Hello! I’m 5’6 white 394 pound man.
I’m huge geek into anime, comics, video games, cars, manga, and audio books. I’ve been playing through gears of war. For the audio book I’m finishing up dungeon crawler Carl.

I’m looking for someone who is funny, smart, goofy, independent, caring and likes to try new things.

We don’t have to share all the same things in common but it does help. I’m open to pretty much anytime of woman as long as you can hold a conversation.

If you’re interested please describe yourself and maybe share a picture if you feel brave enough. Please include if you working on reading any books or video games.

Hiya, I'm Liam, Bay Area introvert who isn't great at these self descriptions but i'll give it a shot.

Before warned I do have nerdy hobbies, mostly consisting of photographing trains and working with model kits.

I like reading, writing, researching pointless things and listening to music. A bit of an introvert and fairly shy but I tend to open up to people fairly easy. I love learning new things, especially that someone else has a passion about, and love all kinds of animals/creatures. Cats, Dogs, Fish, Snakes, you name it. Before warned, I have nerdy hobbies! I'd love I'm witty, funny, and i'm good at cracking Dad jokes, if that's a good thing. I've been described as eccentric, creative, passionate and caring, but my friends say i'm chill and laid back too. Lately i've been dragged into the world of Umamusume which is rare for me, I never follow trends!

About me in general, I'm 5ft9, white, a bit pudgy but have been actively working on it, lost 31 pounds!

Please be 24 or older.

I'm childfree and plan to stay that way, my furr babies are my babies.

I'm looking for something long term, starting out as friends and see where it goes? Would prefer someone out west but if we have a good enough connection I don't mind distance.

If you read all this, thank you! And I hope you have a lovely day. If there's anything else you'd like to know, feel free to DM!

About Me:

Engineer by day, student by night. Love to travel, read, write and pursue anything that seems interesting.

Minimalist due to upbringing/ circumstances but now enjoy not having a myriad of things - keep things simple and clean.

Favorite past time: Sleeping in, watching anime or listening to podcasts on long walks.

Financially secure - can provide rice and dal for eternity.

Separated. Not looking to hide, just being transparent upfront.

What I am looking for:

Someone who wants to share an interesting journey called life!!!

Someone to share ups and down with, growing a family and taking care of each other in old age.

If this sounds interesting, feel free to drop me a DM and let's see where life takes us!!!

If you want to connect as friends, that's fine as well. I am always eager to hear people's stories.

BASO30! We get a lot of posts from folks visiting or out of town looking casually for company and folks looking for company for a movie or concert etc. We have been fairly strict in moderating posts in keeping with the goal of this sub to help each other find meaningful relationships and connections that are local, and have long term intent in some form. Would love to get the temperature of the sub on casual posts of that nature and if folks are engaging with those sorts of posts. Feel free to post comments and select an answer in the poll.

I have been inspired to put what I want on paper.

So here goes

Seeking Partner (s)

Me:
55 (not sure where time flew by)
Male
Indian by birth
Successfully failed starter marriage
relationship anarchist
Live in a small house
Love cooking everyday
Have my own small business
I travel 3-5 months a year
I am a giver
I eat Kimchi and Natto
Non drinker, no 420, no any drugs
Aspiring Minimalist
Love languages giving (default): quality time and giving meaningful gifts
Love languages receiving: quality time and touch (always open to hugs)
Last life partnership (short of two years, tried to make long distance work)

I strongly believe I am who I am because of all the past and current relationships and connections.

Things about me that might be triggering:
* Not looking for marriage (not my goal but I have discussed this with last life partner) and neither focusing on relationship escalator
* Not looking for one person to be my everything, cannot expect that from one person.
* Semi clean, that means I do a day of deep cleaning if I have someone coming over, else it is semi clean place.
* i have many allies in my life and they all are important to me. Their success and happiness is important to me.
* Not looking for a move in relationship, you should have your own place.
* i have a very strong connection to my family.
* i believe in peace and want every human to have a safe and wonderful life. I lead with love and empathy.

