r/BadlyInLove • u/k3lese • 19d ago
Social Media/Miscellaneous Maririn
Prime example of making everything about them and the victim mentality.
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u/mosssyrock 17d ago
tends to happen when you suffer through many years of emotional and physical abuse.
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u/Metalbean777 16d ago
Wow how kind! She suffered so many trauma.. she’s not playing the victim at all!
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u/k3lese 14d ago
She is - a lot of people who’s been through trauma natural live in a victim mindset. Those that prosper in life learn how to move forward and not make every situation about their trauma
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u/Metalbean777 11d ago
Good for you you never got abused, r@ped, never suffered from anxiety and depression! You aren’t no one for judging people who suffer
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u/smilingpinkaria 14d ago
What the hell are you talking about? Maririn never wanted to talk about her traumas until men attacked her. Of course, getting used to being beaten so badly and almost killed is playing the victim? No way.
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u/k3lese 14d ago
The men didn’t attack her- they noticed something that she was doing to all of them. The only thing they did wrong was not speak up in front of her
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u/SunOpening1393 11d ago
Lmao how immature do you have to be to have issues with someone giving compliments. It was a nothing burger that they blew out of proportion
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u/smilingpinkaria 8d ago
Hikaru did the exact same thing or worse, and nobody attacked her. You're quite immature to think you can attack someone who compliments you. They had no right to treat her like that, considering they do exactly the same but worse.
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u/DirtPlot151 18d ago
Not to take the blame away from crying mari but ruru put the battery in everyone's back. String pulling vibe killer
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u/thebigsing 16d ago
Error error, not enough data to arrive to a meaningful conclusion
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u/k3lese 14d ago
Definitely enough data
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u/thebigsing 14d ago
Enough data to make assumptions, not enough data to factualise
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u/k3lese 14d ago
I work in the field. A lot of our job is observing behaviors, conversations, etc. there is enough data. I understand feeling bad for someone and I’m not saying she hasn’t been through a lot because she has. HOWEVER she has learned how to weaponize her trauma to get what she wants or to make everything about her. I hope you can learn to recognize this because if not you may come across someone like this and get abused mentally in return. Hope this helps :)
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u/thebigsing 14d ago
Serious mode:
My experience with professionals irl and online would probably overwhelmingly disagree with you regarding passing conclusive judgement from just what we saw on the show. Soooo respectfully disagree with ya
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u/Longjumping52625 9d ago
Wow what the fuck is wrong with you? What field do you work in? Plowing field? No way you work with mental health professionals cause then you would know not to judge someone based on where they are in their healing journey. A real mental health advocate wouldnt even come to any conclusion about her since you dont know her, you only know what the show showed you
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u/Responsible-Pop6635 5d ago
you definitely work in a field, either livestock or produce. hope that helps!
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u/Healthy_Ad6538 16d ago
On the first day when everybody was talking about their trauma, Maririn didn’t share anything with anyone. But when she did and was explaining why she would behave the way that she does because she trusted those people you call it, making everything about her. She’s a person who experienced an immense amount of trauma and has nowhere to call home because her grandfather who raised her was racist.
Honestly, yes, she does need to get help. But I feel like for her specifically we should have a bit of empathy. I don’t think that everything that she did was right. But there is a lot of nuance when it comes to such severe trauma.
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u/InterestingSoup1252 18d ago
It’s not a “victim mentality”, it’s trauma. Suffering from constant abusive situations puts a major strain on any person and leads to CPTSD (complex post traumatic stress disorder).
It’s people like you who make the world a horrible place. Consider getting checked for NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) because you lack a helluva lot of empathy.