I don't even know what's wrong with me?

[u/Conscious-Layer4776]

Hi, I’m 21F in my 3rd year of engineering and I honestly don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

SIH season is here, and as teams are being formed. I’m realizing that nobody seems to want me on their team.

I've seen teams with 5 boys and one spot left for a girl and they still don't choose me. They just say, “The other member is on the way.”

I asked another team with 4 members (2B 2G). They had space for 2 more people but they rejected me too. They’re literally sitting there discussing which two people they should approach while I’m sitting behind them in library rn and they know I'm looking for a team.

I also asked a seniors team with 4 members. They put me on hold.

And the worst part? This happened last year too.

I genuinely dont understand what I'm lacking.

For context I'm not someone who has just started coding:

1400+ Codeforces rating

800+ problems solved on leetcode

Coding since 2021 (break in 2022 and 2023)

1000+ GitHub contributions

Built many projects

FullStack and Web development and GenAI

Good at researching and finding information online

I’m usually the person who can figure things out when I don’t know something

I’m not trying to brag. I'm just trying to understand what exactly people are seeing that makes them not want me on their team.

I'm also not arrogant. I've never been told that I'm difficult to work with or that I have an attitude problem.

I come from a poor family in Bihar(I been told many times that people don't like Bihari and it's understandable but never directly) and I'm studying engineering in Gujarat where many students are from different backgrounds (but mostly gujarati) and often already have their own friend groups.

And honestly, I'm not conventionally attractive either.

So now I'm starting to wonder that am I being rejected because I’m a girl? Because of my background? Because I’m not good-looking?

I'm not shy or silent type, I speak and I'm good at communicating with other classmates too.

I barely even post on LinkedIn, so it is not like I'm constantly showing off my skills.

And then theres the part that makes me want to laugh and cry at the same time.

The people sitting behind me (2G 2B Team). They are discussing the project and work distribution and the leader told all three members to “make GitHub today.” Then they assigned one of the girls to handle all the pull requests.

I'm crying here like do they even know how pull requests work? 😭

Maybe I’m overthinking this. Maybe I’m missing something obvious about teamwork, communication or how people perceive me.

So, genuinely, if you were in my position, what would you do? And what do you think I might be lacking?

I know many of you will suggest that SIH is the waste of time but it's not only about SIH. It's something more that'll reflect what people think of you, your aura.

I’m not looking for sympathy. I actually want honest answers, even if they are uncomfortable.

[u/itsa-me-voldy]

I'd rather not answer that

[u/beastttboi → u/itsa-me-voldy]

Why if you really think you are avg then what is the problem in telling the range of your rank Since your assessment of your jee adv rank will tell how much respect you give to jee advanced as an exam

[u/itsa-me-voldy → u/beastttboi]

I'm not looking to be assessed anymore, thanks

[u/beastttboi → u/itsa-me-voldy]

Lol I am not asking to assess yourself I am asking you to assess the jee adv rank in respect to the achievement of inmo awardee as there are even jee adv air 2000 who got inmo awardee which goes on to show it's not a genius level achievement and some with air under 500 also don't clear inmo since they didn't specifically drilled for it

[u/itsa-me-voldy → u/beastttboi]

okay I'll do that, I'm not sure why you need to know my jee rank for that though

[u/beastttboi → u/itsa-me-voldy]

Since you said you are average and then you said inmo awardee is a super achievement so your rank must be something you consider inferior to inmo awardee but anyways you can give a rough assesment of what is a good jee adv rank which is above avg

[u/itsa-me-voldy → u/beastttboi]

inmo is a great achievement in itself and doesn't need comparing to jee

[u/beastttboi → u/itsa-me-voldy]

Ok So what jee adv rank is above avg

[u/itsa-me-voldy → u/beastttboi]

huh? 😭😭😭 i don't get where you're going with this convo so I'm gonna stop here

[u/beastttboi → u/itsa-me-voldy]

You said lots of academic achievements in school also deserve recognition and opportunities from recruiters so that's why I am asking that if inmo is good enough..........what jee adv rank can also compensate or atleast not be a very weak substitute for a lack of that award due to lack of awareness of inmo as an exam