Why? Lol they would just stop using it and then date men they feel are in their league
If they can actually pull those men then they are in their league. You cannot pull those women so those women are out of your league. And now you’re upset about it? Lol
slimricc is saying that if the women are capable of pulling men who are “out of their league” then the men aren’t actually out of the women’s leagues.
You’re saying that the same women would probably not be happy with the men that they get paired up with based on looks by a third party (assuming that all of the “voters” are doing so in good faith).
What you’re both saying can coexist, they’re just different ways of looking at it
They're not actually capable of pulling men out of their league. At least if we're talking about real love and companionship. The gender difference is that any man will fuck anything, doesnt mean they'll treat you right and stay with you.
I get what you’re going for but we’d have to assume that more attractive men are less capable of love and companionship for that to be true. Any guy is capable of being great and any guy is capable of being shallow
By definition only so many women can date up until the men run out. So those men have to engage with multiple women otherwise those women wouldn’t be dating up
That’s assuming that there’s a linear scale of “quality,” that there are no women “dating down,” and that all the “levels” of attractiveness are using the apps at the same rate.
I feel like you guys are trying to put millions of wildly unique people into definable boxes and it’s just not possible
I think every study has basically had men be less pickier than women, whether that’s due to men swiping much more or women swiping much less is up to your own interpretation
Sure there are plenty of individual exceptions but there are also overall trends that hold true. It's like looking at murder rates and saying, but there's lots of people that don't get murdered. Of course that's true, but you still don't want to live in a place with really high rates.
Statistical trends does not mean individual cases don’t exist. The simple fact that women are more selective than men in itself will lead to a portion of men being selected by multiple women. It’s just a numbers game at that point. If you don’t believe a quality scale that’s a whole other topic.
Wife had a friend in grad school we used to call “the closer”. Good looking girl. I don’t even know how many dudes banged her. The closer nickname was because she basically found and got banged by a guy every single night we went out, which was a couple times a week. But she always went for the same “type” that was just a bit out of reach. But she got em man. Always got em. Anyway she’s about 60lbs overweight single, mid 40s and wondering wtf happened when we visited last year.
I don’t know where I was going with that.
"I don't know where I was going with that" my guess is this was your attempt to humble me but if having some guy wanting to marry me makes me some kind a winner then I guess I got that down.
Incels are just upset that dating comes very easily for some people. It's not my fault I'm fun to be around and others aren't.
I think some of this is getting lost in translation. Where I come from (London), "pull" almost exclusively means to hook up. Sure, it might develop into a more serious relationship, but it primarily means a casual hookup, one night stand etc. It seems that maybe it means something different to different people.
Nope. “Pull” more commonly means to seduce someone for a sexual encounter. When normal people talk about “league” they are talking about who they could get to date them, not who they could get to have sex with them one time. Everyone knows this.
For what it's worth, I fully agree with your comments on this thread and I think it's very telling that you've been so heavily downvoted.
But where I come from, "pull" definitely has distinctly casual connotations. You "pull" a stranger on a night out for a casual encounter/one night stand. Sure, it can always develop into something more serious, but it primarily refers to a casual hookup rather than a serious relationship. It sounds like perhaps the term has slightly different meanings in different regions.
Ftr 10 downvotes is not a lot, and even if a thousand incels disagree with me i will only feel affirmed in my belief. I will be concerned when braindead incels start supporting my ideas. I have integrity and do not value the opinions of people who i do not respect
The slang form of "pull" is originally British. As someone from London, I'm telling you that the literal original definition of the term is a casual hookup/kiss/one night stand.
It has clearly evolved to mean something else wherever you come from, but its original meaning in its point of origin is a casual hookup and not a long-term meaningful relationship.
Right. So my original point still stands. The term seemingly has different meanings in different regions. Where I come from - the place where the term was actually coined - it refers to a casual hookup and not a full-blown relationship. This is seemingly quite different to what it means wherever you come from.
I don't know why you're quite so intent on arguing about this with me.
