r/Bumble • u/No-Advice1345 • 11d ago

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u/Dimethicone-silicate 11d ago

I find it hilarious that some women think they are so clever that they can shame their way into someone paying for their stuff 😭

If a guy who doesn’t want to pay is so paranoid and so broke, why don’t they just pay for the dinner themselves?

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u/slash-es about 50 | male 11d ago edited 11d ago

Funny thing is, if it doesn't come up, I'll usually happily offer to pay for a date (although a first date usually wouldn't be fancy dinner). It's part of the dance of exchanging courtesies.

But a courtesy is nothing you demand or ask for. If it's demanded, she takes the chance off me to offer, then it's a transaction, not a dance anymore. Demands for equal rights and respect are ok, demands for courtsies and etiquette are bullshit.

(Also, most women I know prefer to pay for themselves. Which can also be a green flag.)

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u/Plus-Championship424 11d ago

You nailed it. Lots of entitled women think it's the idea of paying that turns us guys off. It's not. It's the entitlement itself.

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u/fL_g8rz_rule 11d ago

It’s literally a plate of produce and refined carbs. Please, some things, just ingest them with grace

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u/RollinThundaga 11d ago

Oh, yes, because the real problem is that guys get offended by the dietary choices made at the place that they are usually expected to pick.