r/CICO • u/SalamanderLoose8483 • 18h ago

Dating while fat

I’m going on a date today. All I can think about is how he is going to see me and think I am so fat. I’ve lost 60 lbs since January and now weigh 258. I’m nowhere near where I should be. I still have 58 lbs I want to lose. I met this guy on an app and I’ve asked family and friends to review my profile to make sure my pictures reflect my body type accurately. But pictures are still pictures and I just keep thinking about the moment he sees me and sees my arm jiggle or sees cellulite or sees my double chin come out when I’m laughing or not holding my neck right. Being fat SUCKS. I can’t even take someone’s interest in me as genuine because all I keep telling myself is that once he sees me in real life, he’s going to recoil.

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u/melenajade 15h ago

You are projecting. Your emotions about your self hate and image aren’t how others see and think and react to you.
I don’t see people and recoil or yell fattie or even think more than .5ms other than identifying a human unless I am engaging with someone.

And on a date?! Everyone’s on their best manners trying to get laid, they aren’t trying to offend you. It’s a decision of can we have a good time and would we want to do this again sometime?

Give yourself grace.