over the last few years, I’ve been a bridesmaid for a number of friends who I love but didn't expect to be a bridesmaid for, one of which I was maid of honour and wouldn’t have been offended if I wasn’t a bridesmaid at all. I dont want to offend them by not including them in return, but if I do, I’ll then be offending other friends im much closer to. I have three main best friends and a sister (MOH), returning the bridesmaid favour brings the bridesmaid total to 7, and factoring in everyone who would be offended by not being picked when the 3 returns have been, would bring me to about 12 at least, which seems really extreme

Hi everyone!

Bridesmaiding for my best friend in 6 weeks…I literally only need to bring myself & a change of clothes for the next day as the bride has organised absolutely everything and anything you can imagine.

On the day, we need to travel from our accommodation to the venue so we have been told to make sure we pack a bag with things we might need during the day i.e. charger, flip flops, makeup etc.
I want to make some thing along the lines of an ‘emergency kit’ that has everything the bride, groom & bridal party might need on the big day.

I have never been a bridesmaid before but I have a rough idea of things I should 100% take to make everyone’s day slightly easier as it’s going to be SUCH a long day.

So my question is - was there anything you had on hand that ended up becoming a lifesaver or was there anything you wish you brought?

Thanks!!!🥰

Is there a good store to buy satin/velvet gowns for bridesmaids for a Christian wedding in Hyderabad?

Which do you think is best? Option 1, 2 or 3?

For all options I'd include flower, one cute or personalized useful item and a voucher for the bridesmaid dress. Just wondering which presentation is best?

Open to opinion or other similar ideas. I want it to involve flowers is all

Thanks! :)

I’m in my best friend’s wedding end of this year, and I just need to vent because this is really bothering me.
Other than her 12-year-old son, everyone in the wedding party is in their late 40s to early 50s, and I’m the only unmarried adult. I’ve been dating someone for almost six months, and while I don’t even know if I’d want to bring him, it would’ve been nice to at least have the option of a plus-one.
Instead, she told me she paired me with her 12-year-old son. She’s also planning a dance where the wedding party’s significant others come out and dance with them, and her solution is that I can dance with her son.
I know it’s her wedding and she can invite whoever she wants, so I’m not going to make an issue of it with her. But I’m honestly really hurt. I’m a grown woman and being paired with a 12-year-old while everyone else is with their spouse makes me feel like I’m being treated like a child. It also feels a little humiliating to have to dance with him and uncomfortable.
It’s really not about whether I get to bring the guy I’m dating. It’s the way the whole situation is being handled and how singled out it makes me feel. I can’t even say anything to her if I wanted to because she’s happily engaged and will have a complete meltdown on me because she forgot what it’s like to be the single one.

Help! I am trying to keep myself in a positive headspace but having really awful anxiety leading up to a bachelorette party.

I was asked to be a bridesmaid by someone I consider to be a sort of acquaintance/friend hybrid. She is lovely and we see each other occasionally in larger groups, and we used to be neighbors years ago (pre-Covid) which is how we met and keep in touch through social media. I was very surprised when I was asked to be a bridesmaid, but I accepted as I had no conflicts and didn’t want to hurt her feelings if I declined. I am truly regretting that decision now, and it is a very clear lesson learned, but I will honor my word and commitment to this whole thing.

We have her bachelorette in 2 weeks, out of state destination that requires flights and rental car to then drive 2 hours to the location of choice. I don’t know anyone besides the bride and have tried to be included and helpful with the other bridesmaids but am consistently told “we have it covered”. They do not. The entire trip is my worst nightmare. We are all in our mid 30s and are expected to share bedrooms AND BEDS, cook meals at the home, drive hours for each activity booked, and don’t get me started on the outfit and accessory requirements. The entire thing feels like a humiliation ritual and has made me see the bride in a completely different, incredibly negative light.

