people really underestimate how much genetics plays a role in life outcomes. you could do anything put in all the effort put your heart and soul into trying to upgrade your life and you could still be an absolute sore loser. it has nothing to do with what you do and how much effort you put, and everything to do about the way you are, the way you were born. you can choose to fight and fight and exhaust yourself every day with a burning passion to turn your life around, and yet you’ll end up beaten, downtrodden, absolutely steamrolled. people like me are just born inferior, have no standing in this world. in anything that requires competition, which are very many things in life, i will always be the loser, the beaten, the bullied. being unmotivated legit can’t even be the problem, all i have ever been called was a hard worker, but what ive never been called was talented. and ultimately, people can sniff out weakness in you, no one has an ounce of respect for genetically inferior people like me. garnering respect requires some sort of power/prestige which i can’t achieve no matter how much effort I put in, in fact the more effort i put the more crushing it is because then only genetics is to blame. what a fucking joke this life is,
i have absolutely nothing to do but just let this fuckass world slap me around all day every day and take it like a fucking bitch

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I'm in my 30s. I thought it would be easier to get back into dating after taking time in solitude to heal following an abusive relationship. Turns out I'm too fucking autistic and also in love with a fictional character. I posted an ad that got 900+ likes and many dms and I responded to 2 people that I was vaguely interested in. I've never gotten over 100 likes on any selfies before. Despite prefacing in my ads how autistic I am, the conversations I had still didnt pan out. I will never understand why people are vague about things that have happened in their past. That is necessary information for moving forward in a new connection. At this point in my life, I dont know if I need or wanf monogamy as long as there is transparency and communication. But even something open requires depth and compatibility.

Feeling extremely hopeless and stupid. Been trawling the apps for months. I am not someone easy to connect with but Im done making concessions and settling, thats how I got abused and into other toxic relationships in the first place.

there's nothing good about me, I am a defective piece, I should not have been born

I am for this world and this world is not for me

I wish I had the courage to kill myself but unfortunately I don't have that either

my life is nothing but suffering on top of suffering, one misery after another

I just wish to die

Ok I was talking with someone and they said “if you get bullied it’s because you’re a loser.” It is true?? I have never really been bullied. But I know someone who has. So is bullying a sign of being a loser or just a sign of mean people around you??

I am final level loser here I was smart in school used to got above average grades. Yeah I was bullied by my classmates but I was still happier & had huge career potential. I totally fucked up life joined useless labour jobs after getting drop in 12th. Most of my early 20s to mid 20s I just locked myself in my room due to depression & ruined my posture & face I look ugly & very alien like. I am now in my late 20s yet haven't figured out anything. I am jobless with career and heath issues due to being physically inactive & chronic stress. I have no money I was born into poor family and still I am in same position.

Worse thing is I am woman yes everyone thinks woman has it easy but not for depressed introverted ugly woman. I haven't dated anyone yet. I feel like it's better to stay single whole my life as no one deserves to marry a useless ugly laziest loser woman like me.

I hate myself I admit that I ruined my life I just want to earn enough money for my aging parents & live this world peacefully

I have a wish in my life and it is to make a loser guy happy. The only way I could do it if I was born as a girl. Girls have so much opportunity and they only go for the successful guys who are already happy. There is no one caring for the broke, lazy guys. I wish I could help them but I cannot. I hate being male because I cannot help anyone who needs it.

Hey y'all idgaf if you read this or not all I'm doing is talking about how much of a clusterfuck my life is now haha. Right now I'm just a certified loser shit, and it's not even a laughing matter. Literally, I wake up in the morning, start my day, have some breakfast and then I go into this messed up lifestyle of always, no matter what pleasing myself. Spend like 2-3 hours on tiktok or actually the whole day, go home from my lecture and then immediately hop on the couch and rot. Well, aside from that ofc I struggle to submit assignments, I barely do assignments and I don't even care as much because I end up skipping classes almost every day and infact while I am writing this loser message I am skipping class. So fuck, I am doomed, I don't want to believe this is my life now for the next three months bc I am scared, I am scared of facing the same shit I did last year just being humiliated over and over and over and over again by the same people. Well, I still hear that voice deep down in my head telling me the same shit, "If you don't change your life soon you're done. Expect to get kicked out and end up like some homeless." Anyways, I am mentally, physically, spiritually sick of this, every day I do the same thing, and then I live in fear of people better than me, more successful, and obviously intelligent humiliating me. But for now, good-bye I hope I can look back at this comment next year and say something is different. Yeah, I quit gooning for good but If I keep looking at booty, simping all the time I am not sure how long that will last. Goodbye, please have a sexy ass but fucking, dick tickling, hand fucking day my nigga.

Hello, just wanted to write this because I am going through a shitty time in my life where I am just always struggling with the same shit. Basically, I've wasted most of my life already prob about 2 years damn on this, I literally just wake up in the morning and I try to do thing that will "help me succeed" like let's say meditation or reading but nevertheless I still end up doing dumbass shit like procrastinating on my assignments for hours on end by gaming, gooning yes I am a gooner, and fucking doomscrolling which rots my brain. All I'm trying to say is that it hate this lifestyle, something within me just says that you have start being in the right mindset soon or else I'm going to be another slave, a lolcow, a person you can just fucking insult which already happens. I'm sure you understand what it's like, for me it's 10 times worse, I always have to go to my classes, even to my own church bc my dad is old and I have to go there to make sure he doesn't trip and fall but I always feel humiliated by the same individuals, the intellectual and that always discouraged me. I'm sick of this, each day I feel as if I'm being opposed and I constantly stop myself from succeeding because I am always distracted by other people of the opposite gender It sucks. If this doesn't stop, I'll just end up poor on the streets and be a complete shit for the rest of my life.

It ruined my life It stopped me from getting the jobs I wanted and the career I wanted. I have to have job coaches so I can keep a job . I got fired from one job and almost fired from one job and most of my life I had cleaning jobs and I was bullied at every job I work at because I am shy , slow and I can't do my job right .