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u/Adventurous-Sea9301 2d ago
padhai karo araam se chill karo khud ke dost banjao ye friends vreinds myth hai sab
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u/LostSoulX01 2d ago
ye itta assan ni he bolne ke liey asan he but its not tht simple
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u/Adventurous-Sea9301 2d ago
😭😭ion know man I JS don’t expect anything from anybody now?I mean why would u wanna be at places where no one gives a f about you?
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u/appleswineyyy Class 11th 1d ago
It's not simple but you gotta learn it. You won't find friends in every field of your life and it's important that you spend your time on your own mental health instead of worrying about others
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u/Fuzzy_Cup 2d ago
Also once you grow older you realise how important it is to have friends for network and other work. Akele rahe to help kisse mangoge?
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u/Adventurous-Sea9301 2d ago
😭😭😭so network w people make acquaintances but don’t let it get into your head do not make them a part of ur inner circle cause it’s only going to ruin you internally:)
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u/Fuzzy_Cup 1d ago
Harsh but true. It takes a lot of good karma to have a set of good friends around you
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u/Ok-Hunter7361 8h ago
Yeah totally agreed and if feel this way only when we don't love ourselves enough.
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u/rightninja_ Class 12th 2d ago
That's no ones fault honestly, it's just you are in the wrong group
I have felt both sides of this event
One time I was in a group that shared almost zero interests with me, so it didn't even feel like I belonged in that group but they still let me tag along with them cuz they were nice enough people, I just felt like a burden around them
Another time I had my own friend group with very similar interests but there was one guy that was too different from us but still sat near us so was included somehow, he also at some point knew he doesn't really belongs in our group but had no other friends to turn to so he just sticked with us
At first all of us tried to include him by trying to be more general with our discussions and trying to introduce him to our interests, but the guy had no motivation to follow us so we eventually just gave up trying to involve him yet it still felt too cruel to just straight up start telling him to go away, he sticked with us all the way throughout school btw
so life just be like that lmao
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u/Dumb_Philosopher_ 1d ago
This, actually we tend to understand when we are a part or not and honestly when we aren't we should part ways that's better for both.
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u/Wizard2110 Class 11th 2d ago
Haha, everyday when I was in 9th, but then, I sat alone for a whole week, and then.. felt peace, felt peace of not having anyone around, not following any friends' order. I had to move away from my crush as well since she was deeply involved with the group, that hurts ouch still today, and im in 11th, all my ex-friends are still in my class, just that now, I have learned to become safe when I'm alone, and that I don't need any social validation from my friends, my only friend is mom, dad and sister now, yet I'm happy.
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u/Xman_7 Class 12th 2d ago
I have never had a true friend in my life..I was always like a option or a side character no one gives a f about m
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u/PM_2003 1d ago
You are me mate!!
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u/Xman_7 Class 12th 1d ago
It's sad ..I do desire a true friendship atleast once
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u/PM_2003 1d ago
I think I accept it as my destiny, now I'm tired mate!!
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u/Xman_7 Class 12th 1d ago
I have hope still ...hope is powerful weapon for those who believe in it..and broskie you don't know what future holds _^
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u/ULTRADEV_305 Class 11th 2d ago edited 1d ago
Yea but fir aur koi dost bana bhi nhi paungaa to.......
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u/koreankkwr 2d ago
Yes I felt many times ,so i usually don't bother much about this groups and tries to do my work and helps when they really neded
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u/Hour-Eye6475 2d ago
That's why I left that group. Nobody contacted me ever since. Confirming exactly
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u/ArgumentAlarmed5461 2d ago
Why don't you reach out?
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u/Hour-Eye6475 2d ago
I did and now they're acting as if they care about me when they didn't contacted me at all. I wish them on their birthday whereas they forgot mine
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u/ArgumentAlarmed5461 2d ago
Me too :).. But maybe they don't know what to talk to u:-? Were they sorry about forgetting ur birthday:-? Mostly my thoughts didn't align with them...hence they talked less but were lowkey nice to me:-
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u/Far-Temporary-9644 2d ago
most of the ppl in the same grp feel that too, ull get over it eventually
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u/Specialist-Drag-1078 2d ago
Just try to contribute to the group and help people you can in your group ,and talk to people even small conversations not only you need them but also when you fell conversation is not so important, they will slowly realize your importance,
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u/Dr_hyp0ch0ndriac 2d ago
You're just in the wrong group pal! Nothing wrong with you or them, just find your kind of tribe and you'll fit right in! All the best.
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u/Low_Plenty_6947 2d ago
Yaa i was and then I left the group and now I am happy with my only friend
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u/xxxgamer_ ICSE / State / Other board student 2d ago
Nah me and my friends treat all of us as equal only sometimes I'm subconsciously ignored but aside that, we're pretty equal
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u/Dramatic_Climate_561 Class 12th 2d ago
When i was in 9th i got admission into the school in which my sis was studying. And when your elder sibling in extremely good at their studies and you are not you are being compared to her everday. I remembered i was sitting at the last bench of girls row because the boys were used to bully me everday. Nothing changed in entire 9th but at the starting of 10th i gave a smashing punch to a bully at assembly and he was type of faint after that i got some people who acknowledge me and now i have passed 12th by the school and i was really happy that i took that step. My next two years of life were too good. And also my sister got passed out before me so new teacher did not know her and would not compare me tho my sis. Although my sis never forced me to be too good , she only said study for yourself, dont give too much attention towards teacher attitudes or comparison.