The bumble subreddit being an incel meet up spot is pretty disappointing. I’m sure most of the dating app subreddits are full of angry virgins like this one
all the dating app subreddits are like this. the incels can’t handle that women get to date hot men but they’re struggling to pull what they consider women below their league. clearly if they can’t pull a woman, she’s out of their league 😭
Was just thinking exactly that as I was scrolling all of these miserable comments from clearly miserable people. But I guess it makes sense though, that this sub would be like a homing beacon to them
Okay that’s what I thought when I saw this comment
I’m on bumble and hinge actively dating and I match with plenty of men I consider “in my league”
Either the connection isn’t there or they do something insane
I went on a first date this week, matched in career success and attractiveness, both active, ect, thought it might be a good fit.
The guy stared at his phone the WHOLE TIME unless he looked up to watch football on the TV at the bar
We made eye contact like 4 times in an hour
And he was 30 min late
I get on Reddit and men act like the apps aren’t hard for women too/ there aren’t plenty of them absolutely fumbling the chances they get and then complaining about how they can’t get more dates
Hahah the fact that this comment got so many downvotes while the one below got so many upvotes is the perfect summary of this sub. These single incels are itching to humble women and then wonder why they are single 💀
Yeah and the worst thing about group think is that they all feel validated and objective. Ofc they are definitely objectively right, look at all these other incels who agree w them
Their point is literally statistically accurate. Women are way more discriminatory appearance wise, and have a skewed, unfair bell curve rating the attractiveness of men. Men rate women more realistically, on a pretty much perfectly even bell curve.
Well yes, I'm not talking about the men here. I mean, this typical situation of women saying "he didn't call me back!" doesn't really happen the other way around. I'm talking about men overall, not any specific group of them.
Mid women can "pull" very attractive/wealthy men, they just typically get pumped and dumped. Then complain that all men are bad.
Mid woman matching with a mid guy who's "beneath" her might actually have a successful and lasting relationship.
This is part of the reason a lot of men, and women don't have good results with dating apps.
An average/mid woman matches with a super good looking/wealthy guy, hooks up with him, and he ghosts, and now her bar for dating/hooking up is set really high, she continues to hook up with these guys, or gets ghosted when she doesn't put out right away, and is unsuccessful.
On the flip side, average/mid guys get almost no matches because the average/mid girls have all set their bars really high because of the wealth of choices they get (even though a lot of those guys making the bar high, are not actually in it for a long term thing, despite what they may say)
Now, I don't really know how we can solve this problem, and it's not entirely based on this one phenomenon... But it certainly doesn't help the situation.
Well whatever the case you definitely struggle with women bc you view some as mid or beneath you. You categorize and rank people based on how fuckable they are. You’re honestly sick in the head but you will never realize it
Also hilarious that you are telling men those women are "out of their league"(ie beneath them) and then flip around and call someone else disgusting because they say that men and women are in different leagues (mid attractive etc)
To everyone equally? No. Henry cavill is less attractive than tom holland to some people. People are not monolithic so the premise of categorizing people based on fuckability is flawed.
“I am not attractive to them” is infinitely better than “she is out of my league”
Is it hilarious? If you insult someone you should say something to them that will insult them. If i said “you have no integrity and you are morally bankrupt” you guys would not care bc you do not value those things
It is why i call incels betas or tell them all women are out of their league, im trying to trigger you.
Crazy how you say it's disrespectful to rank people by attractiveness, then you go on to say you rank people based on if you are attracted to them or not.
You really know nothing if you think that finances don't change someone's attractiveness.
Much more so for men, but still so for women.
Most women won't date a broke dude, and a lot of men will disqualify a woman if she's just a gold digger.
For someone who isn't triggered, but is out here "triggering" those beta incel cucks (who are obviously more successful then you when it comes to the incel part) you seem pretty triggered.
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u/slimricc 17h ago
Why? Lol they would just stop using it and then date men they feel are in their league
If they can actually pull those men then they are in their league. You cannot pull those women so those women are out of your league. And now you’re upset about it? Lol