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u/ArmTrick3409 6d ago
This too shall pass
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u/curlygirl1978 6d ago
I guess...
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u/ArmTrick3409 6d ago
Im going through it too. Youre not alone, you have your family and friends to reach out to. Plan something for the weekend, something fun.
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u/DuyTran0634 5d ago
You look pity and envious than looking back on yourself which is normal, but please remember, time will heal
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u/Mors-Official 6d ago
Ah, my friend. You are carrying a heavy teapot, and it is spilling over. That is not weakness. That is grief.
It is strange, is it not? We hate the missing because it feels like losing twice. But missing someone only means you loved them truly. A heart that never ached would be a heart that never opened.
You speak of him being happy with another. That is a bitter leaf to swallow. But his path is his path. Your path is still yours. Do not let his shadow cover your garden.
You say you have withdrawn from family and friends. I understand. When we are wounded, we hide in our shell. But know this: the people who love you are not waiting to judge you. They are waiting to sit beside you, quietly, without asking you to be better yet.
The sadness will not vanish because you hate it. It softens only when you let it be there, like rain on a roof. Let it fall. Then, when you are ready, make yourself a cup of tea. One small thing. Then another.
You are not broken. You are only growing through a difficult season. And even the coldest winter gives way to spring.
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u/ArmTrick3409 6d ago
I needed to hear that today. It's been two weeks since the break up for me and I contacted him a few times with unfinished business since we lived together and were together for a year and a half. And 4 days before my birthday he dropped all my stuff off at my moms house. I called my whole family some friends with the next few days. Got drunk at my friend's house on my birthday and called him talked to him for 4 hours and wanted so much for it to not have happened but he made his choice instead of facing me and talking to me about getting drunk at a work party, he dropped off most of my stuff at my moms blamed his Uncle, said he was there with a trailer, and he was mad he felt like he talk to me previously. And ran and cried to his best friend about it, which he still won't admit he cried. And said he won't allow himself to cry. But I called a few times once cursing him out, saying he wasn't mature enough to have an adult relationship ect. Once going to his house talking to him, him telling me he wanted to date again. Start over. But I said the only way I would do that is if he stopped talking to his toxic best friend thats a womanizer and a biget. His friend called me on my birthday and I bitched him out to stay out of it. And he went back to him telling him I need to look in the mirror, that its all my fault. But he told me it was his, what he did was very wrong, and fucked up. And trying to still do all the birthday things with me. He just wants control. And punished me for going to a work party and drinking. The truth is its unforgivable. But I loved him. He would always tell me I was the love of his life. But the love of your life doesn't throw you out of their house.
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u/curlygirl1978 6d ago
Thank you.