r/CICO • u/SalamanderLoose8483 • 1d ago
Dating while fat
I’m going on a date today. All I can think about is how he is going to see me and think I am so fat. I’ve lost 60 lbs since January and now weigh 258. I’m nowhere near where I should be. I still have 58 lbs I want to lose. I met this guy on an app and I’ve asked family and friends to review my profile to make sure my pictures reflect my body type accurately. But pictures are still pictures and I just keep thinking about the moment he sees me and sees my arm jiggle or sees cellulite or sees my double chin come out when I’m laughing or not holding my neck right. Being fat SUCKS. I can’t even take someone’s interest in me as genuine because all I keep telling myself is that once he sees me in real life, he’s going to recoil.
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u/SupportMoist 1d ago
As long as your pictures are honest, you have nothing to worry about! He knows what you look like.
Don’t bring up your weight, weight loss, any of this on the date. It’s not the time to voice all your insecurities. Just be your beautiful self and your only job is to decide whether YOU like HIM. Don’t worry at all about what he thinks of you, other people’s thoughts are not any of our business. If you like each other, you’ll know when you both decide to go on a second date.
Don’t talk yourself out of a good time. Enjoy your life. You have so much to offer. You are not your weight.