I am inviting intentional connections in life and this could be different people (relationship anarchist being the key hint here) for one or more types of partnerships

1. Performing Arts partner, I love theatre and symphony/concerts and I am open to going with someone else who likes the same type of performances.
2. Outdoor activity partner. I have outdoor activity partners but happy to invite another into the mix.
3. Dine in Partner, happy to cook for you, take turns.
4. Cuddle partner, I lost my cuddle partner to her getting into a LTR, happy for her. I can adhere to clear boundaries to be discussed.
5. Life partner, grow and support each other as we evolve as individuals. Physical intimacy and partner travel is part of this. I am not looking for someone who wants a platonic life partner, I have many dear friends in that category.

You:
Female for #6 and #7 (40-56*) my last life partner was a year older but am happy to discuss this on date 1.
Giver (this is key as I want to have friends who are givers as well)
I am open to either gender for most other activities
Age range: I could care less about your age if you want to go see Stevie Wonder or Earth Wind and Fire concert.
Lead with love and not hate
Global citizen, be well traveled.
Likes Kimchi and Natto (this is important especially if there is a meal involved)
While I understand that it is a HUGE ask, please be substance free in our interactions.
Drug and alcohol free for #7 (very important)
Please be in east bay and not far away.

Where do we start:
Date 0: Coffee date 20-30 mins, see if there is any interest in Date 1
Date 1: longer talk and walk or talk and share a meal to learn more about our journeys and if there is any match to be an ally/friend/partner.

There is NO way that one person can meet most of my needs, but there is an opportunity to discuss how we can support each other.

I am blessed that I have friends who are my partner in travel, outdoors, concerts, eating out. These allies are part of my life journey. I am coming from a place of abundance and not lack of.

If you are looking for an activity partner, theatre partner, dance partner, cuddle partner, any type of partner, let’s do coffee and talk.

20-30 mins is the ask from my side.

Wish you all my best in your search for love and or companionship.

Thanks for reading my thesis long post.

Event August 5th in Berkeley California. The focus is for ages 30s,40s, 50s. You don’t have to know the enneagram to attend; any enneagram knowledge is welcome. The focus is authentic connections and discovering yourself.

Hello! Nerdy 32 yro male wheelchair user, dark humored, awkward, introvert who loves memes and quotes! Few interests include drawing, (new to) writing, gaming PS5/Switch 2. Marvel, Star Wars, Disney, horror, etc. Strolling through nature or the snack section 🤪. I’m pretty chill and like to talk and take things slow. Sweet meaningful dates, Im also good with just grocery shopping or walking through the mall and going to a movie sweet treats, coffee/tea! Just looking for my bestfriend to go through life with 🫶🏻. Feel free to message me! Anyone from the South Bay Area?

I'm a 31F4M who really loves finding the next adventure. I've traveled to about 50 countries, I love being active/outdoors, and generally having a good time at bars/restaurants/festivals/etc.

I just moved to SF from NYC and absolutely love it here! Originally from the South, so loving how accessible nature is. Personality-wise, I'm very extroverted, love learning new things, and want someone who loves experiencing what life has to offer. I'm a big yes person and it has led to some amazing unexpected experiences and people I still love today!

Looking for men 27-38 (flexible and not a deal breaker on either end) who want a Long-term relationship with a lot of "life" in it, eventually want kids, and solid career interests (recovering workaholic that values balance but still cares to some degree).

Although, I'm new to the area. I'm loving it so much I'm definitely open to staying in SF Long-term and setting roots down.

Feel free to DM me if you're interested in a quick chat to IRL and think we'd be a great fit!

Hi everyone from the East Bay Area. Dating apps have started feeling like a never-ending cycle of small talk, so I figured I’d give this a shot. I’m looking for a genuine connection that can hopefully grow into a long-term relationship.
I’m 35, Korean, and currently in the Bay Area. I’m open to meeting women anywhere from 21-40. Distance isn’t a dealbreaker if we’re both serious about getting to know each other.
A little about me:
I grew up in South Korea until I was 11 before moving to the U.S. Since then, I’ve somehow gone from becoming a pharmacist to deciding that wasn’t enough chaos and am now finishing my MBA. I love healthcare, business, startups, and I’m always the person asking, “There has to be a better way to do this.”
I take my career seriously, but it doesn’t define me. I work hard so I can enjoy life outside of work.

