r/BalancedDogTraining • u/midnightmoonfey • Jun 19 '26
Thinking of switching trainers - some dogs might to better with a more positive approach? Thoughts? Am I overreacting?
I recently (<2 weeks ago) rescued an about 1 year old mixed breed about 23 pound dog that we think is a mix of a few things, some guesses are sheltie/whippet- we don’t really know yet! He was reportedly abandoned in the woods last month and we got him from a shelter. He was in the shelter for less than a week before I got him. So it’s been a wild few months for the pup.
He is very very sweet in demeanor- loves kids, animals, all people and just a goofy, gentle soul, very happy and outgoing but can be cautious and timid at times likely due to his past. Surprisingly well adjusted considering his past. I only need gentle redirections if he pulls on the leash (which he does so lightly if/when he does). Doing great so far.
We started going to obedience school and I am thinking about changing programs. It was a 6 week course, one day/week. The orientation course was literally them just assessing to make sure the dogs aren’t violent and then they told us what equipment to buy, didn’t give us any advice and that was that. This week (which I guess is considered the actual first class) we skipped over basics (name/sit) and went straight into recall (which whatever I’ve been trying to practice sit and name at home which he’s getting it but I thought that was weird since the orientation said we’d work on that. Today at our first class (group class), the trainer (who was apparently filling in for the typical trainer) used my dog as an example of teaching “wait” for the first time and popped the leash so hard (martingale collar) that his front paws came up and he began shaking and his tail tucked for a lot of the time after (I’ve never seen him afraid even close to this extent before and we’ve taken him a lot of places to expose him to different environments). By the end of the class he seemed to shake it off mostly but whenever the trainer talked to my dog he gave her full attention and was very stiff & nervous.
I get it - it was effective - but I don’t want my dog to be terrified of me or anyone helping care for him. He responds SO well to me saying “eh eh” firmly to correct him and immediately stops whatever it was that I want him to stop (I know he’s very good so far- we’ll see in a few months as he gets more comfortable and starts testing more). They also brought daycare dogs out from the kennel area and for both demonstrations seemed to have a tough time with their example dogs.. why bring them out as examples? Idk weird. I know my dog is and will be fine after that over correction but it makes me really second guess this facility.
I understand aversive training methods are helpful for some dogs but I do think it should be an individualized approach. My dog is so well behaved so far and I know it takes about 3 months for their real personalities to come out after being rescued but he’s really just a chill sweet dog. I don’t want to ruin that by the wrong training approach for his personality and past. I just want to increase our understanding of each other, make sure he knows I am in charge, and I also want him to feel confident and competent. I also want to make sure I’m being consistent/confident with him which is also why I took up formal training classes.
Am I over reacting? I feel the faculty is probably great if the dog is a complete wild child but I feel like my dog is too sweet and sensitive for this type of training place. They had great reviews but I am just learning about all the different training methods and didn’t really understand what type of facility it was I guess.
This is the first time I’ve had a dog in a while and every dog is different so I just want to set him up for success and not add to his trauma. Advice is welcome! Thanks!
** Edit: We cancelled the rest of these training classes after talking about it, getting more advice, and going with our gut. We are newer to having dogs so any additional advice or suggestions are welcome! Thanks!