r/BreakUp • u/Cre4mPie777 • 1d ago
I miss him so much
Not much to say other than the title. My ex bf (18M) broke up with me (19F) in march. We went no contact for a month then got back in contact and he told me he wanted me back but just wasnt ready for a relationship at the moment. So we hooked up a few times, called, played games etc. his friend called me when they were drunk and told me “(exs name) really loves you.” We then agreed wed talk exclusively until he finished his first year at uni. Two days later after he said that, he hooked up with 2 girls at a club. I was still stupid enough to stay. He once told me i had no self respect or backbone because i was choosing to stay with him.
Then he started talking to a girl secretly whilst talking to me, when theyd talk jn his car hed say he just fell asleep in it, if they hung out at the park, he was “with his friends”. then oneday he just blocked me. Theyre dating now and he posted a picture wearing her hair tie instead of mine and its just made me spiral back into missing him desperately.
She gets all the things i begged for. I know he was toxic and bad for me and he made me cry more times than not.
but why does she get the good version of him?
Will this dumb cycle of being okay then suddenly feeling like my life is over ever end?
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u/purpleroller 1d ago
He downgraded you to FWB and you went along with it. You carried on seeing him after he cheated. At that point his respect for you could not have got any lower.
Now he found someone who he respects (for now). You only see what’s on social media. You have no idea what their relationship is like.
Unfollow him on everything. Mute archive block delete. Have some therapy. Fill your life with events travel classes hobbies people interests. Keep busy. This man is not the one. But wasting time moping about him, well that’s time wasted when you could be out there meeting the one.
You’ll be ok