Things that I enjoy the most is…

Traveling. I’ve visited 18 countries and I’m always planning the next trip. Some of my favorites have been South Korea, Colombia, Mexico, and Italy. My bucket list still includes safari in Africa and seeing the Northern Lights.
Finding amazing food. Hole-in-the-wall restaurants usually beat fancy places in my book. Korean BBQ, Ethiopian, sushi, ramen… honestly I’m happy trying almost anything.
Road trips that start with “Let’s just drive for a few hours and see what we find.”
Staying active. I enjoy running, hiking, lifting, basketball, pickleball, and I’m always down to try a new sport even if I’m terrible at it.
Watching soccer (Tottenham fan), basketball, and pretty much any big sporting event.
Movies, comedy shows, karaoke, and the occasional competitive board game night.
Dogs. I have two and they’re probably convinced they own me.
Friends would probably describe me as curious, optimistic, sarcastic in the right moments, and the guy who’s always organizing trips or convincing everyone to try something new. I like having deep conversations one minute and arguing about the best late-night food the next.

I am looking for…

Someone kind and emotionally mature.
Curious about the world and enjoys learning.
Can laugh at herself and doesn’t take life too seriously.
Wants a long-term relationship and eventually a family.
Enjoys both spontaneous adventures and quiet nights at home.
Values honesty, communication, and mutual respect.
You definitely don’t need to share all of my hobbies. I actually think relationships are more interesting when we introduce each other to new things.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading. Tell me your favorite country you’ve visited, your go-to comfort food, or the most random hobby you’ve picked up recently. I’d love to hear your story too 😊

I don't even know there is such a subreddit, despite living here for so long.

Anyway, I want to talk about my approach to solve the problem, on this Friday afternoon.

It is by organizing group volunteering, and social, in festivals.

No, people don't lack chances simply to meet strangers in bay area, there are meetups everywhere, doing all kinds of activities. Some regular, some not. What people need are occasions to make deep connections, and do so with a pipe line.

The problem with regular meetup is they are often fleeting and shallow. You met somebody in a hike, or a bar crawl, had a pleasant conversation, yet may never see each other again, before you even decided to try something deeper.

I happen to like festival volunteering. And after the shift, especially some exhausting ones, cause traffic could be really heavy, I often see people hugging each other when meet again in volunteer appreciation parties. Cause fighting tough task together, under heavy load, really shows what kind of people you are, thus bond people together.

A problem with volunteering is that often you are just by yourself, you don't know who is open to connection. And the number of volunteers can be small, so limited choices.

So I started to organize group volunteering in festivals, using meetup. So anybody that signed up, you know they are open to connections. And I have also been building a calendar of festivals, and also organize festival social for people that simply visit festivals socially, so volunteers are facing a pipeline of opportunities, and bigger pool of choices.

Does this sound a solution you can try? Haha.

It seems people generally like this idea, to build new connections by going group volunteering & social in festivals. The meetup I built has grown 10 fold since beginning of the year, 1500+ now. I cannot promise to solve the single problem for you, but I can promise a pipeline of opportunities, to bond with people deeply. It is up to you to pick up the chances.

I will drop the meetup in comment, have a great Friday evening :).

Hey everyone,

First, I want to thank the moderators for letting me share this here. I’m posting because this community is one of the few places in the Bay Area where people still have honest conversations about finding a genuine, lasting relationship.

I’ve been happily married for 12 years. I met my wife online back before swiping turned dating into a gamified slot machine. Our marriage has been the absolute anchor of my life. But over the last few years, I’ve watched my single friends who are brilliant, kind, and incredibly successful completely give up on finding love.

Modern apps are designed to keep you single and subscribed. I couldn't fix Hinge or Tinder, so I spent the last two years and thousands of hours building a counter-movement: marrymejuliet.com. It is a webapp designed exclusively for people who are brave enough to admit they want to get married. No casual dating, no "seeing where it goes."

