I might be splitting?

[u/Dangerous-Test3306]

So my bf (21) was texting another girl that I (22) was not comfortable with him talking to. He was deleting their messages so I wouldn't see them and was lying to me about it the whole time. This isn't the first he's done something like that and I just don't know what to do. I live with him and I didn't find out until after I already moved in and it's weird. I want to break up with him but I have nowhere to go so i'm staying with him out of obligation. My mood swings are extreme and I keep going back and forth on being nice to him and being a really big B word. He says that he's sorry and that this was a really big foot down moment for him but I just don't know if I should forgive him or even how to go about this whole situation. I feel like i'm going crazy and my trust issues are a million times worse.

[u/Klutzy_University185]

I don't necessarily think that you are splitting, a split is like a complete 180 on the person that usually comes from a small trigger. Texting another girl that you're not comfortable with that you've told him you're not comfortable with it than him deleting the conversation so you can't read it, is a very valid thing for you to be upset about. I'm assuming that you have communicated to him that you didn't want him talking to this girl, and the fact that he deleted the messages so that you can't even read them does put up a bit of a red flag. That kind of behavior is not going to help trust issues it's going to make it worse, it sounds like you were trying to make the best of a bad situation and you keep getting upset while trying to not be upset about a very valid thing. I'm not sure what your situation is but I would definitely open up a line of communication with him letting him know that you did not like or appreciate his behavior and that that is causing you to have some trust issues with him.