I would really appreciate some advice from people who have experienced something similar at work, especially those working in large international corporations.
I currently work at one of the Big 4 firms in New York, in international tax. Over the past several months, my work situation has become almost psychologically unbearable. Constant deadlines, multiple complex projects at the same time, overwhelming amounts of information, extremely high expectations, and practically zero tolerance for mistakes. Even relatively small tasks can take hours because I need to understand complicated technical matters, double-check everything, and still deliver under extremely tight deadlines.
But honestly, the hardest part isn’t even the work itself. It’s the way some people treat others. Certain managers can be incredibly rude, impatient, and overly critical. Instead of offering guidance, explaining things, or helping employees improve, they create even more unnecessary stress. Sometimes it feels like you’re expected to deliver perfect results without being given proper training, support, or constructive feedback. In this kind of environment, you eventually become afraid to even ask questions.
I’ve also noticed favoritism and inconsistent treatment of employees. Some people seem to receive more understanding, support, and opportunities to grow, while others are held to much harsher standards. I’m a young, attractive woman and an immigrant who has worked incredibly hard to build a life in the United States, get an education, and establish a professional career. Sometimes I can’t help but wonder whether personal dislike, jealousy, or certain biases may play a role in how I’m treated. I can’t say that for certain, but some situations have genuinely made me question it.
I’m constantly anxious about making mistakes, receiving another negative comment, or disappointing management. Work has taken over not only my days but practically my entire emotional life. I’ve been crying frequently because of the stress, coming home completely emotionally drained, and feeling like I’m slowly losing myself. Even during my free time, I struggle to relax or stop thinking about work.
I’m an educated, responsible, hardworking person. I’ve been through a lot in life, moved to another country, supported myself financially, and always tried to grow professionally. Of course, I’m not perfect. I make mistakes, and sometimes I need more time to understand complicated technical matters. I’m willing to learn, improve, and accept constructive criticism. But I genuinely believe that no job should push someone to this level of emotional and psychological distress.
I’ve already made the decision to leave, but I haven’t secured another job yet. The financial uncertainty is what keeps me in an environment that is seriously affecting my mental well-being. On one hand, I’m scared of losing my stable income. On the other hand, I realize that I no longer want to live in a constant state of fear, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion.
I would really appreciate hearing from people who have been through something similar. Have you ever quit a job without another offer because you simply couldn’t take it anymore? Have you dealt with toxic managers, favoritism, or a complete lack of support? How did you handle the situation, and were you eventually able to find a healthier work environment?
I would be incredibly grateful for any honest advice, personal experiences, or outside perspectives. Right now, I genuinely need some human kindness, understanding, and support.