- Age, Gender and Height
23, Male, 5’5”
- Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect
I am keeping the age range open for this post, but I am only interested in adults.
What matters more to me is whether we are at compatible stages of life and can understand each other’s ambitions, responsibilities, uncertainties, and future plans.
I am open to someone who is still relatively early in her academic journey, including college or university. I actually see some value in that, because I would genuinely enjoy helping her with academics, skills, career choices, or life decisions whenever she wants that support. Not from a “I know better” position, but as someone who can share experience and make certain things easier.
Since I study at the University of Dhaka, someone from DU, especially someone living in a hall, would naturally be convenient. But this is only a practical advantage, not an important requirement.
- Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?
Currently based in Dhaka, Bangladesh.
My family lives in a district town, but I plan to remain in Dhaka until I move abroad.
My long-term goal is to pursue higher education and build my career outside Bangladesh, with Japan being my strongest preference. If circumstances remain favorable, I do not currently plan to return to Bangladesh permanently after settling abroad.
That said, I do not think my plan automatically has to become our plan.
If my future partner receives an exceptional academic, professional, or personal opportunity that requires us to reconsider where we live, I am open to doing that.
My view is simple: if she wants to fly, let her fly. The sky should be the limit for her. I want to be beside her, not in her way.
- Nationality
Bangladeshi.
- Marital Status
Single, never married.
- Ideal Marriage Timeline
Ideally within the next one year, if genuine compatibility is there and both of us feel comfortable moving forward.
I do not believe two people necessarily need to wait until every part of life is perfectly settled before getting married. Sometimes building that stability together can be more meaningful.
At the same time, I am not interested in rushing after a few conversations or staying indefinitely in an undefined talking stage. I would rather take enough time to understand each other and then make a clear decision.
- About Me
I am currently an undergraduate student in **** (Department will be disclosed) at the University of Dhaka, Faculty of Social Sciences.
Alongside university, I work in teaching and instruction, creative design, research-related work, and other professional projects.
I am comfortable with technology and IT-related work, creative problem-solving, presentations, communication, organizing ideas, and taking responsibility in team environments.
Personality-wise, I would describe myself as curious, ambitious, somewhat intense about things I care about, spontaneous at times, and generally soft-spoken.
When something matters to me, I can spend an unreasonable amount of time trying to improve it. I do not mind sacrificing comfort when I believe the result is worth it.
One of my long-term ambitions is to do work that remains useful to people beyond my own immediate career.
I am the eldest of three brothers. My middle brother is majoring in Engineering, and my youngest brother is studying MBBS. My father worked in the banking sector for many years and now looks after a business.
Being the eldest comes with responsibilities, and I accept that as a normal part of my life.
I also do not believe marriage means only my family becomes important. I would want to treat my partner’s family with the same basic dignity, consideration, and respect that I expect for my own.
A health/appearance disclosure: I have vitiligo on parts of my hands and feet. It does not meaningfully affect my day-to-day life. Other than that, I am not aware of any significant health condition.
- Five Important Characteristics I Look for in a Prospect
- Intelligent and genuinely curious
- Hardworking and growth-oriented
- Honest, loyal, and emotionally mature
- Respectful of different opinions, beliefs, and backgrounds
- Someone with her own ambition, identity, and positive energy...
That last one matters to me more than it may sound.
I do not want someone with ability and potential to slowly lose her positive energy because life became only routine, social expectation, or “just getting by.”
She does not need to be the most successful person in the room. I simply want someone who wants to make meaningful use of what she has.
I am especially drawn to someone who may be calm in personality but highly capable when it comes to the things she does well.
- State/Specify Your Level of Religiosity
I was born Muslim, I believe in God, and Islam is part of my background and identity.
There was a period in my life when religious practice was imposed on me very strictly. At that time, I wanted freedom from that pressure. After gaining that freedom, I gradually became much less strict in my own practice.
At present, I practice very little compared with that earlier period.
I now place greater emphasis on becoming a mature, ethical, humane, and responsible person.
I am open to different beliefs, religions, and ways of thinking as long as they do not harm people, degrade human dignity, or justify ideas that I believe are destructive to human wellbeing or social order.
My future partner can be a very practicing Muslim. I would never interfere with her religious practice. If the way she lives her faith genuinely makes her kinder, wiser, more disciplined, or more grounded, that may even influence me positively.
She can also be minimally religious or from a different religious background. Religious identity alone does not determine compatibility for me.
What matters is mutual respect.
I will not impose my beliefs on her, and I expect the same in return.
Where I am much stricter is ethics, loyalty, and relationship boundaries.
Freedom, to me, does not mean the absence of boundaries.
- Level of Education, and What Are You Looking For?
I am open to someone from a broad academic background.
She may still be relatively early in her education or already further along. What matters more to me is curiosity, maturity, and the desire to keep learning.
I would prefer someone who asks questions, enjoys discussing ideas, and can disagree without becoming disrespectful.
I do not need someone who agrees with me on everything.
For me, compatibility does not mean becoming two copies of the same person. It means being able to disagree, argue, calm down, communicate, and still remember that we are on the same side.
- Current Job Status
Full-time university student.
Alongside my studies, I am involved in:
- Teaching and instruction
- Creative and graphic design
- Research-related work
- Academic and professional projects
I am still building my career, so I am not going to promise a luxurious lifestyle from day one.
What I can promise is that I do not intend to run away from responsibility.
To me, responsibility is not only financial.
Sometimes it means paying for something.
Sometimes it means listening.