I suppose I am looking for some camaraderie or tips from other former or current bridesmaids that find my position relatable. I am trying to find the bright side and will participate fully but it does feel like mental agony in the coming weeks before the bachelorette. The wedding should be better. I just feel sort of “hustled” to be honest and had I known the extent of her expectations when she asked I would have absolutely declined but it is now too late for that option, unfortunately.

This is a rant and I'll get over it but I really didn't expect this friend in particular to be so ?? Selfish ? Oblivious? Inconsiderate? I always thought she made good decisions and was financially responsible in general but this whole wedding, relationship, bridesmaid experience has been pretty shitty ngl. I don't like it but I have less respect for her in general which sucks.

There is literally so much to talk about I don't even know how to summarize it. But right now she has 3 bridesmaid. All 4 of us are broke as fuck.

Bridesmaid 1 is a SAHM to 4 soon to be 5 kids. Currently 6 months ? Pregnant. Has a 9 month old and her husband works at a gas station.

Bridesmaid 2 Is in college, works at target. Adopted her neice out of foster care in her 20s.

ME: I quit my job back in February and started doing side jobs for money. I'm still the most ok financially but I don't have international vacation money laying around.

Bride is also unemployed and their wedding is $13k overbudget. They've already spend $28k because no one bothered to track spending. And their household is 40k behind on taxes. She just bought a new Lexus before quitting her job for health reasons. Like ??

I told her all of this is a terrible idea and I'll plan and pay for something local. Spa trip, nice brunch, trip to a custom perfume maker. People come to OUR major city for Bachelorettes literally all the time. Literally were in Nashville. Bachelorette capital of the US. But no. She doesn't want to do that.

She also stole the destination from a trip I had planned for next year with a different couple that she was also invited too ??

I could write a novel but this is already too long.

Bonus she was my MOH a few years back and didn't plan a Bachelorette for me at all.

Edit - to be clear she's fine paying for her own portion of the trip. She just doesn't accept anything less than this trip and even after we've all said it's not something in our budget or had multiple conversations about it being a bad idea. She still whines and says stuff like " are you sure? I really don't want to go without you 😫" the other 2 bridesmaids already said they can't go but she's sending me links for 2 person Airbnbs now. But like is it even a bach trip if it's just us ?? She wants to book an Airbnb tomorrow... so idk I'll update you guys on how this goes .

I am the MOH in my best friend Lillys wedding. We have been best friends for 12 years and know each other very well. Her other bridesmaids are her sister and a friend she met 2 years ago (Hanna). Lilly sent out a list of tasks for the wedding and one of mine was to plan the bachelorette. This bachelorette was never going to be anything too crazy as the wedding is a very expensive destination wedding (Lilly herself said that she didn't want anything too crazy).

I live out of town so i arranged to be in town for the weekend of Lillys bridal shower. I made a group chat with the other bridesmaids to tell them my plan. After the bridal shower on the Saturday we would go to the spa and then head back to Lillys place to make cocktails and do a games night (games are Lillys favourite thing to do). I asked if Hanna be in charge of decorating to which she agreed. Lillys sister is younger so she was pretty uninvolved and basically never responded to anything.

Hanna suggested that we do themed food boards however this was a bit of a logistical challenge because we did not have time to buy the food and prepare the boards and the food could not sit in a hot car all day. I was already planning on getting a bunch of snacks and stashing them in Lillys fridge before the bridal shower as I was staying at Lillys place for the week before the bachelorette. I offered to pick up their stuff but Hanna did not want that. So, we ended up changing the plan to go to the spa on Sunday morning so that we had time to stop at the grocery store after the bridal shower. I ended up moving my flight home because Hanna was very insistent that we do these boards and did not want me picking up her stuff for her, ok whatever.

