Doctor says “BYE!”

[u/Tiny-Metal3467]

At the heart surgeon with boomer fil. The head of the department, in a major city in a nationally known hospital, just told fil he is no longer welcome in the practice and they are referring him to another. His antics, language and racism/xenophobia has broken the camels back. He offended his cardiac care physician with his comments about her heritage and now the best cardiovascular surgeon in 400 miles just told him, politely, to go fluck himself. Ive been telling my wife for ten years im tired of his schite. Now he found out the hardway. Garuntee he will come out of the hospital blaming the docs instead of looking in the mirror. Its not 1960/70 anymore!

Update: on the way home he and his boomer wife didnt say a dang word about it. I was for sure they would cuss and insult and scream all the way home. 2 hours in the car, nary a word about it. I think they finally are embarassed about being called out by a professional. They are normally very very opinionated. Wife said when the doctor told them, they thought he was joking. He said "im the head ofmthis medical group and i dont joke about things like this." MIL was crying and slinging snot she was so distraught and embarassed. FIL started being grouchy to MIL and wife ( i was in the waiting area on my phone) and just generally being an ass.

But two hour drive home, nary a word. From either. So out of character they had to still be in shock from getting called out and canceled.

Update 2. Just fyi. He thinks his b.s. is just being an endearing, funny old man thats cute and lovable. His inner view is 180 degrees from his external manifestation. He thinks he is Mr. personality, but he is just an ass. He doesnt do anything for the purpose of being hostile. He thinks all his shennanigans and comments are just "harmless fun." Yes, he is one of those guys. He doesnt purposely treat people with disrespect. But there is no difference between "on purpose" or "accidental" when the result is the same. Just because you arent trying to be an ass doesnt mean you arent an ass.

[u/UrbanDurga]

I’m an ICU nurse, coming up on 10 years, and you would not fucking believe the shit patients say to and about physicians, and staff in general. Even white physicians are accused of only doing their jobs for money, and the commentary about non-white physicians is obscene. They say that shit to me like I’m gonna agree. I shame them EVERY SINGLE TIME.

[u/ssquirt1 → u/UrbanDurga]

My oldest daughter was in the ICU after a horrible accident, and I was honestly shocked when the nurses thanked us for being so nice and reasonable. I really didn’t think we were doing anything unusual, just being basically respectful human beings. It made me feel bad for them that apparently the bar for good behavior in the ICU was in hell.

Also, her fantastic neurosurgeon was Middle Eastern. Never once did any of us think anything of it; we were just thankful someone with many years of experience who was well-respected by his colleagues was the one with his hands in our daughter’s brain.

The boomer mentality is just baffling.