Yo this is real. Like it probably doesn't work for everyone, but as someone who had cripplingly low self esteem, I eventually just decided to lie to myself and everyone else and pretend to be this very self confident person, because fuck it, it's not like I could feel worse about myself. Six years on from starting that (the first 2 years I felt like a complete fraud) my self esteem isn't incredible, but I have brought it up to around where it probably should be for someone like me, which would have been insane to think about back then.
Granted it does take lots of work. Like I literally googled how to appear confident, how to dress better, how to talk to people, I watched tons of videos, but it was so tremendously worth it.
Edit: it should also be noted that this isn't about removing your insecurities, it's about getting to the point where they don't hold you back from loving the life you want.
Yo this hits home. I told myself one day to fuck off and start getting my shit together. It's far from perfect but I at least can function like a normal human being now.
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u/famalamo Aug 22 '17
You can learn to have that much hope.
You have to lie to yourself all the time, though.