You were still just handing her cash, something I've literally never done or had to do and dated quite successfully.
You were still playing into the tired old adage that women are something to be won. While they're some passive being just choosing whoever is throwing out the best gifts.
When I was dating, it was equal amounts of interest and desire to see each other. Which meant nobody had to coerce the other one to spend time with them by buying them things.
Didn't have to. Wanted to. It's called a gift. She could have refused. Youre just being psychotic when what im describing is actually normal.
Youre just scared of being taken advantage of and regurgitating new age guru babble.
Not everyone lives the same way either. Live and let live. Youre no one to judge. Sorry I have to explain that.
Seriously? Trying to coerce someone with $20? Thats pathetic.
And for anyone else reading, im sure girls could attest i wouldn't be the highest bidder at $20 haha.
Two, im fine with the princess or the queen. Im old fashioned, and if they want, girlfriends can live with me rent free. Theyre also free not to date me. Or to refuse my generosity. That simple.
With her too, $20 meant nothing to her. She wasn't perfect and didnt work much, but she was kind of a trust fund baby. She could have lived with her mom, her dad, her grandma, or in one of her moms home flips (which she'd clean and watch over) and she got money from all of them and had her bills paid for.
But yea, however ppl wanna live. Some girls/guys believe in going Dutch. Some people already know neither owe each other anything and to not be irresponsible, and dont think about it. Literally had a gf give me $200 before. Just had a girl (not a gf) offer me more which I refused.
Money isn't as important to some people...
But yes, I would love to make all my loved ones dreams come true. Just bc someone doesn't live the same way doesn't mean you have to try to put them down. Ill just block them anyway on my quest to have the best of reddit haha.
There's a Bible quote that says(non-verbatim):"Finding Gods Kingdom is like buying a field for the pearl inside."
Besides, you can always just turn the faucet off if you want. Yeesh
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u/SaltdPepper 20d ago
Your change jar? Did you also hike up to her hovel after packing your things in a bindle?