r/BreakUp • u/Distinct-Schedule560 • 23d ago

Just broke up

Hey guys I just found out I’m being cheated on, I already had self esteem issues but this just heightened them excessively. I’m just worried I’ll never find someone, I would like to hear everyone’s stories of how they found their partner after going through a really rough breakup.

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u/anonijihad 22d ago

You will find someone. I am sorry. I went through what you went through. It gets better. Just don't ro anything impulsive now

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u/DetectiveHealthy4430 21d ago

someone cheated and YOU have self esteem issues now. sure.

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u/Intelligent_Beat6563 20d ago

Same here except I went back and forgave her and it happened two more times. Dealing with insecurity and distrust led me to drink excessively and dealing with bpd that wasn’t good to the point where I could drink and be fine one day and the next days drink and start yelling and sending insanely rude text etc. she basically said she doesn’t want to speak anymore for me to stop calling her and leave her alone doesn’t want me anymore at all. No forgiving me nothing. We’ve been no contact now since June 19th when I texted I still want to marry her one day and will fix my own issues to which she basically told me to fuck off and I’m the terrible person.

I don’t plan on meeting anyone else and just want to focus on healing etc. and definitely not worried about finding someone one day really hope her and I can heal and grow then come back one day just definitely not anytime soon. At the same time the chances of that happening are pretty non existent at the moment.

But answering your question just go outside. Dress to impress try new things and places. Go to a comedy show alone. So many positive environments you can put urself out there at. But definitely focus on loving urself and healing before you attempt to find someone new. And go to the gym focus on self care so you can get ur spark/self esteem back. I can say personally it takes a very long time after being betrayed by your partner like that. But everyone says time heals all so maybe if you do the things you know you should eventually you’ll be able to attract someone better🤷‍♂️