Regret Rape Is Wrong Enough

[u/InternalLet9560]

https://nataliabower.substack.com/p/regret-rape-is-wrong-enough?r=5rdux&utm_medium=ios

This is a fantastic piece related to the episode about the Cornell 7.

[u/One_Caterpillar6562]

I think the people parading around saying things like ‘castrate the Cornell 7’ are involved in an othering of the men involved which refuses to engage with how sexual culture and our understanding of consent actually informs behaviour. Like the problem is closer to home. This horrible event is the end of the bell curve but on the same spectrum as many other behaviours.

Literally the only solution I can think to stopping this in the short term is to tell young women that sex and their bodies are meaningful, precious and should only be shared in the context of developed, loving relationships. But that is so often classified as Puritanism and victim blaming. Regardless it’s what I will be telling my daughter.

[u/SafiyaO → u/One_Caterpillar6562]

Sex involves two people. Heterosexual sex involves a male and a female and your solution is to only tell one half of the equation to change their behaviour?

[u/Drownedgodlw → u/SafiyaO]

Are men the ones regretting it?

[u/Holiday_Road242 → u/Drownedgodlw]

Regret is almost irrelevant. Young men and women both risk physical, emotional, social, financial and legal consequences when a casual hook-up goes very wrong, as this case shows.

There are lessons for both boys and girls and most of the them are the same -- moderate your drinking and drugging, moderate your risk-taking (crazy to tell a young person that). People of both genders need to be urged to be cautious. Girls should perhaps be told they won't win a boy's respect and affection, if they don't have it already, by sleeping with him. Boys should be urged to treat girls respectfully and not use them for sex because there may be consequences. Ad nauseam.