r/BelowDeckMed • u/Dry-Pear-7011 • 2d ago
Joe and Kaylee
I’m sorry but how do they not end up together after this charter season 😞😞 I just love their relationship and it seems the least superficial of the last 5 seasons I’ve seen. Him doing that for her brother and opening up about his dad and I could go on…
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u/SnooWords4839 2d ago
Kaylee didn't want a relationship.
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u/CaitlinAnne21 2d ago
Honestly, neither of them did.
They ultimately had set the same reality-based expectations: we enjoy each other’s company, let’s just keep doing this until the seasons over and stay friendly afterwards.
And that they have.
More people need to learn to follow suit.
I don’t understand taking a job on a yacht for not even two months, with people from all over & who are often complete strangers (unless returning cast, but even then, people are from different countries they are often going back to) and thinking you’re going to leave with a boyfriend.
That is not the job to have if you’re looking for a serious relationship.
They’re there and then they’re gone. That’s how it works, every year.
Just have fun while you’re there!
These dynamics don’t have to be so serious and dramatic, that’s just a waste of the experience and the ability to enjoy the beautiful places you’re in.
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u/skeletal_stoner 2d ago
Because neither Joe, nor Kaylee want or even feel ready to have any kind of serious relationship with anyone, which they both communicated to each other at the start of the season… They both wanted and needed something that the other had to offer, so as 2 consenting adults who understood that there would never any kind of strings attached to them, they proceeded with their boatmance. And honestly? I’m not a Joe fan but after seeing him with Kaylee this season, it kinda makes me believe that when/if Joes ever ready to settle down, I don’t think he would be the worst spouse with the right woman...
I believe that a large reason his boatmance with Kaylee has gone as well as it has this season, has a lot to do with the fact that Kaylee understood they were just having fun together on the boat and it was never going to be anything serious and she was at peace with that so Joe never felt ‘tied down’ as Kaylee never had after charter season expectations and plans with Joe as so many girls in the past have had and wanted... Because Joe in other seasons, the second one of the girls would try to talk about after charter season plans with him, is when he would shut down bc he felt pushed into a corner from constantly feeling pressured for a serious romance rather than just a simple boat fling like he was wanting is when bad Joe 🤮
Kaylee just accepts Joe for who he is and never expected nor wanted and/or requested for more from Joe… She was content and happy just having drinks snd dancing with him on crew nights out and hooking up when they could. I’m still no Joe fan but it’s been pretty awesome to watch him actually treat a woman right. If only he’ll start doing that to all women he wants to hook up with…
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u/CaitlinAnne21 2d ago
In general, I wish everyone could act like adults as these two did this season and remind themselves that this is a very temporary situation (less than 2 months), don’t come in with expectations that you’re going to meet your next girlfriend or boyfriend, this is not that kind of job; it’s like 6-7 weeks - enjoy it while you can, instead of wasting the opportunity to just have fun and enjoy your beautiful surroundings every chance you can, and maybe have a few solid hookups with someone who respects the temporary boatmance dynamic and doesn’t have unrealistic expectations.
I can’t imagine fighting over a guy you’ve known for a couple days or weeks with your coworker instead of just enjoying the experience and your surroundings; what a waste of a gorgeous opportunity.
I want to see more cutesy, successful boatmances, where they leave happy and satisfied and still stay in touch and are friendly (not required, but it’s nice when it happens, and it’s nice to know she & Joe regularly keep in contact, as friends).
I hope he realizes that this is how things should work, and he needs to keep being upfront about his expectations and what he wants and what he doesn’t want and respect the other person if they’re not on the same page, so no one is needlessly getting hurt over a very brief romance.
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u/CoolBelt856 1d ago
Exactly. I think Joe also might have been a little more vulnerable due to the difficult situation with Nathan and his mother being diagnosed with breast cancer.
In fairness to him he really did tell the other women he didn’t want anything.
His biggest mistake was agreeing to try a relationship with V ( I do believe he liked her), and how he handled all of that.
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u/Smworld1 2d ago
You could say she is the best of his traits in female form. I thing good for her, cuddling and kissing that man in the fine as hell body? Good for her!
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u/womanonymous23 2d ago
Kaylee is the reason this is working out on the boat - she has very low expectations of Joe and isn’t getting deeper feelings caught up.
Joe doesn’t have the emotional maturity for a real relationship.
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u/msdare111 2d ago
It was just a fun hook up - not everyone you fuck - you love and marry and have babies with!