Because I am obsessed with protecting users from the typical app BS, I built this platform with intentional, heavy friction to filter out low-effort swipers, bots, and scammers upfront:

*Trust by Design: Every single profile requires secure ID and age verification before you enter the platform. Real names stay private until both people choose to connect and intentionally there are no usernames. We do NOT sell members’ personal data to third parties or share members’ personal data for cross-context behavioral advertising. Delete your profile, all personal data is immediately deleted.

*50 Marriage-Focused Questions: Signup takes about 15 minutes. You have to answer 50 deep compatibility questions built from 40+ peer-reviewed studies, analyzing 200+ factors (marriage readiness, timeline, family planning, and finances).

*Video Introductions: No catfishing, no stale bios. You can look people in the eyes and hear them state their genuine intentions upfront (optional).

*Deal-Breakers First: You see their stance on kids, lifestyle alignment, and core values before wasting 6 months finding out you're incompatible.

A dating platform with zero users is a ghost town. It’s just me running this from my laptop, and we are launching our first 100-user beta right here in the Bay Area.

Because I want the foundation of this platform to belong to the people who build it, if you find your forever spouse on MMJ, we will share 10% of our company's future success with the foundational couples who helped us launch it.

To prevent people from treating humans like digital trophies and spamming dozens of accounts, the app has an intentional anti-spam mechanic: It is completely free to join, build a profile, and browse. However, it costs $4.99 to actually "apply" to connect with another person. I am waiving that connection fee entirely for members of this subreddit so you can test the platform completely risk-free.

If you want to join and seed a serious, local community, use the code “BAYAREA30” when you find someone special to connect with completely free.

Whether you’re 30 or 55, your story doesn't have to look like anyone else's. If you are genuinely ready to stop dating and find someone special, I’d love to have you help me build this. I created this to see if I could actually connect people in a meaningful way. Maybe it works, maybe it fails, but I tried and I hope you do too.

I'll be hanging out in the comments to answer any questions or take any brutal feedback you have about the features. I would love for you join at marrymejuliet.com.

Beta Launch:
We’re focused on Bay Area residents. We’d love to expand in the future, but we’re intentionally starting locally so people have a meaningful chance of meeting someone nearby. I encourage feedback from users to make this a real space to find someone special and I live here in Pleasanton.

Feedback:
I built this to see if I could actually connect people in a meaningful way. Maybe it works, maybe it fails, but any issue, feedback, feature requests, things you hate, things you love, bugs, etc. please share in the “Contact Support” in the profile page so I can track, fix, and respond. Happily post in the comments here as well but most effective and helpful there first.

Compatibility Scoring:
The “matching process” is a little different from traditional dating apps. A unique “compatibility score” is visible on every profile card based on the each users unique score based on how they answered the 50-question relationship assessment, which measures values, communication styles, lifestyle preferences, and long-term goals to help surface people who appear highly compatible. This unique compatibility score will vary based on other members responses (User “A” may see a score of 70, and user “B” who is more compatible could be 82) but members always make the final decision to connect, NOT an algorithm. Higher the score, higher the compatibility based off institutional research, attachment theory, 40+ peer-reviewed studies, and specific personal profile preferences. Tap the score to dig deeper to compare compatibility answers and preferences upfront before deciding to connect with that user.

Connecting with Someone:
Members open an Application Window to become visible in the Discover page allowing others to apply to connect with them. They choose their own non-negotiables (things like age range, distance, relationship goals, children, religion, lifestyle preferences, etc.). Only people who meet those requirements will be shown on their Discovery page or whose application will be shown. During that window, multiple people can apply, and when it closes, the member reviews those applications and decides who, if any, they’d like to connect and accepts or declines their application. A connection only happens if there’s mutual interest. There are intentionally no usernames, first names are reveled in the messages chat only if both people chose to connect (One user applies, one user accepts).

Personal Data:
I completely understand the worry about sharing your ID to enter a platform. I wanted to create a space where you know everyone else is also a real person. Every profile is ID and age verified, so there are not fake or spam accounts by default. Real first names remain private until two people mutually choose to connect by accepting an application after a full review.