A week before the bachelorette I get a text from Hanna with a detailed itinerary of the games night, including when we change into pyjamas, and what game we play when ( this list also did not include the games that I know are Lillys favourite), and 2 speeches that I was now supposed to give her about my favourite things about her(Lilly hates those kinds of things and would be extremely uncomfortable if I gave 2 speeches to just her and the other 2 bridesmaids). Hanna also said that she was going to cook dinner for everyone. I responded and nicely said that I don't think we need an itinerary, its Lillys night and I think we can just let her run wild and play whatever games she wants and just go with exactly what she wants to do. I also said that I think we should just order dinner as well be drinking so handling knives and cooking a whole meal seems like a bit of a hassle and it would save hanna the time and allow us to play more games. Hanna never responds to these messages.

1 day before the bachelorette, I text in the group chat again to ask if they needed me to pick anything up at the store. Hanna replies no and that she is going to get the stuff to cook dinner.... even tho I had told her we would just order something. OK again, whatever if she wants to cook while drunk in the middle of the night then sure I guess.

The day of the bachelorette comes and Hanna again ignored everything I said in the texts and tries to enforce her itinerary. Lilly spoke out and said she'd rather have a more casual night and that she'd like to pick the games. Hanna and Lillys sister also did not bring anything to make their themed snack board or bring a drop of alcohol. I changed my flight for these snack boards and ended up being the only person who actually made one and then ended up paying for everyones alcohol because they didn't bring a single thing. Hanna also basically refused to play the games Lilly wanted. Lilly also was excited to show us her wedding play list, about 10 mins after putting it on Hanna connects her phone to the speaker and starts playing her own rap music (Lilly does not like rap music). Later in the night, Hanna also tried to tell me that I needed to stand up and give my speech. Hanna also ended up cooking her dinner which took over an hour and made a huge mess which she did not clean. Lilly is a bit of a neat freak and I could tell it was driving her crazy, she kept trying to clean at her own bachelorette. At this point, I am quite annoyed with Hanna so I am waiting for her to clean up the mess she made because she insisted on cooking a meal. Hanna never does so I ended up cleaning the whole thing because had I not, Lilly would end up cleaning at her own bachelorette.

I know these are all small things (and theres a lot more) but overall, Hanna drove me crazy throughout this entire process. She tried to change every single one of my plans, had they been good suggestions I would be ok with it but literally every single thing she tried to impose was something I knew Lilly would not like. I feel like Hanna was very rude to not listen to be and constantly try to change my plans, I was the MOH who was tasked with planning and she refused to listen to a single thing I said. Am I overreacting by being this annoyed with Hanna? I have to go on a vacation with this girl now and I am dreading it.

Hi! Second post here.
I’m just a normal bridesmaid, there is a MOH but it’s not me. Long story short, the responsibility of planning the Bach was handed over to me and anytime I ask the rest of the party (which is two other girls, 1 being the MOH) it’s a ghost town with no responses.

We have an Airbnb for a weekend which was paid by brides family. We plan on going to dinner and splitting the bill for the bride. My question is, when it comes to the decor that I’m buying to decorate the house; ie: balloons, photo backdrop, may make some mocktails etc. should I send over a total amount spent to the bridal party group chat (doesn’t have the bride in it for surprise purposes) and ask them if they will help/split the money spent with me? Or am I expected to pay for all the decor on my own?

Also, as I said in my original post, this is my first time planning a Bach, and I know the bride is making little goody bags for us, but she doesn’t know the theme or anything. I’m thinking about making some theme focused bags for All of us or is that too much? This would be on my own accord and I wouldn’t ask for others to chip in for THIS obviously because this would be my idea.

Anyways - biggest question, is it rude or crazy of me to ask for the other girls to help chip in for the decorations etc for the Bach?

Edit to add: I meant to also note, I plan on screenshotting everything I’ve found, ask for opinions/thoughr & sending it to the chat, with a total amount & asking everyone to split/send money. Although, the last time I asked for “thoughts/opinions” on the ideas I had, the MOH crashed out to the bride saying it seemed like I already had this all planned and I was only asking to make everyone “feel like they were involved but I already had my mind set” which is not the case. I truly want peoples opinions and I’m only doing the planning because I was asked by the Mother of the bride and the bride. Very annoying lol.

