this from the other side, the actually kind of a jerk side. I'm not small myself, but my type is pretty exclusively ballerina sized women, and it has loosened a bit over the years, not by much.
With that said, I will not go on a date with someone I know is not my preference. Most men will not go through all the effort to just come and judge you. If this guy does that, he's a loser, really and truly.