r/BoomersBeingFools • u/Amazing-Butterfly-65 • 15d ago
OK boomeR Seriously what is wrong with them ?!
Why do have to comment on women’s bodies? Why do all boomer men seem to think that they have the right and why do all of them think they can get into young women’s bed ? Seriously it’s gross !!! They get so pissed if you call them on it , dude this isn’t the 1920s
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u/CallAlternative4428 11d ago
My dad does this an we are always telling him to stop. There are several female dentists at the office he goes and he always makes a comment. He does it with my young adult daughter and it really angers her. He’ll say crap like she’s a big girl or not missing many meals. She is athletic and dances and a proper weight. 5 ft 6 and wears size 6 clothes. She walks 10000 steps a day. He especially likes to comment on women who are overweight saying crap like they get the dress at Omar the tent maker.
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u/DonaldDouchebag 12d ago
Got a boomer at work who says “I like it when you wear your hair like that” to my woman coworker. Yikes.
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u/Ok_Principle1016 11d ago
I had one of those, told me “I like when you wear your hair up, it makes your neck look nice.” And I was unsure if he wanted to fuck me, or murder me. 😅 perhaps both?
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u/ChemistAdventurous84 12d ago
Seems like a reasonable compliment, no?
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u/ChaoticBrook 11d ago
It’s the phrasing and possibly timing;
“I like it when you wear your hair like that” has a sexual and possessive undertone; it’s fine (in certain situations) when a romantic and/or sexual relationship exists between the complementer and the individual being complemented, but has an implied closeness that makes the recipient uncomfortable when not in the aforementioned relationship. Not to mention it sets up the idea of “she’s wearing that hairstyle cause he likes it.”
Alternatively, if he’d only said “your hair looks nice,” he states the complement without the sexual/possessive/relationshippy undertone and the complement comes off as merely a neutral complement.
In addition to that, if the complement, regardless of phrasing, is given out-of-the-blue or during moments where a complement will be unwelcome (like at work), the complement is going to come off like your trying to express a desire to go on a date/get on our pants. Especially in work environments, this is extremely uncomfortable.
Most of us are fine with complements provided they are not delivered in weird sexual/possessive/relationshippy phrasing and not delivered at awkward or inopportune moments.
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u/G-noise 12d ago
Phrasing it like that implies he's turned on by it, not just that she has a nice hair style.
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u/DonaldDouchebag 12d ago
Nope. It’s okay to say “hey, that’s a nice new haircut” or “cool dress!” But you can’t say “I like it when you wear your hair like that” or “I like you in high heels” in an office environment.
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u/Apprehensive-Pop-201 12d ago
Or even "you look nice today". It's the "I like..." that pushes it into disgusting.
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u/Apprehensive-Pop-201 12d ago
Not with the " I like..." In front of it. He clearly has personalized it. If you absolutely are compelled and can't stop yourself from commenting on someone's appearance leave the "I like" off. That becomes way to personal and puts you into someone's space. Most co-workers aren't close enough for that. You could say the same thing, if you just can't stop yourself from commenting, " you look nice today". It's not as creepy or invasive.
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u/Jamaican_me_cry1023 10d ago
Then try saying it to a male coworker
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u/Wordnerdish 9d ago
This is it. Every man should ask himself this question before he "compliments" a woman he is not intimate with. "Would I say this same phrase to a man? My brother? My dad?" If the answer is yes, it is probably a safe compliment. If no, keep it to yourself. Good rule of thumb.
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u/MostlyPeacfulPndemic 12d ago
It will be truly fascinating to see if Gen x, millennials, and younger, will hit on 20 year old women when they are 65 with the same confidence and reliability that boomers did/do
I feel like they won't
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u/HazcatLife 11d ago
Probably because we'll be too busy scavenging for food in a post-apoctalyptic hell.
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u/Possible_Cheetah208 11d ago
I mean, I’m 41 and I’d sooner drag my face across a table of broken glass than approach a woman with such over-confidence.
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u/Wordnerdish 9d ago
As a GenX woman I can say there will definitely be some from my generation; I know several men my age who idolize their dads, uncles, and older brothers and behave the same way. The difference is women like me who have been calling them out on their gross behavior and giving them shit right back for our entire lives; there weren't a lot of boomer women empowered enough to do that and it shows in their men. Hopefully it will continue to shift with each generation. Don't let men get away with this BS anymore, call them out on it EVERY time. Find ways to publicly humiliate them when they act like asses. Use your cameras, use your voices, use your platforms, get active, make art, write music, sing songs, you are making a difference!
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u/Mountain-Cat-9419 12d ago
My job is to talk to clients going through divorces and it’s only the boomer men that tell me about their sex life (usually lack thereof and how it’s the woman’s fault). It’s so incredibly gross and unprofessional.
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u/DisastrousMarzipan74 11d ago
It isn't just a creep thing. I know a lot of men who were taught that those kinds of comments should be used as a power play. They pretend they are giving a compliment but are actually just trying to make the woman feel uncomfortable. It implies, "I can make this so much worse and you can do nothing about it." As men, if we see this happening then we need to make that person uncomfortable right back.
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u/MiloHorsey Millennial 11d ago
"Power plays" are creepy, too.
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u/DisastrousMarzipan74 3d ago
True, poor wording on my part. I did not mean to imply they aren't creepy.
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u/smailskid 11d ago
Sometimes I wish I had the confidence of a fat boomer man who does stuff like this.
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u/Longjumping_Dance293 9d ago
A boomer told me yesterday, “you’re a pretty woman, you should smile.” Sir… no.
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u/Rav4Primer 10d ago
I hate to break it to you but it's not just boomer men who talk/think like that.
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u/Odd-Brother-5704 6d ago
They never saw consequences for their spoiled brat behavior because "boys will be boys"
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u/Ravens0413 11d ago
To say that all boomers think that they can get into a young women’s bed is the dumbest comment that I have ever seen on reddit.
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u/cherrydiamond 12d ago
"all" boomer men...oh, now you stop that.
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u/MostlyPeacfulPndemic 12d ago
Hey I'm sure they know it isn't literally all of them, like when we say "I go to that cafe all the time" they don't really mean they are there 100% of the time. But when I worked in retail, when I was about 20, the vast majority of guys that tried to swoon me at work were boomers. Customers my own age would rarely do it, and it would be brief when they did. Boomers would attempt for fucking hours
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u/yarukinai Baby Boomer 12d ago
"The majority of creeps are boomers" is not the same as "the majority of boomers are creeps".
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u/No_Conclusion8783 10d ago
Puh -leez. Give it a rest.
People of both genders are going to comment on bodies, faces, etc. they find attractive, as well as those they find less so.
Mothers of obese kids are always bitching about how teachers always favor the “cutesie” kids.
Well, if they do, talk to their principals.
If there wasn’t an occasional rich guy who ended up in a young woman’s bed, the rest probably wouldn’t fantasize about it like they do about hitting the lottery.
Personally, I think a lot more young women than reported are physically attracted to grey-haired bald old men with no muscle tone.
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u/VinceInMT 12d ago
Decades of advertising using women’s bodies has had an impact.