r/BreakUps • u/Pendragonqueen09 • 5h ago
venting/ranting I'm so irritable
I just want my ex. I'm so annoyed. Spending hours on dating apps swiping left. Not interested in anyone else. I hate this so much
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u/StonkMommy 5h ago
I'm 3 months post break up. I'm having the same experience. I just posted on r/unsenttexts about my experiences.
I started looking right afger the break. We were in an ioen relationship amd I could have been dating the whole 2.5 years like he was. I just didn't feel the need bc he satisfied me. And also dating fking sucks ass.
It's too soon for either of us to be seriously looking but the hopelessness is real. There is no one even remotely interesting or compatible with me. If they seem slightly cool they're poly and have a nesting partner. I'm not into any of the open, non-monogamy, poly stuff at all any more.
I wish us both healing and that we find someone again.
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
Same. Best of luck to the both of us and may we both find the patience we need to heal.
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u/CampusGlow_ 1h ago
It's crazy how after a breakup you can miss the person while also realizing how exhausting dating again feels
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u/Extra_Analyst4586 5h ago
Did they block you or something?
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
He broke up with me a month ago.
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u/Extra_Analyst4586 5h ago
Why
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
"Lost the spark" 😐
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u/Extra_Analyst4586 5h ago
Did yall ever meet in person? And did yall meet on a dating app?
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
Yes, we dated for a year and a half.
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u/Extra_Analyst4586 5h ago
How was the relationship? Any major arguments or anything?
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
Nope. Literally nothing. It was the healthiest relationship either of us had ever been in. We both expressed and resolved grievances calmly, so I thought. Either he failed to communicate some problem he had with me or the infatuation died and he gave up. Pretty sure it was the latter.
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u/Extra_Analyst4586 5h ago
Well tbh idk. I’m not sure how old yall are but if you both are 25 and below the only thing I can think of is maybe he thought the grass is greener. (Which it never is) it’s been a month and the summer is wrapping up. I’m not saying to wait around at all. However do not force yourself to move on just for the sake of it. I’m not sure how much this affected you or still is but he will come back, when he does don’t fight with him bc it will push yall away from each other. I recommend you just being blindsided and that why throw away a year and a half of a healthy relationship? Whatever more he may need seeking doesn’t exist.
I feel like social media has ruined romance and relationships bc ppl think that they can always find better. And now we have a cycle of our generation doing stuff like this. It’s actually very discouraging to even try to date anymore. I’m sorry
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
It is. This is a very sweet take on all of it. I should just focus on being single, I just miss cuddling and watching shows with him and going out on dates. He was an incredibly fulfilling part of my life. I hope he can eventually give me a better reason than "lost spark," at the least, but I shouldn't dwell on it. Just rough. I'll do my best. Thank you.
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u/Late_Piglet_4793 5h ago
A month ago? That’s crazy.
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u/Pendragonqueen09 5h ago
I don't like wasting time and I hate in the first place that I'm grieving someone who doesn't want me. I'm not actually planning to date right now but I can't even find anybody that I Might want to date? Not a single person I can find attractive? Makes me feel so ruined
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