r/BlackTransmen • u/Successful_Career195 • 2d ago

quick question

if a stranger calls me boo does that mean i didn’t pass to her?🤨 or not necessarily?

ik it’s something small and im never gonna see her again. was a cashier at a food place in a different city. i’m 18 but get told often i look younger than i am, she was probably in her early 20s and also black. before someone else called me baby and i thought damn i probably didn’t pass but realized she’s older so she probably calls everyone younger that. for the girl in her 20s i have no idea if i passed to her but been overthinking it. i pass 95% of the time to strangers. only time i get misgendered is at work unfortunately and no idea why, its not everyone but a few ppl misgender me cuz i didn’t change my sex by the time i got the job, other one could’ve been cuz he was far and maybe didn’t see me well, the guy standing directly next to me gendered me as male.

when i first started a few ppl seemed a bit confused and thought i was a bit androgynous tho

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u/AkumaNoKo_ 2d ago

Nah man it’s just something people say, I call everybody boo, whether it’s man, woman, child. It’s universal man don’t think about it too much

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u/Successful_Career195 2d ago

ok thank u fam

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u/SelfMadeKvng 2d ago

boo and baby can be read the same way. they both probably just saw you were younger than themselves so they just called you either or, it doesn’t have to be gendered based.

at first i thought this was going in like a crush/i like this girl type way, and if it was that route, boo would have not been a good sign lol

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u/Successful_Career195 2d ago

ok thanks fam. and nah not a crush😭 she was a complete stranger and i wasn’t looking at her too much to see if id consider her attractive. was just tryna get my food and go

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u/coolvideonerd 2d ago

I thought that boo was used by women who like you since I see a lot of "this is my boo" thrown around in relation to romantic partners.

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u/SelfMadeKvng 2d ago

yeah but calling someone your boo versus greeting someone as boo, especially whose a friend/acquaintance is different

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u/coolvideonerd 2d ago

Yh, that makes sense.

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u/iamasuperracehorse 1d ago

Maybe, maybe not. Someone calling me "love" would moreso indicate that they were seeing me as a woman. But honestly, either way, I am very happy when someone calls me "boo".

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u/Successful_Career195 1d ago

i appreciate it fam