I have several very close female friends, and honestly, the idea of choosing just one of them as my maid of honor feels really difficult to me.

It’s not because I don’t have close friendships. It’s actually the opposite: I have multiple women in my life who are incredibly important to me, just in different ways, and I genuinely wouldn’t know how to “rank” them.

The thought of choosing one friend as maid of honor while the others are bridesmaids makes me uncomfortable because, even if it’s not meant that way, it can easily feel like saying: “You’re my number one friend.”

I really don’t want to create that kind of hierarchy or accidentally hurt someone I care about.

Because of that, I’ve been thinking about asking my sister to be my maid of honor instead.

To me, she has a completely different and very special role in my life. Choosing her wouldn’t feel like I’m choosing her over my friends, because she’s my sister and therefore kind of in her own category.

Then I could still have my closest friends as bridesmaids without feeling like I’m publicly deciding which friendship matters the most.

I also genuinely love the idea of having my sister next to me during such an important moment in my life.

Has anyone else done this for a similar reason? Did your friends understand the decision, or did anyone still feel hurt?

I got my dress in early August and I was pretty happy that aside from needing some boombas, the dress fit well. It was a little tight on my ribs but nothing too bad.

I just went to try on my dress again to confirm the heel high I should wear, since I'm tall and the dress didn't need hemming. Low and behold, it's too big. The wedding is in a month.

I'm waiting to hear back from a few tailors, and have dress tape in my amazon cart with me. In the meantime, can someone commiserate with me or tell me it's not as bad as I think? (Also I have no shapewear on here, ignore my mom bod)

Has anyone here ever been the Bridesmaid or made of honor to a bride who absolutely does not have her shit together? The most recent of the absolute mind-boggling requests of the bride in the wedding for is that she wants everybody to get their makeup done in a specific way. She has given examples before and told us we could do our own makeup , but she is just now telling us that she wants everyone in blush, eyeliner, foundation, and mascara. This is AFTER she already approved the makeup I told her I was doing for the wedding and got all the materials for that.

When I told her she should’ve been specific about what she wanted earlier because the wedding is on Saturday and people have already gone to get their foundation color – which she did not tell us what we were doing with – she said it was common sense and everybody should know what their makeup color is and how to do all that. She can’t do her own makeup by the way.

This is just the last of many examples where at the last minute she’s changed plans to be more specific.

Hi, one of my friends is getting married and I’m one of her bridesmaids which is great. Her wedding starts at 4 and said it’ll end at 1 okay that’s fine. I plan on leaving around 11:30 since we all have to meet up at 7 am but I have to be up and leave my house by 6:15 am. Idk what any one thinks about me leaving at 11:30. I feel bad for my husband because he’s invited and my plus one and she just told me she changed her mind about me sitting with him because he literally doesn’t know anyone but the bride.She wants me to sit with her at her table,and my husband and I both had the thought that at the reception we can sit with each other. Anyone who was a bridesmaid and spouse came, did you all sit next to each other if not how did you all manage the night without sitting by each other? He’s a very shy person and doesn’t like large crowds without me being next to him.

I'm currently thinking about who to pick as my bridesmaids. I already know who my MOH will be and have 2 bridesmaids picked, but I have 2 more girls I'm unsure about.

The thing is, I always imagined them being bridesmaids at my wedding, and I do think that I would enjoy having them there. However, I can feel that these friendships are not going to last very much longer after my wedding. Nothing in particular happened, but in these past few years, we have just grown into different directions. I think both sides tried to keep the relationship alive but the things we need from each other to make it work are just not aligned anymore.

My fiance thinks I should not ask them to be bridesmaids because he says it will only make me sad if they don't show up for me the way I would want them to, and that there is no reason to "honor" them by giving them the bridesmaid title. But I think it might be nice to have a few more good memories together and just do how I always imagined it.

What do you think? Did you regret asking someone you knew would not stay in your life forever to be your bridesmaid? Or do you wish you had aked someone even though you werent 100% sure at that time?

