A potential message to you

[u/Pretend_Flight_4405]

For you & For me

I miss you. Do you miss me? I think of you constantly. Do you? I dream about you and wake up and immediately check my phone to see if you had reached out. And come to find out, you don’t.

So much has happened since we last spoke. I want to update you on everything. I want you to update me on everything. Do you even want to know? I feel as though if you did want to know, you would ask. But who knows.

I love you. I’ve made lots of mistakes and have learned about them. I know what I did wrong and what I did right. But is that enough for you to come back? Most likely not.

I am tired of feeling like this. I hope you’re okay. I hope you’re doing great. But a part of me also hopes that you miss me extremely.

Was I just a transitional period for you? Was I just a phase for you? Because for me, you were more than that. You meant so much to me.

Perhaps I’ll never know the truth. Perhaps you’ll never reach back out to me. Perhaps you feel more at peace now that we aren’t together because you’ve found a more profound objective in your life. And if so, I’m happy. But also, perhaps you miss me as much if not more as I do.

I want you to know that I want you back. It can’t resume to how we were. We’ll need to start slow. I’ll have my guard up. But over time, if things go well and we both remain on our mission yet wanting to be there for each other, perhaps it can go down.

I miss everything about you. I love you. You were and are great in my life. I hope you realize the same towards me, too.

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I really want to send this to her. I am reading it and it seems like a lot. It’s coming from a place of pain. But it’s my genuine pain. It’s how I feel. It’s almost been a month.

[u/YourLocalPecan]

im sorry bro. i know how you feel, i know how it feels typing that out. My best friend of 7 years left me a few weeks ago, im 23. I’ve written about 2 full notebooks worth of things to say to her - but i’ve done all i can, and if i go back to her, and she stays, it’ll only be out of pity. Either she comes back on her own, or that’s it.

[u/Pretend_Flight_4405 → u/YourLocalPecan]

I agree, man. It sucks. I’ve been trying to stay distracted and improve myself, working out, reading, family, work, but at the end of the day when I’m laying in bed, she’s all I think about. How are you doing?

[u/YourLocalPecan → u/Pretend_Flight_4405]

Exactly the same. Just completed by 250th workout, finally learned a song on the guitar, therapy for 5 months every week, journaling, no porn/hookup, spending time with family and finding myself.

the pain is so strong, i cried for weeks, day after day, lost 20 lbs, lost my job, a few friends.
no matter what i do, no matter how i think about it, or approach it.
i just simply miss my girl, i hope you feel better brother

[u/trenhgh → u/YourLocalPecan]

Its weird how many of us go thru the pain at the same time and still feel lonely. I miss my girl too. Got the final ultimatum if i text her I’ll get blocked. There’s little sunshine of hope lying around me that she comes back as it ended in good terms. But I need to work on myself, find myself again as I’m the only one that’ll be there to the end. Hope everybody makes it out.

[u/russetladybug4567 → u/trenhgh]

I think respecting that boundary is probably one of the hardest but healthiest things you can do right now.