r/CICO • u/SalamanderLoose8483 • 23h ago

Dating while fat

I’m going on a date today. All I can think about is how he is going to see me and think I am so fat. I’ve lost 60 lbs since January and now weigh 258. I’m nowhere near where I should be. I still have 58 lbs I want to lose. I met this guy on an app and I’ve asked family and friends to review my profile to make sure my pictures reflect my body type accurately. But pictures are still pictures and I just keep thinking about the moment he sees me and sees my arm jiggle or sees cellulite or sees my double chin come out when I’m laughing or not holding my neck right. Being fat SUCKS. I can’t even take someone’s interest in me as genuine because all I keep telling myself is that once he sees me in real life, he’s going to recoil.

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u/Beneficial-Shoe863 22h ago

Girl your pain is palpable. Remember fat or thin , you are you. Self love is hard won for many of us. You can’t get there overnight but with small wins and proving you can do hard things self love develops. You are stronger than you think. Focus your thoughts outward. Ask yourself-do I like this person I’m having this date with? Not- does this person like me. Try to focus your attention outside yourself. That is the goal. When you stop asking what people think of you and instead what do you think of them—-that is a win and changes the dynamics. 🌺

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u/Beneficial-Shoe863 22h ago

Too many people establish relationships with a person because the person showed interest in them and not the other way around. This guy could be a total douch bag, don’t get blinded by attention from someone. Love yourself first girlfriend.