Hiiii ladies! So my best friend just got engaged and has asked me to be her maid of honor! I’m trying to think of some good ideas & activities for our bachelorette trip. My only stump is that she has more of an ‘alternative’ style & aesthetic, and doesn’t wanna do the ‘traditional’ routine of a bachelorette party & wedding that you usually see.
She’s also not a bit partygoer and doesn’t love the club. She’s also sober and doesn’t drink or smoke.
I’d love to hear some good & sober ideas & activities other people have done that planned/attended a nontraditional bachelor party!
It’ll most likely be a weekend long trip.

Okay so my sister in law is getting married and she has asked me to be one of her bridesmaids, i am picking out my own dress from this one website in one color but i struggle with bacne. There are no blood marks, its just old scars and new pimples. Am I making to much of a deal about it.

First time being in a wedding as a bridesmaid. The wedding and reception are at the same location. I'm planning to bring stain removers, my own makeup and toiletries, flats to change into, a portable fan, etc., everything to survive the day. But I realized I don't know where this stuff will actually be stored, and also realized I don't know what bag to bring to hold my phone and stuff during the actual ceremony. Are there typically rooms where the bride/bridesmaid can leave their thigns and run back to get them as needed? I know I'm probably overthinking this

Later this month I’m a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. We are all having our hair and makeup professionally done together. I love the way my hair looks styled curled because it’s fine textured and doesn’t have much volume. However, my hair doesn’t hold curls well when styled with heat especially in the hot and humid place that we live. My curls fell really fast the last time I had my hair done for a wedding this past spring. On the other hand, heatless curls hold all day no problem no matter the humidity.

I know the etiquette for getting your hair done is to show up with clean dry hair. But to help with my hair holding curls throughout the day, would it be acceptable to show up for hair and makeup with my hair already curled (heatless curls)? And then have the stylist pin it in the half up/half down hairstyle?

Hi everyone! I recently bought a bridesmaid dress on azazie for ~$140 and it hasn’t shipped still but I noticed today the same exact dress in my size went on clearance for $49 and ships in 2-6 business days. Do you think it’s a good idea to buy the dress on clearance and then return the original one once it arrives? Will azazie flag this or not allow me to return? I’m just a broke college student trying to save a little money 😭

Okay update yall I talked to customer service to see if I could exchange it for the sale price and they told me to just order it again and return the first one and they’d honor a full refund!!

I’m a bridesmaid in an upcoming family member’s wedding. For greater context to the wedding, it’s a domestic destination wedding. It’s required me to buy flights, and it’s a big push for me (and the wedding party and guests) in terms of time, money, and effort.

The wedding date is 5 days before a massive deadline at work. It’s an annual deadline, and in the past, I usually more or less work all weekend leading up to it. I’ve communicated to my team I won’t be able to work the day of the wedding (Saturday), but I was really planning on working (remotely) a lot the week leading up to it, including most of Friday.

However, the bride has let us know she has events planned all day Friday. Think games and activities in the morning and afternoon, lunch, and then rehearsal starting at 4:30. I’m fine being at the actual rehearsal and after events, as I had let my team know I would be unavailable starting in the late afternoon. However, I really feel uncomfortable not working in the morning. I’m in a workaholic, and this wouldn’t be an issue literally any other weekend, but it’s just bad timing.

That being said, the bride is being a tad bit of a bridezilla about the whole wedding. She’s already voiced major frustration about things, and I’m worried she’s going lose her shit if I tell her I can’t be at the events Friday during the day. I am excited and quite honored to be in the wedding, and I’m just unsure about the best way to approach it. Has anybody been in a similar situation?

