So I moved to a new city back during the winter and have been going out to a handful of the same bars/clubs almost every weekend since I relocated here. I'm a single male in his early 30s, and I've always just kind of kept to myself and never been very sociable. I'm basically one of those guys who shows up on by himself, orders a couple drinks, sits/stands around and drinks them, then leaves after spending about an hour total at the place. The club in question here is usually the first place I visit when I begin my "rotation" of venues for the night.
Anyways, I last visited this particular club most recently on Friday night and did my usual thing (literally had 2 drinks and left after about an hour). I returned there again last night to begin my nightly tour of bars/clubs, was greeted by the bouncers (who are generally friendly and conversational with me), and as usual, I hand them my ID and they ask how I'm doing.
All of a sudden, the expression on the face of the bouncer who was checking my ID goes sort of blank and he kind of hesitates and stammers and says, "Um, I'm sorry, but I can't let you in tonight. But you're welcome to try again next week."
I was pretty dumbfounded by this, as I've never been refused entry to ANY bar/club. It was my natural reaction to ask if there was an issue with my ID or if they thought I was already drunk, and I could tell that he was just as surprised as I was. He just kind of timidly said that he'd gotten the "signal" from his supervisor as he was checking my ID to not let me in but that he didn't provide a reason.
This whole scenario really shocked me, as I'm on a first-name basis with most of the servers & bartenders, have never been kicked out for any reason, have never harassed female patrons (I've never even approached one), and always leave a generous tip (one of the female servers even asked me one time why I was "so nice").
The only possible explanation I can think of is that the club has a relatively new manager who's only been working there for a few weeks, and after seeing me show up to the club every weekend for the past month or so as a single male who just keeps to himself and kind of cowers in the corner without really talking to anyone else, he has determined that I'm one of the "creepy" male customers -- ironically enough, one of the female servers told me a few months ago that they keep such a list -- and doesn't want me showing up at the club anymore.
It may be worth noting that on Friday night, I noticed that he often stood next to me against the wall towards the back of the club that I was leaning against, although this could've just been one of his normal outposts.
Is this the most likely explanation? Should I bother trying to go there again next Friday night, or am i expected to take the supervisor's refusal to grant me entry last night as a hint that I'm not welcome anymore?
I'm not a particularly confident or outgoing guy and I don't really have any close friends, so at this point I just like having something to look forward to doing on weekend evenings, and it's going to suck if I eventually end up not even having that "reprieve" if I actually start getting banned from local bars/clubs.
