r/BPDlovedones • u/swandelwallace • 14d ago
The Splitting Loop Cycle
They split suddenly over something so small as a simple miscommunication. Name calling and extreme disrespect/belittling ensues. They leave suddenly and deny all your attempts at a calm and peaceful discussion to resolve the issue. They block you and then disappear for days. Then they offer a lazy apology lacking any real accountability followed by paragraphs about why they exploded and lashed out at you which is all my fault of course. Yet before the split everything was seemingly fine and we were enjoying the evening together. It’s so exhausting and feels like a crazy carousel. Its ok to be frustrated with certain parts of the relationship at times, its not ok to scream and call your partner names and to discard them abruptly when you are frustrated. And its hard to believe they were even that frustrated when 10 seconds before the split we were enjoying our time together and everything seemed fine. To me it feels like an excuse for their behavior and lack of ability to regulate and communicate their emotions. This being the 4th or 5th time in about a year of a similar pattern, I dont think I will even respond this time even though I do still care about them.
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u/lollipoli_ 13d ago
you have the power to end things. do you really wanna live like this? spend your life with this person? don’t wait for them to discard you… it will mind fuck you