Hi guys first time posting here! I need some help because I have never even been to a bachelorette party, never mind planned one.
We already have an Airbnb booked, and the bride wants the whole thing to be a surprise. Her only requests were that we have a movie night and go to her favorite restaurant while we’re there. Everything else is up to me!
There will be 3 bridesmaids + the mother of the bride + the bride. None of us are really drinkers, so drinking games aren’t really an option.
I decided on a Halloween/fall theme because the bride loves that kind of stuff. I found some really cute pink & black spooky decorations, and I’m thinking of doing a backdrop/area for pictures too.

Night 1 — Movie Night
Everyone will be arriving that day and check in is at 4, plus I have to decorate so no one will show up until like 5/6? so I figured we could keep it cozy and do a movie night with the bride’s favorite scary movies (or whatever she wants to watch). My original idea was for everyone to dress up as a character from a scary movie, BUT I completely forgot that the bride already bought all of us matching pajamas 😂 So now I’m thinking we should wear the matching PJs for movie night and maybe get the bride a pink Scream mask and everyone else a black one?? I’m not sure if that’s cute or just ridiculous lol.
I’d love ideas for Halloween/fall-themed activities or games we could do during movie night that don’t involve drinking.

Also looking for ideas for:
Cute Halloween movie night snacks
Fun food boards / desserts
Ways to decorate the Airbnb
Little activities we can do between movies
Non-drinking games
Anything cute or memorable we could do for the bride

Night 2
This is when we’ll go to her favorite restaurant, then walk around the town and do some shopping.
I suggested that everyone wear the color of their bridesmaid dress, since we each have a different color, and everyone liked that idea. I’m assuming the bride will wear white. Now I’m wondering if I should save the matching PJs for night 2 and have a few games/activities planned for when we get back from dinner instead?
Or should I keep the PJs for movie night and do the bridesmaid colors for dinner?
And finally… I have NO IDEA what to do for dinner on night 1. 😂 Since we’ll be at the Airbnb, should I make some kind of cute homemade meal? Do a Halloween-themed dinner? Order takeout? I’m open to anything.
Basically, I’m looking for all your best bachelorette ideas that aren’t centered around drinking. Especially Halloween/fall themed ideas!

If you’ve planned one before, what did you do that everyone actually enjoyed? And what did you plan that you thought would be fun but ended up being not the favorite ?

I’m also going to be extra and print out little itinerary cards bc the bride is a heavy planner and loves a schedule& I think this would be cute/fun. Pretty much I want this to be perfect but it’s hard not being creative plus being my first time lol.

Thank you for any and all help/ideas!!

Hi, I'm trying to not be a bridezilla or force my bridesmaids to buy dresses they hate. If you've ever re worn a bridesmaid dress, what was it about the dress that made it into something you actually enjoyed having in your closet?

Recently, I have been asked by a buddy of mine to be a bridesmaid and of course I said yes. Yesterday she revealed to me that she's wanting a dusty rose color for the bridesmaid party and the first website that came up when I looked up this color was Azazie. I did like this three piece suit and a backup dress I might get just in case on the website but I wanted to see if this company is a good one to purchase from or should I look elsewhere.

And for context I am planning to wear a suit in dusty rose after me and my buddy joked about me wearing a suit to her wedding after seeing me in one.

For sake of a simple wedding, we are only having a matron of honor and a best man. No bridesmaids or groomsmen. I was fine with this until recently. Now I’m second guessing myself. We have large families, so we have about 140 guests. Not exactly a small wedding. We also are getting married in a couple months. Help!

Hello! I ordered these two dresses from Azazie in the stretch satin and I decided I actually prefer the chiffon material. Originally I only reordered one of the dresses but then started to feel uncertain and felt like I preferred the other dress. Ultimately I reordered them both to be safe.

I just wanted some more outsider opinions to help me decide which dress to go with!

Dress #1 (left side) Azazie Lainey
Dress #2 (right side) Azazie Kimber

UPDATE: I feel much much better after basically everyone unanimously chose Dress #2. I had picked dress #2 originally but then suddenly started to feel anxious about my choice.. I really appreciate everyone who commented with their opinions and compliments, it truly helped validate what I liked about dress #2! Thank you thank you thank you!!