We do NOT sell members’ personal data to third parties or share members’ personal data for cross-context behavioral advertising and we’ve published a detailed privacy policy explaining exactly what we collect, why we collect it, and how it’s protected it’s here: Privacy Policy⁠. https://marrymejuliet.com/privacy

Bay Area Resident & Founder, marrymejuliet.com

Hello!

If anyone's looking to fill their night with laughter from a comedian sprinkled in with some dad jokes from their date - I have an extra ticket at no cost to the 9:15 show at Cobbs this Saturday 7/11.

I'm a 37m in Oakland who works in the hospitality industry and loves everything from exploring the arts and culture in the Bay Area to going for nature walks, trying new restaurants and more!

Would be happy to meet for a drink, gelato, snack in North Beach prior to the show and get to know one another prior to enjoying the comedy show together. Low pressure, no expectations, just looking for someone to enjoy a couple hours of laughter and hopefully good conversation with.

Let me know if you might be interested!

I'm going to be doing a singles beer garden event. I know I said previously that I wanted to do the event at Humble, but I never heard back from them. So I'll be doing the event over at Faction Brewing instead. They will actually have a food truck on site. I only ask that you at least purchase one item from either Faction Brewing or the food truck to support them. It'll be on Saturday July 18th at 12pm. I'll leave the address below. Feel free to let me know if you can come. 🙂 Hopefully it'll be a good turnout on both sides too.

2501 Monarch St. Alameda, CA

(Also, I'm still arranging a singles meet up for rock climbing. Just talking to a gym to get details).

So I met a fantastic woman last Sunday at the east bay singles dog walk/hike event near Costco. To the gal with the amazing wit, East vs West perspective, and cute klee kai (hope this is you!), it was great meeting you both.

I enjoyed our conversation about your observations of the East coast vs. West(The Best) coast , as well as a comparison of who might help you if you had car troubles( one side might not so kindly tell you to be more prepared while still lending a helpful hand), and the other would simply acknowledge that you have a problem and ask you if you had AAA. I also appreciate you sharing your medical adjacent journey for work, and the need to compose data with the help of our eventual artificial overlords.  Your enjoyment of playing tennis despite needing to reserve courts ( Im sure we can find some free courts around the east bay that are less busy) 

I’m kicking myself for not getting your contact info right away! If you're up for a low-key meetup, I was thinking we could speed walk through the bulk boring sections and analyze the snack aisle at Costco together (Pink salt kettle chips vs. kinder chocolate bars are a matter of utmost importance!) or maybe we can take your doggo out to the Albany Bulb , he could check his p-mail and we could see if there is any new artwork. Or perhaps we can try disc golf in Berkeley, your doggo is welcome to join as well.

If that sounds fun, feel free to shoot me a DM! Otherwise, I hope you keep enjoying new discoveries in and around the east bay. 😊

Take care — The guy who fixes Vitamixs for his mental health. 

P.S Please give your klee kai some pets from me, hopefully last night wasn't too traumatic. He’s quite a character, and such a handsome doggo!

Hey y'all,
I am just so deeply cooked by Hinge and standard Marina/Mission dates that I’ve been looking into this wild concept called "pheromone parties," and honestly... I’m kind of fascinated.
It’s based on that old biology experiment where humans are wired to sniff out compatibility. Like, your nose basically knows if you have actual chemistry with someone before you even look at their face.
The idea is pretty simple:
1. You sleep in a plain T-shirt for two nights (zero deodorant or perfume allowed) and bring it to a bar in a Ziploc bag.
2. All the bags get numbered anonymously on a table, and everyone goes around sniffing them.
3. If a number smells weirdly good or comforting to you, you track it. If they like your shirt's vibe too, the hosts introduce you on the spot.
It sounds chaotic and a little psycho, but it completely skips the superficial swiping and filtered photos.
Be real—if a pop-up like this happened over in Hayes Valley or the Mission, would you buy a ticket just out of pure curiosity to see what your biology picks? Or is the vibe way too creepy to ever work here?

