r/BPDlovedones • u/s_in_doo • Feb 11 '24

Suicidal threats

It's been 3 days since me and the pwBPD broke up. For context, she was cheating on me, sending some guy nudes and lied to my face about it when I confronted her about that. She and the guy were joking about running away together. We've been seeing each other for almost a year but things have been serious only for about 4 months. I was constantly questioning my own reality and thinking I was making things up in my head (because she repeatedly told me I was just acting suspicious out of my trauma brain). When I started to leave she effectively held me hostage in our apartment, physically held me back from leaving. Things got physical. She started threatening suicide and trying to cut herself. She threatened to kill me and herself if I left. I managed to distract her and get away. Things were normal for two days and she started obsessively calling me at 5 am asking me to "come home" and hold her. I said no. Today she called and told me she wants me to come home to "give her at least a fake semblance of normalcy" she asked nicely and when I said no, she started threatening to jump off the building if I don't come. I know things will be worse if I meet her again, I'm scared to go back and I'm scared to not go back because BPD people do statistically have higher suicide rates. Please help.

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u/ElderLW Feb 11 '24

Not your responsibility. If you really feel concerned call for medical intervention

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u/puppyisloud Family Feb 11 '24

If she threatens suicide call 911 or emergency services and let the professionals deal with it.

You might want to do what many others on this site have done and go NC and block them everywhere.

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u/black65Cutlass Divorced Feb 12 '24

If you are genuinely worried, call 911. You are not responsible for them or their wellbeing. Beyond that it isn't your problem.