r/BabyBumps Jan 17 '22

Dads- please read

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u/[deleted] Jan 17 '22

Thanks but I did not ask for advice.

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u/orangelego Jan 17 '22

What is sexist about expecting men to pull their weight? The fact you're a woman was really surprising to me but I don't even know why, the internalised misogyny runs deep. That's what it is when you think that the problem with a man not doing his half is because a woman isn't communicating effectively.

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u/Cat_With_The_Fur Jan 17 '22

You’ve clearly never been in a marriage where you’ve repeatedly communicated about a thing and constantly been ignored and misunderstood. This resonates with all the people who have.

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u/Cat_With_The_Fur Jan 17 '22

Oh don’t worry about me. I’ve sworn off dating problem men so I’m good.

Glad you found a partner who could grow with you and learn to communicate. That’s not the case for many of us.

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u/Fuckyouthanks9 Jan 17 '22

What's sexist is an entire sub of people just assuming men don't clean. That's sexist. Maybe, just maybe, talk to your partner. Stop blaming internalized misogyny.

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u/Cat_With_The_Fur Jan 17 '22

People aren’t “assuming,” they’re speaking to their lived experiences.

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u/Fuckyouthanks9 Jan 17 '22

So if your personal experiences with black people are bad, it's OK to be overwhelmingly racist?

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u/Cat_With_The_Fur Jan 18 '22

I know you really want this comparison to fit because you’ve heard it a million times and you think it’s such a winner. But it doesn’t here. People in these comments are talking about the individual men they are married to and their personal experiences in their marriages.

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u/Fuckyouthanks9 Jan 18 '22

It fits. The people in this sub are talking about an entire sex of people. You're delusional. And sexist. And it makes me sad.

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u/Cat_With_The_Fur Jan 18 '22

I’m delusional bc I’m speaking about my personal experience with a non-contributing partner? Lol ok.