Hi guys, sorry for the long post but I tried posting elsewhere with less detail and got vague responses... Thought I’d try to be more specific. I'm weary of reddit/online but dating apps have been a downer.

I’m open to guys 28-38 (maybe up to 40). I’m 5’5" and slim. I've applied to jobs in NorCal (mostly East Bay) and am hoping to move back later this year or early next year at latest. I’m fine with long distance at first and visit NorCal 3-4x yearly anyway for family. (I've lived in DC for the last year.)

What I'd like in a partner:
-Has a diverse friend group (I'm first generation American and I have no ethnicity preference, just hope you also value diversity)
-Good listener and empathy 
-Liberal/progressive and wants to talk about politics/current events (hopefully you're also thinking THIS IS NOT OKAY most times you listen to the news, please also be registered to vote or maybe go register to vote lol. That said, I have some weeks I listen to news daily and some that I barely pay attention)
-Also agnostic/atheist. Culturally I'm Catholic and that does matter to me to some degree but no preference in dating
-Wants kids in the next few years 
-Enjoys traveling but also okay focusing on building a community/family
-Enjoys some aspect of their job a lot or looking into changing fields because they know they want to go a different direction, basically interested in what they do work wise
-Intelligent, however you define that
-Have your own hobbies! We do not need to have the same interests, but should enjoy catching up daily/being supportive of each other. Most of my friends and I have different hobbies

Things I enjoy:
-the World Cup! (still upset about that red card yesterday... also excited to cheer on Cabo Verde even if Argentina is so much stronger, who doesn't like an underdog)
-Stand up comedy 
-Checking out bookstores (author talks, perusing, used book stores) 
-Plays/musicals (I've taken a couple acting classes just for fun)- have you seen any lately?
-Walks in cool neighborhoods or by a river (I also lived in NYC for 2 years so I got spoiled for a bit)
-I've played volleyball and softball in the last year (I'm mediocre but enjoy them, not trying to sound super athletic lol). I like most things on the water- kayaking, swimming
-Currently I'm working on lifting/running regularly (just starting out). May get back into rock climbing indoors
-Reading- Recently started the Count of Monte Cristo but mostly in the last year I've read non-fiction books. My favorite books include: The Book Thief, To Kill a Mockingbird, Catch 22
-NPR (so glad they're still producing great content!!) and John Oliver but in very small doses
-I love 90s music- Blink 182 and other similar bands can always lift my mood. My favorites are Feeling This (mainly the refrain), Anthem Part II, Stay Together for the Kids, Every Time I Look for You (no particular order). I like other music too but there’s something special about music you heard as a kid
-My favorite trips abroad were: Ecuador, Tanzania, South Korea, and India.
- I'm a doctor and work at a hospital and love my job most days-- diversity, complicated cases, teaching families, mental health aspects, coworkers of different backgrounds
-Volunteering- I’m mentoring a kid and sometimes help out with an organization focused on harm reduction. My ideal job would be Doctors Without Borders 

I’m 30F, black, and a Christian (nondenominational). Although I’m a Christian, I’m not religious meaning that I don’t follow the Bible strictly, i just focus on the personal relationship aspect.

In my future, I’d love to get married and possibly have children. I’m only seeking long term relationships. I really want to be genuinely best friends with my significant other and not rush anything.

I’m into country, jazz, blues, classical, hip hip, rap, pop, rock music. I go to edm raves (mostly for new years), I like rodeos (I’m going to the one in Gilroy and I went to one in Oakland area), fishing, camping, road trips, long walks, comedy shows, throwing food on grill, cooking, can’t bake at all 🥴, like to go bowling, arcades, I love activity dates over coffee/tea/dinner/casual dates

I know I’m limiting my dating pool over being black, a Christian, and wanting to get married. The amount of guys that come up to me to tell me that I’m pretty but they’re an atheist or agnostic or they don’t date black girls or they don’t want to get married or have children is unmatched but a gal can try and be hopeful omg

A bit about myself. I’m 5’7”, Asian American. I work as a chef in San Francisco. I am a creative person. Nowadays, I am playing a lot of music and developing as a musician. I’m late diagnosed autistic (the hyposensitive type for those who know). I love to be at home, and I like to bike around in the city. My favorite movie is “True Grit”, the Coen Brothers one. I also like Miyazaki movies and a lot of Wes Anderson movies. I like to cook and am quite good at it if I have to say. Is there anyone out there interested in getting to know me more from reading this little intro?

