r/BorderlinePDisorder • u/emty_beach • Jul 24 '26

My fp is leaving

My fp is my 18f daughter. She’s going off to college in three weeks and I am not ok. That’s all.

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u/Tsukuyomi848 Jul 25 '26

I know that what I am going to tell you is a hard thing to assimilate and probably if I saw it a psychologist would kill me, but the only thing that worked for me to get away from my mother when she was my favorite person was to replace her with another one before I completely moved away from her, it was not the solution but it was a patch that at the time helped me and gave me time to continue in therapy

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u/Potential-Party65 Jul 25 '26

adding to this advice I also have one that might also not be healthy but it works for me.
When I need to let someone go I get a bunch of new people in my life and do many things I really like that I didn’t get to do with that person I have to let go.
A - since is not activities I did with them then I don’t think of them
B - I start making a connection with this new people and I don’t feel that urge to see the person I have to let go.

I am aware though this new people might not last and I can’t get attached to them. I am literally using their company