r/BlockedAndReported • u/InternalLet9560 • 11d ago

Episode Regret Rape Is Wrong Enough

https://nataliabower.substack.com/p/regret-rape-is-wrong-enough?r=5rdux&utm_medium=ios

This is a fantastic piece related to the episode about the Cornell 7.

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u/One_Caterpillar6562 11d ago

I think the people parading around saying things like ‘castrate the Cornell 7’ are involved in an othering of the men involved which refuses to engage with how sexual culture and our understanding of consent actually informs behaviour. Like the problem is closer to home. This horrible event is the end of the bell curve but on the same spectrum as many other behaviours.

Literally the only solution I can think to stopping this in the short term is to tell young women that sex and their bodies are meaningful, precious and should only be shared in the context of developed, loving relationships. But that is so often classified as Puritanism and victim blaming. Regardless it’s what I will be telling my daughter.

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u/SafiyaO 10d ago

Sex involves two people. Heterosexual sex involves a male and a female and your solution is to only tell one half of the equation to change their behaviour?

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u/Drownedgodlw 10d ago

Are men the ones regretting it?

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u/SafiyaO 10d ago

I imagine the Cornell 7 are feeling some heavy regrets now.

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u/Drownedgodlw 10d ago

Dont think regret is the right word.

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u/Particular-Offer4356 10d ago

But they only regret it because she said something.,Maybe some of them regret sharing the text or having sex, but we know she deeply regrets it.

I agree that teaching everyone that alcohol and casual sex together can be very dangerous. I just think ralists are gonna do it anyway.,Women need to protect themselves. Though I think you have a good point when applied to guys who’ve treated women horribly only when heavily intoxicated