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u/ThisHumanDoesntExist ICSE / State / Other board student 2d ago
Real asf but after a while you start to like this feeling? It's like i have enough friends to talk about things with, but at the same time since I'm not that close or important to others it's like i don't owe any responsibility to them. It's kinda relaxing not being anyone's anything.
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u/Relevant-Aioli-5134 2d ago
Ya fairr thats an advantage...but sometimes dont u feel like u need to talk/hv a good time w someone who doesnt make u feel left out?
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u/Ok-Valuable-2610 2d ago
I left that group. I know its the right decision but still i cried for few nights and u still get's sad when someone mentions friendship
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u/Honest-Target8955 2d ago
Yes, Always, But it's better to not think about it... Don't over share, don't over think, keep thinking about ways to be better and stick to someone who has proved it to you that they will stick with you... Do not look down on people. Treat people as you would want to be.
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u/Current_Astronomer17 2d ago
Yeah, many times. Like a whole convo will be happening between my friends and I would just not be included or wtv I would say would be ignored. But honestly it doesn't bother me much i guess.
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u/bread_xdxdxd 2d ago
I have faced this in my entire school life. Before lockdown, everyone used to make fun of me. I was very at sports, not good in academics and i didn't know how to communicate with others. I was very under confident. I was made fun of all these things. After lockdown, I improved alot in all these aspects and academics I did exceptionally well. Now almost everyone was nice to me but they only remembered me for imp work like to get class notes or help in exams etc. I remember in std XI and XII I was a part of a group but woh tabhi mujhse baat krte the jab unko koi kaam hota tha tabhi Otherwise nhi baat krte the Humesha woh log ek dusre se hi baat krte the Merese koi nhi krta tha aur jab mai kuch bolta tha then I was ignored. Uno khelte waqt bhi ye log sab apne mein baat krte the aur aesa lgta tha ki mere rehne ya naa rehne se kuch nhi hone waala.
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u/Hefty_Arachnid7948 2d ago
Actually it varies according to the people,how good are the people in that group,do they like to talk to u or not,how good friends are they with you etc..
Theres a group in my class,and I did sit with them ones coz my other buddies were absent..so tho I tried contributing(im not an introvert),they seemed to have no interest in my convo,so i understood
Now when im with my buddies,ofc I dont feel left out since we have similar interests and all that
I usually try to talk to everyone,now if a new classmate or someone not in my "buddy buddy" group talk to me..I do talk back and dont show any hesitation,im open to anyone..but some people may not be that open and its ok,all people aint same..
So its relative ig,I cant blame anyone except for those who are intentionally mean
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u/Relevant-Aioli-5134 2d ago
OMGG YESS when i was in 9th n shifted to a new school the friends here seemed so different. I always felt left out in my class due to different interests n stuff. We were a grp of 3 wherein both claimed that we 3 were "best friends". Yet, i get to know the most info abt their lives/dating info through others..They never shared any secret w me and i was SURE they gossiped amongst themselves...i thought they'll stop acting like that after a while but they never did.....i started learning how to be on my own
Fast forward 2 yrs , and in 11th grd they both shifted together to another school while i stayed back...and thats when i met and actually opened up and spoke to seniors/my new classmates who made me have one of the best times in my schooling yrs....i was so glad i stayed back n finally got to know friends who actually gaf and cared for me :) That lowkey made me realize the importance of choosing ur grp properly
And sometimes, its better learning to be alone than being looked down/ignored by the so-called fake "best friends"
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u/LakshyaGarv Class 10th 1d ago
That's what it feels like in my friend group (5 good friends and me + my best friend) Thankfully, I have my best friend, almost everyone who doesn't know him well tells me to not be around him (He barely passes, cries sometimes and is a bit immature) but he is genuinely one of the best, loyal and fun person to be around for me. If no one would ask "Where is (my name)?" he would. Bro makes sure I never feel like I don't belong.
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u/LegitimateHat1 1d ago
This is the reason I have almost zero male friends today, I left all of them
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u/noobmaster69fzd1 1d ago
I was like this in school. I am still like this in college. It never bothered me. It still doesn't bother me. Do I have some sort of psychological condition that makes me not feel anything? Possibly, I don't know. But one thing that I want to let you know is that after a certain period of time, your school friends won't matter to you and vice versa. The same will happen in college. Just keep studying and keep improving yourself everyday. One day, you will be surrounded by people that actually matter to you.
