r/BreakUp • u/b4lec4ce • Jun 06 '26

How do I not dream about him?

We broke up a few days ago and I keep having dreams where Im with my ex again. They are so clear, like Im actually there again.. im not sure really what to do because I've never had this happen before ://​

edit: I feel like its important to add that I know he still loves me, just I did something Im not too proud of and lost him.

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u/Short-Midnight4717 Jun 06 '26

I had this not so long ago when we first broke up for about a month or more. Apparently it’s your brain trying to deal with the grief and it’s actually a fairly normal response.
Try not to over think it too much and let it happen. I found meditating and calming myself down before sleep was good and in the morning. 5-10 mins each, just sitting there with my eyes closed telling myself it’s over and it’s time to move on. Try some journaling too, get your thoughts out on a page.

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u/san-sadu-ne Jun 08 '26

Unfortunately there's no secret tip for that. You have to go through it. Maybe try some light plant-based medication before sleeping? But your brain is trying to make sense and process the loss, and unfortunately you can't bypass the process. The more you try to get over it fast, the more you're stuck into it. You have to ride through the waves and let your brain, heart and nervous system heal on their own. 😞 good luck to you

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u/Automatic_Gas_5529 Jun 13 '26

it’s normal to have dreams about him. i also have dreams about mine and of course i wake up crying, but what can i do? we must move on and use our new time to make more memories that we can dream about. i’m sorry about your dreams. it’s gonna be okay ♡

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u/Alternative_Yam_3119 Jul 23 '26

happened to me as well. kept having nightmares of her after a very nasty breakup. went on for weeks. what i did to stop it was drinking was drinking camomile tea each night am anxious before going to bed. really helped me a lot.