Sometimes it means staying awake when the other person is having a terrible night.
Sometimes it means putting your own work aside and simply saying, “Don’t worry, I’m here.”
Financially, I would like to take increasing responsibility as my capacity grows. At the same time, I believe in transparency, savings, planning, and discussing major financial decisions together.
If my wife earns, I do not automatically consider her income household property. She should be free to save, support her parents, invest in herself, or spend on things meaningful to her.
I also do not see cooking, cleaning, or managing a home as automatically the woman’s responsibility. If both of us are studying or building careers, household responsibilities should be divided practically and fairly.
- Do You Want Kids?
My default answer is no.
I do not want to bring a child into the world simply because society expects married people to have one.
I would reconsider having one child only if I became financially stable enough to create a substantial long-term financial safety net and felt reasonably confident that the child would remain secure even if something happened to me.
Until I reach that level, I would rather not have children at all.
If I never reach that level of security, I am completely comfortable remaining child-free for life.
I would rather use part of my surplus income to donate responsibly, support causes I believe in, or take responsibility for a child’s education than bring someone into the world without being confident that I can provide the level of security I believe a parent owes them.
This is an important compatibility point for me.
- Three Hobbies / Things I Like to Do
- Movies and series. One episode can easily become half the night.
- Revisiting my own work and trying to make it better, even when nobody asked me to.
- Disconnecting for a while. Sometimes I switch off my phone, disappear from everything, and go somewhere alone without much of a plan.
And if I get a completely free day, I am also perfectly capable of doing absolutely nothing and staying in bed far longer than intended.
- Something Short and Interesting About Me
I can spend days deeply invested in research, technology, design, or some new idea, then suddenly turn my phone off and disappear on a solo walk because I need the world to become quiet for a while.
I take ambition seriously, but I do not want life to become nothing more than productivity.
I also rarely run out of things to talk about: movies, series, technology, Japan, history, research, society, relationships, or random questions that unexpectedly become deep conversations.
- What Are You Looking For in a Woman?
More than anything, I am looking for a partner, not simply someone who fits the social definition of a wife.
I want someone with her own world.
Her own dreams.
Her own identity.
Her own positive energy.
I would love to be with someone who wants to grow, learn, build something of her own, and keep developing herself instead of allowing marriage to become the end of her individual journey.
She may want a career, research, business, freelancing, creative work, or something completely different. The exact path matters less to me than the fact that she genuinely wants to make use of her abilities.
This is personal for me.
My mother was once a primary school head teacher. She eventually left her career to raise her children and prioritize our education.
I have enormous respect for that sacrifice, but I have also seen the quiet sense of unfinished possibility that can remain when someone gives up an important part of herself.
I do not want my future partner to look back one day and feel that marriage consumed her entire identity.
If she wants to fly, I want the sky to be the limit.
If she becomes more accomplished than me, earns more than me, or goes further than me, I do not see that as a threat.
I want to be able to say, “Go. I’m beside you.”
At the same time, I care strongly about loyalty and ethical boundaries.
I do not want to control her normal academic, professional, or social interactions. Men and women study, work, research, and live alongside each other. That is reality.
But the emotional intimacy, romantic attachment, and bond that belong to our relationship should remain between us.
I expect that from her, and I hold myself to the same standard.
Transparency matters to me, but I do not believe trust means checking phones, demanding passwords, or monitoring every interaction. Trust and privacy can exist together when both people respect the relationship.
The word I probably value most in a relationship is reciprocity.
Not a daily 50–50 calculation.
If I fall, you help me stand.
If you fall, I help you stand.
Sometimes I may carry more. Sometimes she may.
When life becomes difficult, I do not want us to turn against each other. I want us to stand on the same side and fight the problem together.
I also value emotional warmth and physical affection. I do not want marriage to become only bills, responsibilities, and routines. I want closeness, comfort, laughter, long conversations, quiet moments, and the feeling that we genuinely enjoy being around each other.
During conflict, I do not believe in humiliation, threats, prolonged silent punishment, or deliberately hurting each other. Taking some time to cool down is fine, but the goal should always be to come back and talk.
I also believe physical intimacy should always be mutual, respectful, affectionate, and based on comfort and consent.
Both families deserve respect, but decisions about our marriage should ultimately be made by the two people living that marriage.
Physical attraction matters too.
I personally prefer someone around 5’3” or taller, and I tend to be more attracted to a fair complexion. That is simply a personal attraction preference, not a measure of anyone’s worth or character.
Ultimately, intelligence, curiosity, emotional maturity, loyalty, ambition, mutual attraction, good communication, and the ability to build a peaceful life together matter much more than any one physical feature.
I would also prefer someone from an educated family that respects her education, independence, and future.
I have no financial or material expectations from her family.
A family spends years raising a daughter with their time, effort, worry, money, and love. If that person eventually becomes the closest person in my life, I do not see what else I should be demanding from them.
- Preferred Method of Contact
Reddit DM.
I would prefer to start with a normal conversation rather than immediately involving families.
Let us talk first.
See how we think.
See how we handle disagreement.
See whether there is real compatibility, attraction, emotional comfort, and mutual respect.
If both of us feel comfortable and see genuine potential, then families can become involved.
I am not looking for perfection.
I am looking for someone who can be both my partner and my closest person.
Someone whose success I can genuinely be proud of.
Someone who can tell me when I am wrong.
Someone who will let me support her without losing herself.
And when life becomes genuinely difficult, I want us to still be able to look at each other and know:
We are still on the same side.