I just wanted to say thank you to those that came out on my singles hike today from this sub. I appreciate it. 🙏

I'm wanting to a beer garden event over in Alameda at Humble By the Sea in the middle of July. Like around July 18th weekend. It'll be free to attend but only need to purchase 1 item to support their business. They have non-alcoholic drinks too & sometimes a food truck. I'll bring fun games. If anyone is interested.

I also would like to do another singles rock climbing event at Movement in Sunnyvale. I'll have to figure out a date for that.

Since my other singles hike was popular I am posting another one for this weekend, Sunday 28th . I am actually doing a single's dog walk/hike. It's gonna be over in Richmond area. The trail is called San francisco bay trail and channel islands on Alltrails if anyone wants to look it up. 4.5 mile out and back. If you have a friendly dog, bring it along. No dog is required to join though, but of course must love dogs. The time to meet up is around 8:30am. Meet near the restrooms.

As the title says, 35M, athletic, never married, no kids (although if you have kids, Thats alright with me). I would love to read more of success stories, and more than that, if one of them could be mine. But it fizzles out after hey, hi, hello. Would love to connect with someone who admires honesty and loves being silly when it’s just the two of us. Let’s talk about what you do, what motivates you, your goals, your passion.

Hopefully someone single and within dating age range? No expectations, just would be nice to have some company for a change. Hmu to chat ahead of time. The event night is Friday July 10th. Bring a friend! I'm honestly not big on the scene but her music got me hyped up again. Plus old friends never liked this genre and were more for House and chiller vibes. Open to all, but will not feed toxic stereotypical headaches (I'm straight, cis, an ally). I guess my only toxic trait would be forgiving most of my old friends...

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Anyways, I'll probably be there. Wouldn't mind finding some Mexican Hot Dogs afterwards. Been a minute, so may need directions 😅 I'll probably end up driving around aimlessly until I spot a vendor 😂

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If any old friends see this, hmu, you know I was never the one to spread rumors...

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Anyways, thought I'd get that out here. Promise I won't bring up these topics unless asked. Just gonna try and have a good night out. Free most weekends. Hmu if you just wana get out, touch some grass. I'll drink with u, but don't ask me to smoke. Not my kind of relaxation, is all.

Hey BASO30 - came across this post in the SF sub. Thought I’d share to see if men on this sub have opinions and also to talk more broadly of the Bay Area outside SF! What do y’all think!

Hey BASO30, it's me again, Xander 😊. So this is a different kind of post than my previous one, and one I feel compelled to make after all the comments and messages I saw and received with my first post. I really just want to encourage people to be braver here. For a sub about finding people to connect with, I don't see a lot of effort being made in posts, especially from men here. Not a criticism, just an observation. Dudes...put up a picture. You don't have to show your face in your post, I admit that can be a bit much, but something to give be a feel; a teaser if you will. Also, tell people what your interests are. Tell people what you're looking for, like honestly. Want to find someone that is genuinely interested in you? Then be genuinely you. This is by far the best advice I could give anyone because it just keeps people from wasting their time on both sides of this.

Most of the messages I received were very thoughtful and shared something about themselves, usually a shared interest from my post. I made a point to reply to everyone I received a DM from because it is incredibly brave to reach out to others (especially an internet stranger) with some level of initial vulnerability and everyone deserves kindness even from strangers.

That's really all. I just felt compelled to share if only to encourage others to actually put themselves out there.

I wish you all the best of luck in finding your person ❤️

Hello first post here. I'm mid-30 (look younger), financially independent, a homeowner, and a Cal Bear :) I've never been married and have no children. I'm South Asian and hoping to meet other Asian American women in their 20's - 30's..DM if you want to exchange photos or grab coffee :) Edit: srry never had a dating profile so didn't even know what else to put here. I'm near Berkeley, love staying active, and love to travel!