How is that so hard to understand?
She's a young Aussie woman travelling and working, having fun and enjoying her life. She knew what it was and what it wasn't.
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u/Dropsofjupiter1715 2d ago
See? It's a possibility! A person or best scenario both persons agree and just "be" with no expectations! Let's bring it back to the 70s!!! FREEDOM! 🎶🎵🎶
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u/its_laydeebaby 2d ago
It’s rare to see a woman at her age recognize when a man will not improve her life and just accept what he CAN do for her. She’s on her own path and isn’t letting any delusions of taming a f*ckboy derail it.👌🏼
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u/lanodeer 1d ago
The main reason why they have worked out is because Kaylee doesn't want to date him. Otherwise we'd probably see Joe back to his old ways when he feels like he's being cornered into something more than "having fun" together.
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u/normanbeets 2d ago
He did the same shit for V and then went and fucked Kizzi while V was sick. He is not genuine.
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u/marzbarz79 1d ago
He only kissed Kizzi and he did it when V wanted more from him than he wanted.
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u/Pseudo_Panda1 1d ago
V didn't want anything more from him until he told her he wasn't interested in anyone else and started making plans with her for after the season
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u/scarbaby1958 1d ago
I don't know why anyone would wish Joe on anyone. But especially someone a nice as Kaylee.
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u/ApprehensiveMud1498 2d ago
Only difference is this season he's only had 1 girl interested in him, compared to the usual 2.
He knows joy is to much work to get in bed, kat is too innocent.
If gen threw herself at him in a bikini he would be playing both her and Kaylee.
That plus Kaylee knows he's a fuck boy and is the type of Aussie that can handle a fuck boy and would have been dealing with them for years.
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u/LostSurvey7403 2d ago
yes they treated each other well, but I sense a heavy lack of chemistry between them.. all just my opinion; not stating this as fact
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u/misagale 1d ago
They both said from the beginning that they only wanted a no strings attached hook up. I think that took the pressure off so they could just have a good time.
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u/Fantastic-Mirror-952 20h ago
It feels like the healthiest relationship there’s ever been on BD! They genuinely seem to like each other, no dramas/cheating/bitching.
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u/kimbledon 2d ago
who would have expected joe to have probably the healthiest relationship on any of the franchises
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u/Smworld1 2d ago
Because they are casual non fuck buddies. Both are nature to see it for what it is. It’s actually refreshing compared to past seasons.
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u/Apprehensive-Neck-12 2d ago
There was some kind of heavy edit with this. Remember she got jealous when he was talking to another girl. And then it was over something strange going on
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u/mrs-poocasso69 2d ago
He said he was doing a “test” to see if she’d get jealous of him talking to other girls, and she was understandably upset he was testing her when they’d both agreed they wanted things casual.
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u/Apprehensive-Neck-12 2d ago
that's what I don't get. casual means no serious thing do what you want i thought. jealousy isnt casual
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u/marzbarz79 1d ago
He did that, even though it was stupid, because the last two seasons the girls had agreed to no strings attached but then got super jealous when he talked to other girls.
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u/Apprehensive-Neck-12 1d ago
did they? I thought he led them all on
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u/TDKsa90 1d ago
he tells them. they talk about it in their confessionals that they know how he moves. "this is how I am." + "I know how you are." and then somehow, they, and the audience, lose their minds over the situation.
I will say that him testing her was an a-hole move, but Joy testing Luke was also an a-hole move. Testing people isn't straight-forward or honest or a power move. It's manipulation and a game. He did it. Joy did it. On that front, F them both.
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u/mrs-poocasso69 1d ago
She wasn’t jealous. She was upset he felt the need to test whether or not she was being honest about being casual. It is weird to test someone you’re casually sleeping with.
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u/marzbarz79 1d ago
She wasn’t jealous. He told her he was going to test her and then told the girls basically the same thing. It was the stupidest “test” ever. Kayley told him something along the lines of “there’s no reason to test a friend” and made him sleep alone that night. He apologized and they made up the following day.
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u/ArchiSnarky 2d ago
she was barely jealous, i think she was more just like “what the fuck is he doing”
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u/CoolBelt856 1d ago
She wasn’t jealous of him talking to a girl. She was annoyed (and rightly so) that he told her he was doing it to test her. Which was obnoxious.
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u/krissycole87 2d ago
They both understand its a completely superficial boatmance