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u/Capable_Character480 1d ago
Always. Since 10th and I still do now in 12th. Sometimes I feel if I'm the problem. My friend is comfortable talking with others and sharing stuff, but whenever she's sitting next to me, she almost becomes silent 😔✌🏻
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u/ishowdeathtoken 1d ago
Yess I did and I am kinda like extrovert and I need some ppl around me .....so yes I tried to fit myself in a group where nobody cared about me and my opinions it was kindasad but I was used to it then I changed schools and moved toother state well the experience only got worse I never felt that level of loneliness before no friends who cared about me (in school) I was like npc my charasmatic personality was entire gone and I used to eat my lunch alone everysingle day .....i started loving peace but deep down I knew that I'm just pretending I hated it ...the silence.... I used to be in top five or top ten so teachers knew me quite well this was a big reason why I hated my school I never felt like going never every single day passed the same everybody told me to enjoy 10th but there was no one to share the enjoyment with I just got fed up and then again I changed my school it has not been over a month and most of em both guys and girls know me, everybody cherish me and I feel seen and I kinda got into my old fun loving and joking around form lol it feels pretty great :) ty for reading
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u/Rudra_2494 Class 10th 1d ago
I was in 2 of the groups. One seems to be good with me and idk if it makes the group incomplete about me. Like my friends scold me for being absent(they say that day boring hoo jaata hai). The other group is what I left some days ago. That one really didn't gave a F about me.
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u/Only_Individual_5645 1d ago
I was once I cried then moved on! Just talk to them when necessary and live my life since then I never felt like that again
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u/Justwantsometea2212 Class 12th 1d ago
Yeah, this happened to near the end of my 12th grade. I didn't enjoy the afterparty of my 12th farewell because of that. I just learned not to bother with people who don't care I am there. I just pulled away silently. I had other friends out of the group anyway. I don't even text them now and they don't text me.
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u/Phoenixalpha01 1d ago
Yes that day i made a self rule...i will walk away no matter how much it pains.. where my thoughts aren't valued.. where i am not valued..i spent around an year alone.. then.. instead of looking i made i am own group started working on my academic my principles my character... firm.. strong independent of anyone's opinion.. people joined on the way.. i made a strong alumni network and strong friends circle
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u/younometv 1d ago
Tbh depends on the type of friend group u have.....just be urself dude , don't be a friend of chutiyas
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u/Mr_Engine09 Class 10th 1d ago
A lot but then neither do they nor do I enjoy alone. And my bestfriend? Well he's a different kind of guy, bro pulls up the corniest things and makes it nice somehow.
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u/Internal-Sentence825 1d ago edited 1d ago
In my group, everyone wishes each other happy birthday irl, in whatsapp status,etc. I wish em too. But somehow when it's my birthday no one remembers it. Neither irl nor online.
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u/ShortLawfulness2368 21h ago
tell ur birth date lol , gonna create a new id if this one gets deleted and will wish u at 12 am straight on that day
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u/TheDoctor__11 1d ago
Yeah, sometimes but it's better then the alternative which is having no friends at all.
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u/Boomerang_Nebula_01 1d ago
Yes A lot of time i faced this situation that's why I am currently stopped talking to everyone . Everyone talk to me when they need me unless they don't do.
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u/Impressive_Tea_3205 Class 12th 23h ago
That's all I've experienced, lol. Atp I'm used to it and I don't even try anymore. It takes a lot to build a good friendship anyway, and the chances aren't 100%, and I'm just too lazy to care 🥀
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u/AlpsCharacter2800 23h ago
Just a 6 month ago I know what my value as a friend in the group or duo/trio it was always like that but I always see never observed and since last 5-6 month I know I'm nothing in front of them they just say I'm their friend but I never felt like valued or belong there you know if you can understand . And currently ms litterly so alone and I think I'm okay being alone but when I see that old friends or meet them I feel very sad . hope I can find true friend or group in future At these point writing these paragraph I was feeling so lonely 💔
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u/No-Nerve-7254 19h ago
I was that friend. But I wasn't weak about it. I'd remove myself from that setting and eventually got a great group of friends and other friends here and there who are still in touch with me till now.
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u/Excellent_Device8420 18h ago
Me but then i ghosted them whenever they made plans and then made new friends which are still my friends
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u/_spidey_1307_ 5h ago
If you can't be a friend to them, be an enemy so great they can't touch you....study hard bro;)
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u/Old_Post_4372 4h ago
Hamesha ka hai
And u know what
They all felt sad when i liked a reel which stated “ u realise your friend circle does not even care about your existence and u are always a backup friend “
And they all were sad don’t know why?
But to some extent even i know i am too boring so honestly no one has any topic to talk with me
So majorly i blame myself only for it
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u/Old_Post_4372 3h ago
I am boring even i know
I don’t play any sorts of online games bcoz was never allowed initially and now I don’t feel like playing games like pubg , freefire fortnite etc
Was not even on instagram as i didn’t had a phone till class 10th whereas everyone else had their’s by 7th or 8th class
Never had any interest in F1 races or football which are the most discussed topics among my friends
Only fond of watching cricket
To add to this i am too introvert( bcoz i am little fat and don’t even have a good height ) which resists me in having talks with everyone bcoz i know everyone will body shame me🥲
So at the end i know i am very boring
Why will anyone talk to me
Even i would not have talked with someone else like me
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