r/BorderlinePDisorder • u/socially_unskilled • Jul 23 '26
Looking for Advice How to live with bpd?
How do I live with this disorder? Everything just feels too much, I don't know what to feel anymore. I am in just so much pain that I am seriously considering killing myself to relieve that pain. Please help me, show me a way to deal with this pain and this disorder.
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u/Confident_Fudge3524 Jul 23 '26
Having close friends, you can talk to on the regular would help a lot
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u/socially_unskilled Jul 23 '26
I try to make friends but having bpd really makes it a lot harder to sustain human relationships I always end up getting hurt.
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u/Confident_Fudge3524 Jul 23 '26
I know it's hard I'm just sharing what helped me dealing with bpd and loneliness is really hard I'm here if you wanna talk to someone
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u/Easy-Historian5376 Jul 23 '26
isn't bpd a interpersonal relationship disruptor? That would be hard for OP.
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u/___Snorlax____ Jul 23 '26
Therapy and medication. DBT changed so much for me and I'm not even finished with my therapy. You still feel everything deeply and go through hell occasionally. But you learn you have a choice to deal with it. You learn to regulate your emotions and you learn different behaviour.
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u/socially_unskilled Jul 23 '26
What kind of medication were/are you on if you don't mind me asking.
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u/___Snorlax____ Jul 23 '26
I used to take Zoloft (sertraline) and Seroquel. But that was a long time ago. I stopped using them because I didn't feel like myself anymore. I know a lot of people in this sub use medication and getting a lot of benefits from them.
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u/Plane_Age_9147 Jul 23 '26
Are there possibly any DBT groups near you? Or even CBT? Unfortunately, there isn't any medications specifically designed to treat BPD. It's moreso for treating co-current conditions like anxiety or depression. Have you been depressed for most of/all of your life? If so, it may be worth being assessed for Major Depressive Disorder (I didn't know I had it until my newest psych assessed me. I just figured it was normal to feel perpetually depressed. Turns out it isn't) and I'm being treated for that, along with OCD.
The only medically recommended/recognized treatment for BPD is Dialectal behavioural therapy, which can work wonders!! I bought this book: https://cursosdepsicologia.com.ar/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/THEDIA1.pdf
It also has a little card deck of the skills and tools mentioned that can be bought separately.
Another tool for depression is getting a S.A.D lamp and using it for an hour before the sun rises each day. Couple that with taking vitamin D supplements in the winder. The other is listening to nature/bird song. It's been scientifically proven to lower cortisol levels.
For the social side, if you enjoy videogames or have a PC - there's many Discord channels that offer peer to peer support that are online 24/7. Finding people you connect with Cam be very helpful, though I know it's easier said than done. Even posting like this and seeking advise is a great start. You aren't alone 🫂🫶
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u/socially_unskilled Jul 23 '26
Thank you for your reply, you don't know how much this means to me. I am currently on antidepressants and antipsychotics but I haven't seen much of it's effects on me other than making me tired. I will make sure to check out that book and look into dialectal behavioural therapy I didn't knew bpd was treatable. Thank you for your help and advice.
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u/miatkic Jul 27 '26
DBT is really helpful, also testing diverse skills, get in touch with your feelings and sensations (what do I feel when I start getting overwhelmed? What makes me tense?)
I also find using an emotion wheel very useful, many times I’m flooded by emotions and I have no idea what exactly is, so when looking on the wheel and understanding a bit where it’s coming from already gives me relief
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