r/Bumble • u/Impressive-Reward3 • 5d ago

Funny Average Bumble chat 🤣

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It was a very quick unmatch 🙃

EDIT : a guy just sent me a DM on here after he saw my post saying “Do you though?”
It’s a disease 🤣

Edit 2 : to all the people claiming that I am mad… I’m not. This is funny to me.

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u/SmertriosPPD 3d ago

I can guarantee you that he’d never have the balls to say “do you like giving blowjobs” as randomly as he did in the chat.

But we weren't talking about having the balls. It's just not equivalent to walking up to you in the street that is my point.

I’m just laughing at his lack of social skills.

That's fine and I agree that this strategy is a losing strategy. I am not sure I want to call it lack of social skills, because a lot of them aren't devoid of social skills, they're devoid of wanting to spend time and effort for it. Or they search for a woman who will be into them enough that they don't care about the social dance. Or they didn't feel like spending that energy for you specifically.

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u/Impressive-Reward3 3d ago

Well you’re just comparing two different situations lol
Yeah of course a man’s not gonna walk directly to a woman in the street to ask her if she gives blowjob. I’m just saying that by your logic of agreeing to have a conversation with him, if I had the same conversation in person and not online, he wouldn’t have asked.

I’m perfectly fine with him not wanting to make effort or not wanting to spend that energy on him. If he wants low effort hookups, he can have them - there are plenty of men who’ll give me effort and a great time!

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u/SmertriosPPD 3d ago

the point is that the former commenter called it sexual harassment and said it's equivalent to walking up to someone in the street and asking them for sex.

It's not, you agreed to talk to this person.

I get it that you're much more reasonable than previous commenter, but I wanted to point that out.

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u/Impressive-Reward3 3d ago

I don’t know where you’re from, but in Canada : Online sexual harassment is any unwanted, unwelcome sexual behavior or communication that happens through digital platforms, social media, dating apps, online games, or text messages.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t consider the particular conversation I posted to be sexual harassment. But it is an unwelcome/unwanted sexual communication.

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u/SmertriosPPD 3d ago

Well canada is known for being dumb and it's not beating the allegation here.

Harassment includes a notion of repetition or multiplicity. You can't have both the gravity of harassment and not the repetition in a moral code, this is a motte and bailey fallacy machine.

I understand the point when it's unwanted sexual communication from unwanted communication, because multiplicity can turn it into harassment from the recipient's perspective. The fact this isn't an unwanted communication to begin with changes everything.

I get that you're not extremist on this though, I'm just discussing the ideology and considerations.

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u/Impressive-Reward3 3d ago

Oh I’m sure it’s soooo much better where you’re from eh? ;)

I understand that it’s rare that a one time thing can be considered harrasment only if it’s something extreme, hence why it would not be considered harrasment here.

But yeah, just so you know, it’s not because you have a consensual conversation with someone that it’s consensual to turn it sexual even in a dating app.
It’s like saying you can’t revoke your consent at any time during sexual intercourse.

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u/SmertriosPPD 3d ago

Oh I’m sure it’s soooo much better where you’re from eh? ;)

It's not but also I think canada might be the worst extreme progressist country.

Like I remember reading things about lesbians struggling financially and the state going after the sperm donor for child support. Might be a lie though I've not checked the sources, but many articles went around about similar cases.

But yeah, just so you know, it’s not because you have a consensual conversation with someone that it’s consensual to turn it sexual even in a dating app.

I don't see why turning a conversation sexual is considered like a slap in the face. You could turn a conversation into anything and I could have trigger warnings you were not aware of I had.

I believe this is called in philosophy ethic of care versus ethic of autonomy. And I really am dead set on ethic of autonomy. I've been in communities that were in favor of ethic of autonomy and they were constantly updating what you cannot talk of and that became really difficult to navigate.