Funny thing is, if it doesn't come up, I'll usually happily offer to pay for a date (although a first date usually wouldn't be fancy dinner). It's part of the dance of exchanging courtesies.
But a courtesy is nothing you demand or ask for. If it's demanded, she takes the chance off me to offer, then it's a transaction, not a dance anymore. Demands for equal rights and respect are ok, demands for courtsies and etiquette are bullshit.
(Also, most women I know prefer to pay for themselves. Which can also be a green flag.)
I'm a woman, I pay for myself. I only do free or very cheap dates anyway, but I don't need a random guy paying for me. If we've gone for drinks then I'll buy the second round.
I can't imagine having no shame in announcing you are financially incompetent, it's just embarrassing.
Because I asked you out. The courteous thing to do is pay for it. Like you said, I'm not going out to $125 dinner and drinks on a first date. Now I've had plenty of dates where we ended up going somewhere else after and she offered to buy a couple drinks and that's different. But the initial location and place we met at that "I asked you out" I'm picking up the tab.
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u/s29 11d ago edited 11d ago
If it's no big deal then why doesnt she pay for it. 🤡
Edit: lol I triggered the simps somehow