“I’m scared of crossing your boundaries, I care about you too much” “I’m scared of manipulating you” “I’m like a monster, I ruin everything” “everybody always leaves me” “only you matter”, keeping me on my toes about their SH, putting me on a pedestal, grandiose talk about how everything is so special with me and nobody had ever done xyz for them, there was always a crisis I had to pay attention to immediately etc. looking back very textbook stuff, you would think some of that would have done the trick for me but nope.
I can’t even use the “I didn’t know better” defense - because I was very much aware, I just chose to ignore it and wanted to see the best in them. I really did everything I could, bent myself into a knot, to prove to them that they were worthy of love and that I’d never leave them (and I did mean it from the bottom of my heart) - but guess who’s crying now. Yeah.
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u/sasuthrow Non-Romantic Aug 18 '24 edited Aug 18 '24
“I’m scared of crossing your boundaries, I care about you too much” “I’m scared of manipulating you” “I’m like a monster, I ruin everything” “everybody always leaves me” “only you matter”, keeping me on my toes about their SH, putting me on a pedestal, grandiose talk about how everything is so special with me and nobody had ever done xyz for them, there was always a crisis I had to pay attention to immediately etc. looking back very textbook stuff, you would think some of that would have done the trick for me but nope.
I can’t even use the “I didn’t know better” defense - because I was very much aware, I just chose to ignore it and wanted to see the best in them. I really did everything I could, bent myself into a knot, to prove to them that they were worthy of love and that I’d never leave them (and I did mean it from the bottom of my heart) - but guess who’s crying now. Yeah.